General Question

lostinyoureyes's avatar

How do you know if you love yourself enough?

Asked by lostinyoureyes (1051 points ) November 20th, 2009

So much of what we feel about others is often a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. How we relate to others shows how we relate to ourselves. How much we love others… you get the idea.

I’m trying to love myself so I can finally let people in, so I won’t put as much judgment on others as I do myself, so I can truly be myself. How do I do this? How do I know when I’m close to achieving it?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

22 Answers

Response moderated
lostinyoureyes's avatar

@jaketheripper – Thanks for the that >:(

dpworkin's avatar

You don’t have to make a chore out of it; just be nice to yourself, give yourself the benefit of the doubt, and don’t punish yourself for misdeeds that you can’t take back. Just resolve to behave better the next time.

Garebo's avatar

You will know when people want to be with you. It’s all about energy-people love happy energy and people hate negative energy-I should know.
The old Clapton song “Nobody knows you when you are down and out” is so true.
My only recomendation is from another great song by Blind Faith, “Do what you like”.

filmfann's avatar

calluses

SeventhSense's avatar

1–2 times a day is fine 5–10 times and you might be loving yourself too much.

lostinyoureyes's avatar

Crap I didn’t realize the innuendos in my question.

SeventhSense's avatar

No you’re question is fine, we’re just twisted

I think the answer can definitely not be found in others but in your acceptance of yourself in any condition. For me it’s not having to justify my self to find approval, excuse myself for feeling awkward or for having any feeling for that matter. But when I’m not accepting, tolerating and forgiving others for the same frailties, emotions or foibles, then I’m not loving myself but being arrogant.

Garebo's avatar

Your always arrogant what would you do without it-just kidding.

SeventhSense's avatar

Naa I’m just cocky and funny…
as my papa used to say, it’s hard to be humble when you’ve got everything. :):

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

@SeventhSense that’s why he parked his car on the street, his garage was full.

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

to answer your question, what is your first thought when you look at your face in the mirror? That’s a pretty good indication of how much you accept yourself for who you are.

Garebo's avatar

@Psychedelic Zebra: I’d say I need to go to McDonald’s immediately because I am hungry
And you must be following that mumbo jumbo..

YARNLADY's avatar

I can answer from the back side (i.e. not enough) If you get bored easily, feel lonely a lot, have a hard time making friends, you don’t love yourself enough. If you don’t have any of these issues, and you feel comfortable just being yourself, not always wishing you were something different – then you probably love yourself enough.

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

@Garebo I have no mumbo or jumbo to follow, your reply is non-sequitor. Please confirm that you have applied the proper logic to your answer, or try your answer again. This has been a recording.

Garebo's avatar

i don’t answer to recordings.

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

Then I’d say we are even.

Garebo's avatar

I wouldn’t go that far.

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

okay, fine, I’ll wait for you to catch up.

augustlan's avatar

I never really looked at it as loving myself, just accepting myself… warts and all. You’ll know because it will be a huge weight off your shoulders, and you’ll breathe a sigh of relief. You’ll feel comfortable in your own skin, and at peace with yourself. This is not to say that I always feel like that, but for the most part I do. For me, it took a lot of therapy to get to that point. I hope your journey is easier, but even if it isn’t… it will be worth every minute.

mattbrowne's avatar

If you can forgive yourself eventually of mistakes made in the past.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther