Social Question

Ranimi23's avatar

Why do girls play with their hair near men?

Asked by Ranimi23 (1872 points ) November 15th, 2009

Do you know this situation? I know more than one girl that always plays with their hair when talking to me. Is this kind of a flirt or just a girls game?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

25 Answers

poofandmook's avatar

sometimes it’s a nervous habit, or a way of saying, “hey, isn’t my hair pretty? Maybe you’d like to touch it?” lol… usually nervous or flirty.

Sometimes it’s just plain vanity. depends on the girl.

elijah's avatar

It may be a sign of flirting, but it may also just be a nervous habit. It may also be a sign of her being uncomfortable.
Look at her other actions and body language. Is she smiling and acting cute? She’s flirting.

RareDenver's avatar

Could Well Be In – The Streets

Cause her last relationship fucked her up.
Got hurt majorly, finds it tough to trust.
Looked at the ashtray, then looked back up,
Spinning it away on the tabletop.
She looked much fitter than Saturday just.
She worked in JD’s with dan.
Back then I figured she was pretty damn rough,
But she was only wearing her work stuff.
And in these clothes she looked more than buff,
She stirred her straw, sat up to adjust.
I told her I thought it was important,
That you could get lost in conversation.
Chattin shit, sittin in, oblivion
With that person who’s your special one.
She said she was the worst pool player under the sun,
But blokes go easy so she always won.

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen
She’s playing with her hair, well regularly,
So I reckon I could well be in.

She didn’t look too bored with what I was saying.
Her hair looked much better than the other day.
She had her fingers ‘round her hair, playin’.
I Saw on the telly that’s a good indication.
She didn’t offer to buy the next drink though, “Nay.”
Suppose that’s just our girl’s way.
I’m trying to think what else I could say,
Peelin’ the label off, spinning the ashtray.
Yeah actually, yes, she did look pretty neat.
Her perfume smelled expensive and sweet.
I felt like my hair looked a bit cheap,
Wished I’d had it cut back last week.
She kept giving me this look, cause she would speak.
Was she only friendly, or was she a keep?
Asked her if she wanted the same again to drink.
Started to turn and get up out my seat.

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen
She’s playin with her hair, well regularly,
So I reckon I could well be in.

She said that her close mates all were
Always the most important thing to her.
I said I thought it was a bit more blurred.
She asked what I meant by that as she stirred.
I told her about the money and what had occurred
With it going missing from the living room, so.
With my best mates all there standing by,
Right where I left it, under their eyes.
So surely one of them might have spied
What happened to my money at that time.
I felt like they were all smiling on the side.
She was like “fair play” she couldn’t say why.
She didn’t know what all my mates were like.
And I said she just might be right.
Wish I had someone I could always rely,
Someone to get lost chattin to all night.

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen
She’s playin with her hair, well regularly,
So I reckon I could well be in.

As I walked back with more drinks to our place,
She had her phone stuck to the side of her face.
I sat for a minute while she chatted away
‘bout somethin with her mom and her birthday.
Played for a bit with the same ashtray,
Thought about things while I sat and waited.
It was nice to chat about the shit in my head,
Someone who just listens to you instead.
I looked at the barman, wiping down again,
Looked at the football on the TV set,
Trying to look like I weren’t just waiting there
For her conversation to come to an end.
I look at my watch and realized right then
That, for three hours, been in conversation.
Before she put her phone down, she switched to silent,
And we carried on chattin for more than that again.

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen
She’s playin with her hair, well regularly,
So I reckon I could well be in.

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen
She’s playin with her hair, well regularly,
So I reckon I could well be in.

knitfroggy's avatar

I have a nervous habit of messing with my hair. When it’s long I’m forever winding a curl around my finger. Now that it’s short I always run my fingers in it to make sure it’s sticking up just right. You could probably tell if they were flirting with you more by what they were saying than what they are doing with their hair.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Oh, she could well be keen, except if hair twirling is a nervous habit.

@Ranimi23, there are more dependable signals of interest women put out, such as this kind of a look, how she stands when talking to you (it’s toward you and closer than normal, BTW), touching your upper arm lightly and repeatedly when talking to you and so on. Hair flipping is not a very good indicator of flirting. It can be a flirting signal, but it depends on everything else happening in that moment.

Really. ITV? I never thought The Streets was the sort who watched ITV, or any TV. That’s almost like saying he saw it on FOX. :P

tandra88's avatar

You mean men right? LOL. Because, “mans” is incorrect English.

That’s because they could be nervous, or trying to flirt with you. If they bat their eyelashes while talking to you and are playing with their hair, then they’re flirting.

Ranimi23's avatar

MENS :-(
Sorry for the mistake :-(

sjmc1989's avatar

I twirl my hair because its a habit but i do suppose some woman do it for attention.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Some think that’ll get their attention
they’re wrong

xshortiex's avatar

mostly just out of habit. i always play with my hair when im chatting to guys. doesnt mean i like them, i dont even realise im doing it most of the time, if your not sure, look out for other signals. body language, eye contact etc. trust me, youll be able to tell.

rangerr's avatar

Men is plural by itself.. almost got it.

Dog's avatar

Question has been edited.

rangerr's avatar

I can’t edit my answer to remove it.

chyna's avatar

I play with my hair out of habit. If I’m doing it around a guy and he thinks I’m flirting, well, that’s ok too.

Shegrin's avatar

How does twirling your hair become a habit? It would have to have a trigger…something that made you do it the second time…did someone comment that it was cute, thereby prompting you to do it again, thus becoming habit? Or is it soothing, like the way my son kicks his mattress because the vibration puts him to sleep? I am curious about this debate because I have long hair, but never twirl it in a flirtatious way.

sjmc1989's avatar

@shegrin I’ve twirled my hair since I was a toddler I assume it was like thumbsucking it soothed me and I’ve worked in daycares and I have seen several children doing this. I mainly do it now when I’m daydreaming and driving.

Shegrin's avatar

@sjmc1989 Interesting. Fascinating, really. People’s mechanisms for comfort are so diverse…

sjmc1989's avatar

@Shegrin Oh yes definitely another one I do is rub my feet together until I fall asleep in a massaging kind of way my mother does the same thing.

chyna's avatar

@Shegrin I doodle a lot when I’m in meetings and have pen and paper, so when I don’t have pen and paper and need to do something with my hand, I play with my hair. It’s not constant and it’s not every day.

majorrich's avatar

Hey! up here! those are boobs!

evegrimm's avatar

It’s one of my nervous habits as well; as my hair has gotten longer, I find myself playing with it more. It’s a good idea for me, because since I play with my hair, I no longer have my hands on my face. Fewer breakouts = win.

However, if I’m near a guy and am twirling my hair, it’s a nervous habit. I never learned how to flirt. :D

Lorenita's avatar

I’ve heard it’s a flirt thing.. I’ve found myself doing it without even realizing!

Brenna_o's avatar

Sometimes ill twirl my hair out of pure habit.. Other times ill twirl my hair to get the guys looking at my face and not my boobs..
It is a nervous habit for alot of girls ive noticed though..
And the girls who twirl their hair to flirt should be smacked because that is seriously a very immature way to flirt I think… There are much better ways than twirling your hair… Get creative lol.

GrumpyGram's avatar

If my memory serves me correctly, it’s from nervousness. Haven’t done it in Years. lol

Response moderated (Writing Standards)

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther