"Who will cry when you die?"?

My family will cry and…and…crap I need to go make friends.

Family and friends, but, mostly family. I think for some, it will hit them pretty hard as they were assholes throughout my life and, maybe, then they’ll be feeling it once I’m gone. Who knows.

Wow, what a depressing question. Off to cry in my homemade lobster bisque.

It all depends on when you die.

There is a relationship of age:sadness at death.

If you die young, it takes people by surprise and causes more sadness.

If you die at an old age, people will be sad, but death at an old age is the norm.

Anywhere in between, it’s a sliding scale.

my family and the few good friends that I have.

I’m not sure, but I hope they’re looking in the mirror when they do.

If I were to die today my family would take it the hardest, especially my mother. But if I died when I was 85, most of my family would be gone already so mostly friends would be crying and my children. And of course my fiancé.

Just family and friends, I’m not Elvis or JFK.

It’s easy for people to say only a few select people will be upset by your death, but really people affect far more people than they expect. Even a person who thinks no one cares about them will be missed by someone, somewhere.

I come from a fairly small community, and in the 3–4 years there have been about 6 teen/young adult suicides. Of course, the fact that these were young people who took their own lives causes sadness on its own, but it was amazing to me how many people came together after each off these deaths. Even in the case of a boy who pretty much kept to himself and didn’t seem to have many friends, practically the whole community came to the memorial service or gave condolences to the family in some way. Heck, I barely knew the kid and I cried about it.

Similarly, when my grandparents died, many people who I didn’t even know came to their memorial services. They lived long lives and most of their family and friends had already passed on, but there were plenty of people still around who cared enough to shed a tear.

My husband, son, parents and step-parents, parents-in-law, older brother, younger brother and sister (I have 2 other siblings I don’t think would cry), members of my religious community, some close coworkers, maybe a neighbor or two… I don’t have many friends outside of those groups. I’m probably vastly underestimating, though.

I had a neighbor who was murdered in her driveway (feet from my front door) and I cried for her and her family when I found out. I barely even knew her.

No one.

I am the youngest of 4.

I have two nephews, so they might be there. But my sister does not seem to see the value of family outside her own.

my best friends.

Devo will cry when I die: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNfkNuTLttw

Three people are likely to cry. I can’t be sure about any others. A number of other people would probably be sad, but I only think two or three would cry. I think a few more people might miss me—at least for a while, but pretty soon they would find people to replace me, and I’d be forgotten pretty soon after that. Maybe to be remembered on occasion when people were reminiscing, or possibly on the anniversary of my death.

The only people who cry, I think, are those who had daily contact with you and had a significant investment in their relationship with you. That’s assuming they cry at all.

@proXXi I wouldn’t count on it. I don’t think the guys in Devo are going to be around much longer.

probably, a few friends and my family…

@colliedog But.. They said… : (

I always visualize my funeral with my parents there, but then I remember that [hopefully] they won’t be around for it. I hate this thought :(

Lots of people will cry

I’m actually looking forward to death. I couldn’t imagine having to spend forever down here. But then again, if theres something after and its not all its cracked up to be, I couldn’t really imagine spending forever foating around on fluffy clouds with nothing to do. Maybe thats why we end up back here. In a perpetual cycle of boredom and misery.

Is it creepy that I’ve thought of who would go to my funeral and how they would act? i caught myself thinking about it and I’m like… WTF and i doing?!

My husband and daughter. My parents and grandparents if they are still around when I go. I honestly think only a couple of friends would, but I could be wrong. Death affects people strangely sometimes. If I died now, I think several of the ladies in my moms’ club would cry – mostly because it would be a shock and make them think about the possibility of it happening to them while their kids are still young.

@ParaParaYukiko That is a lot of suicides in a short amount of time! Is there something about the area where you live?

Jesus wept.

@Supacase I know, it’s a terrible tragedy. My town is pretty isolated and certainly can be depressing (I couldn’t wait to leave for college), but… 6 suicies seems really excessive. I wish I could pinpoint the reason for all of this death but I just don’t get it myself.

If my parents are alive they will cry, and my aunt on my mothers side. My sister, my husband, and my 3 closest friends from college. Probably also my friend and business partner.

When young people die of suicide, that’s a special circumstance, and the whole community feels like they failed. They come together ostensibly to mourn the child who died, but also to mourn their own loss of innocence and to deal with their own guilt. If the young person had died of natural causes, I don’t believe there would be nearly so many people out there, crying.

I also think that the number of people at a funeral really depends on the ties to the community. If you don’t have strong ties, then it’ll only be close relatives who show up. If you’re not the kind of person to make friends, then I don’t think you’ll have a huge entourage at the memorial.

Sure, I’ve seen the long funeral processions running the red lights. Sometime it seems like 50 or 100 cars. But I’ve also seen the processions that pass through the intersection in one green light. Personally, I’d rather disappear from view rather than have people mourn me. I want to climb out on one of those ice flows, and drift off to my frozen death. I don’t even want people to know I’m gone. Although, I suppose it doesn’t matter since once I’m gone, I won’t know what happens. I take it back. I just want to live until I die. What happens after that is not my concern.

No one would cry, a lot of people would be happy I’m gone I’ve made sure of that lol, I doubt anyone would miss me… but I’ll be dead so it wouldn’t matter

I have a sad feeling that no one will be there to cry for me. My parents will be gone, I’m not having kids, hubby will probably be gone, I can’t count on my sibs to be there for a number of reasons…

I don’t think anyone would cry for me but that’s okay. I won’t be around anyway to see it, nor would I want. As long as I am comfortable, dry, and my pain is managed, I am good to go.

Well, I cried a little when my friend’s mother died, and I didn’t know her very well. Yes, it’s because it brought back memories of when my dad died, so it was partially my own sadness and partially sadness for my friend, and not necessarily because I would miss his mother. But that doesn’t mean that it wasn’t real crying due to her death. I think that when someone dies, people who they didn’t even know cry because of it.

To answer the question, I think that all my living family members will cry, as will a lot of my friends, and probably other people I know know but who know my family or friends and feel for their loss. It would depend on when, I suppose. The unexpected death of a young person is met by more tears from strangers than it would be if I died at 95 after a long and productive life, you know? Sadness at the death of a young person is part fear.

My family, all the way down to my great-grandkids (when the time comes). If my adult grandsons get started any time soon, I might even have great-great grandkids there, since I plan on celebrating my 100th birthday – at least – in 33 years and 52 days.

the people who have hurt me.

Friends and family.

all my police partners. all my cooking clients. all my church members. all my family members. church would be packed to about over 500 i guess.

I’m pretty sure this is the most depressing question of the day….

oh and probably my ex-wife. ok, 501.

Most of my close family, my older sister, parents and my favorite sibling my brother. My little sister she would celebrate and probably dance on my ashes, she hates me but the feeling in mutual sometimes. My four close friends would cry and maybe some people from girlscout, key club, bowling and tennis.

SIGH, JUST ABOUT EVERY ONE…..

jk. my family. my friends. my jew. probably people i’m not that close with but went to school with, because the death of a young person is always kind of like “wow” to you…even if you didn’t know them well.

My Family and friends will.

My family and friends.My unborn baby and my husband(although he thinks that he is to man)

@redneckgirl congratulations on the new baby to be keep us informed

My aunt and some of my friends..well, maybe.

I know someone who got me real good will be dancing on my grave.

@daloon Nobody is going to dance on your grave. NOBODY.

No one, but on the plus side, there should be a few parties.