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Do you think she wants to be more than a friend?

Asked by Xann009 (874 points ) December 17th, 2009

I am friends with this girl, and she’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met. I’m also on pretty good terms with her new boy friend. However, she’s constantly asking to come over to my house and go get meals together. She’s also a lot more touchy-feely than I think our friendship warrants. I could just be overreacting, I’m not a touchy-feely person. I’m probably over-thinking it, I have a tendency to do that, but it’s incredibly awkward for me and I don’t really know how to respond to it. I’m not really sure if I’m just a friend to her or more. I also don’t want to start anything between her and her boyfriend. What are your thoughts?

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MarthaStewart's avatar

She sounds lovely, you sound dreadful. Say goodbye to her and lock your doors, you’ll have a nice time by yourself for the next 60 years.

danbambam's avatar

Yeah she’s totally into you.

If your on good terms with her boyfriend .. I wouldn’t risk it… but I would bring it up to her.

“Listen, I know we’re friends and you have a boyfriend and everything, but I’m getting the vibe that your interested in something more and (a. I don’t think that’s fair to your boyfriend) or (b. I would be interested if you didn’t have a boyfriend). Am I just over thinking it?”

It’s simple :)

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Have you noticed that she’s like that with other people, or is it just you? If you’re not comfortable with it, you should tell her so.

cornbird's avatar

That girl likes you definitely… you need to watch yourself

Xann009's avatar

@PandoraBoxx As far as I can tell, no. I’ll have to say something, eventually.

@MarthaStewart She is awesome, and maybe I am. I want to be a good friend to her, and don’t want to start anything between her and her boyfriend. Am I such a devil?

PandoraBoxx's avatar

I think you sound very charming.

deni's avatar

YOU ARE NOT A DEVIL, @Xann009…this is not abnormal in the slightest. at least you are being considerate of her having a boyfriend!

YARNLADY's avatar

Yes, I do. Talk to her and you will agree.

Silhouette's avatar

@MarthaStewart Ouch! Penalty for unnecessary roughness 15 yards.

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