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What do I do in this situation after fighting with a fellow employee?

Asked by Justnice (923points) November 19th, 2009 from iPhone

So I had a fight at work with another woman. She was saying really awful things about me and I confronted her. At first she denied it but later admitted to saying the awful things. So one thing led to another and we ended up fighting. Luckily neither of us got fired. But she is still saying awful things about me. I don’t want to start trouble with her because I don’t want to lose my job so what should I do??

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faye's avatar

Ignore her. I judge the speaker of the horrible things and I bet I’m not alone.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Ignore her. If it reaches the point of harassment – which doesn’t take long – go to a boss and tell them what she’s saying is starting to compromise your ability to work, because it’s creating an unstable and uncomfortable working environment. That’s actually what you should have done in the first place… tsk, tsk… But whatever you do, do not let it escalate again. It’s up to your superiors to resolve the situation. By you doing your best to ignore it, it will show that you have a much more professional work behavior than she does.

I don’t know many work places that wouldn’t have fired both of you on the spot for getting into a physical fight, so consider yourself lucky.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

The best thing you can do is not make a bad situation worse by escalating the dispute.
You’re in enough trouble if the fight you’re talking about was a physical fight.
You’re there to work. Be a professional and continue to do what you’re paid to do and you’ll be in good shape.

warka1's avatar

apologies, then maybe do something together like going out to lunch. to kind set your difference a side little bit.

Justnice's avatar

Yea that isn’t going to happen. The fight was very much physical and I can’t even look at her without wanting to knock her out. Which is why it’s driving me crazy that she’s still talking about me

augustlan's avatar

Wait. Grown women get into physical fights? Holy crap I’m boring.

If this was a physical fight, who started it? If she touched you first, you may have grounds to file assault charges against her. Regardless, report the continued behavior to your boss and ignore her at all costs.

mammal's avatar

People fight, that’s a fact of life, you don’t sack them on the spot, terminate their livelihood purely on that basis. That is nonsense, the workplace can be a nasty and provocative enviroment. If things are allowed to get this bad then. Really the managment should be sacked.

Justnice's avatar

I gotta say that I hit her first but she provoked me. My boss gave us both final warnings. I’m glad I didn’t get fired but my boss is still an asshole because I told her about the problems before and she did nothing about it. My boss was talking about me too with this other girl. Which is why she didn’t fire me because she knows that she’d get in trouble too. So I just accepted the warning but now this girl is still saying things about me. If I tell my boss she won’t do anything about it. I guess I could talk to the administrator but then again I don’t wanna get anybody fired!

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