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(Adult, NSFW) What is a sexual act you have not done yet, that you want to try?

Asked by Violet (6589points) December 19th, 2009

Where did you learn about the act you want to try? Why do you want to try it? Why haven’t you tried it? What is holding you back?

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Zen_Again's avatar

My answer is DP with @Violet and tattoo girl. This offer expires next weekend.

Violet's avatar

@Zen_Again – I do not think I can convince my bf by next weekend : (
I told him I’d have a FFM, if he has a MFM.. but I don’t think I’ll ever get to do that. I can if one if a dildo though..

jackm's avatar

FFM
Anal (not sure about that one, there seems to be a lot of hype though.)

Violet's avatar

@jackm – are you male? If yes, let me give you a piece of advice, do not get mad if a person you are in a serious relationship denies your request for an FFM. Don’t pressure her. Back on AB, guy would ask all the time how to get their wife/gf to do FFM after they said no. I think your best bet is to find 2 fairly random drunk sluts. I once had an FFM with a stripper.

jackm's avatar

@Violet
Yes I am male. I have no hopes of it and am never mad when a partner doesn’t want to. I don’t want a threesome with another male.

I think ill go with the sluts idea. Or stripper.

Violet's avatar

@jackm – if you are in a relationship, and you ask for a FFM, it is only fair for her to ask for an MFM.

UScitizen's avatar

Anal is far too much hype. Not worth the trouble. Don’t focus on it.

jackm's avatar

@Violet
Yeah, thats why I said I am not surprised when people reject the idea.

Violet's avatar

@UScitizen – are you male or female? How many times have you tried it? How many people have you tried it with?

UScitizen's avatar

@Violet M three times, two people (F), Why? Did I do it wrong? Any advice will be appreciated.

Violet's avatar

They must have been doing it wrong. I have heard nothing but great things about the P-spot. Try reading up on the male anal orgasm, or the P-spot. I don’t know what you used, but it only takes a finger or 2, or a small male anal dildo. It would be best to start while a women is give oral to you, and don’t even go in the bum until you are right about to cum. She can not shove anything in there, and a ton of lube too. She should be using so much lube, it is dripping off her fingers/toy. She can even apply a bunch right on you (but also on the fingers/toy). Try reading over this site http://male-pspot.com/

dpworkin's avatar

I have had a long and varied sexual life, and the older I get the less I am interested in novelty, and the more I find sex to be a simple expression of love between myself and my girlfriend.

I’m not sorry about anything I’ve done in the past, but nor do I have an urge to repeat it.

Violet's avatar

@pdworkin – ok, but you didn’t answer the question.

dpworkin's avatar

I have tried to think of one, to no avail. But there is also little I haven’t tried. Certainly FFM and MMF were part of my ordinary repertoire. I have always liked sex, and sex has always liked me. I’m lucky I was sexually active long before AIDS, but after the Pill.

BBSDTfamily's avatar

My morals hold me back.

UScitizen's avatar

Carnal knowledge below the surface of the ocean.

jackm's avatar

Mile high club.
Sex outside during the day.

Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

As many of you know, I am a gay woman who was once married many years ago. I have been with just a few men in my life and none since my divorce. My partner Jenn has never been with a man and my weird sexual desire is to watch her f~~k a guy. I am not concerned that she’ll turn straight, but i am concerned about my potential jealousy. Jenn is sort of willing with a few specific conditions. We have tried to role play the scene but a strap-on just won’t cut it. I really get off on the visual I have in my mind of the scene with her and a guy and I would be taking part somewhat (certainly no dick for me tho please….) so I’m not totally out of the picture. Anyway, great question!

whiteroseman's avatar

A completely bi, no holes barred MFMF.

hearkat's avatar

I’m a little younger than @pdworkin, but my response is the same… I’ve satisfied my curiosities and tried nearly everything that others have mentioned above. But for me it isn’t about sex anymore, it is about the intimate physical expression of love. I do have a high libido, though; so when I am in a relationship, it is frequent, fun, and adventurous if we want it to be.

Jack79's avatar

@Zen_Again how could you have DP with Violet and tattoo girl? Doesn’t one of them have to be male? :O

I’ve fulfilled all my sexual fantasies so far (as far as the technical side is concerned) though I’d like to have a couple of them repeated. And perhaps with specific individuals (Shakira springs to mind).

PS: as for what’s holding me back? I think she probably lost my number because she hasn’t called me this week (or any other week for that matter) :P
And I’m still waiting for Angelina Jolie and Monica Belucci to reply to my offer of a trio.

wildpotato's avatar

I’d like to have sex with another girl or two sometime in my life (I am female). What holds me back is the fact that I am no more attracted to girls than I am to guys (that is, not at all). But I could get over that, like I did with guys. I guess what I’m afraid of is that I’d essentially be using this girl to find out if I’m gay and not a (as they say). And I don’t like using people. Though in a way, sex is all about using one another, so maybe as long as I’m upfront about things she’d be ok with it.

trumi's avatar

I’ve got this really great role play planned involving a hair dryer, cheerios, and one of those Nixon Halloween masks… I’ve been unable to find a suitable female to play the role of my scuba instructor George McGovern… You say Bill Clinton and everybody is cool with it, but nobody wants to fuck The Milhous…

Polly_Math's avatar

Tea-bagging

dpworkin's avatar

@Polly_Math : Too Republican.

ubersiren's avatar

@pdworkin : Ah, the golden age of sex. You are a lucky man.

Cruiser's avatar

The 60 mile high club! The first spare $400,000 I save, me and my honey are going on a date!!!

CyanoticWasp's avatar

My answer would be about the same as @pdworkin‘s and @hearkat,‘s I think. I haven’t had all of their adventures, but I’ve had enough adventures with enough partners (between marriages) and a long marriage to an adventurous and loving woman, which has satisfied most of my sex fantasies and realities.

The FFM thing appealed to me for awhile, but I never tried it. My last partner would have been willing, since that was part of her repertoire. Part of the reason is that I connect so strongly with partners, and they with me, that unless we were going to try a permanent arrangement, I know that someone would get hurt. I was also turned off early to one-night stands and “sex just for fun”. I object to “sex for hire” for myself, but I don’t judge others on that regard. I just love my partners, and—no brag, just fact—they tend to love me pretty strongly, too. For that combination of reasons I’ve shut the door on any more “disposable” sex partners.

I have played a bit with enforced male chastity and short-term orgasm tease-and-denial, which can both be pretty intense and really play with your head. I’ve thought about that as “lifestyle” instead of just “playing”, but I admit that I chicken out at the thought of making that kind of commitment.

Zen_Again's avatar

—@Jack79 Obviously you are unaware of a little thing I like to call a—STRAP-ON?!?——

stemnyjones's avatar

FYI, anal was overrated for me, too. Didn’t hurt, but didn’t do much good either.

JessicaisinLove's avatar

Doing it in mid air with my S/O after parachuting out of an airplane, a quickie during lunch break or something. If you are reading this sweetie…......It doesn’t have to be during a lunch break, a weekend would be fine. hahahahahaha

hearkat's avatar

@JessicaisinLove: When I was married my husband would come home for lunch and we’d have quickies quite often… it’s always an invigorating break! Quickies also make great halftime entertainment when watching football on Sundays!

@Violet and others: When men are referring to anal, I think they might want to clarify if they mean giving or receiving.

TominLasVegas's avatar

My wife and another woman both wearing strap-ons using them on me.

Naked_Homer's avatar

My goal right now is a truthful open communicative sex life. Taking a good step towards that in this divorce. I have been dry for 5 years. Essentially dry for 13.

Once I can meet someone and have an adult relationship with them, I wouldn’t mind a little lock the doors for the day no holds barred where you want it when you want it sex.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Double penetration.

fundevogel's avatar

Not exactly a practice, but I would love to sneak into an old abandoned building to have sex. Assuming I could be reasonably sure it was free of the homeless and crackheads. A secluded area of an operating build could works well. Down in the machine room or on top of the roof.

I definitely want have sex on the roof, possibly in a snuggie.

phil196662's avatar

There are many things I/ We (the Wife and I ) have done but we have not been able to decide the When to Skydive in loose clothing and have Sex while falling. I would imagine it involves at least 10,000 feet! perhaps a Parasale would work!

Jack79's avatar

@DominicX surprised you haven’t tried that yet. I imagine it would work a lot better for people of the same sex (especially women though) due to having the same genitals. I always find it hard to concentrate, because of the different “geography” in the two areas, so I can only think of what’s going on in one of the places. I always give up after a few minutes.

DominicX's avatar

@Jack79

Interesting. I’m sure he’d be willing to, I’ve just been too embarrassed to admit I want to try it…

phil196662's avatar

We have skydived but fully clothed, just that was a Blast!

Violet's avatar

@Sueanne_Tremendous – would you ever let her be f—ked by another women wearing a strap on? Do you think that would make you less jealous? Or is it just the thought of her with another person?

Violet's avatar

@whiteroseman – that sounds GREAT! I have never really thought of having a 4-way before. I’d be lucky to get just an MFM

Violet's avatar

@Polly_Math – you are male, correct?

Violet's avatar

@Jack79 – DP can also be done with 2 dildos..no men needed.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir – good choice
@DominicX – that is so cute! Are you in a relationship?
@phil196662 – wow, that sounds difficult
@fundevogel – would you throw down a blanket?
@TominLasVegas – that sounds super hot

DominicX's avatar

@Violet Yep. :) Rory and I have been going out since July and he is the most awesomest person ever. :P

phil196662's avatar

@Violet ; Skydiving difficult- naw, the freefall is better than any alcoholic drink!

Violet's avatar

@DominicX – I think you doing 69 is VERY possible!
@phil196662 – no no no, I meant having sex while skydiving sounds difficult, even though I would never skydive.

phil196662's avatar

@Violet ; have not yet but the plan is to creat clothing that permits access and a para glider so we can stay aloft for some time so we can “O”...

Violet's avatar

@phil196662 – what about those addidas pants that unbutton all the way around?

Violet's avatar

@Naked_Homer – my sex life wasn’t great until I was totally open. Communication is SO important.

Violet's avatar

@BBSDTfamily – I don’t want to sound rude, but why did you even answer this question?

phil196662's avatar

@Violet ; yeh perhaps but we are thinking of Slits for mid-air operations!

stemnyjones's avatar

Honestly, there’s not much I haven’t done, since I’m with a wonderful girl now who is willing to be kinky with me ;)

wildpotato's avatar

@phil196662 Wow, that’s amazing! You would be like eagles; they court on the wing and join in coitus while plummeting towards the ground. So I remember Animal Planet telling me years ago – can’t find anything on the net to corroborate this, so maybe I imagined it. But this is also how dragons have sex in Jane Yolen’s Pit Dragon Chronicles, at any rate.

Ansible1's avatar

Sex while driving- I’d like to try that one again. Pretty dangerous though, but i guess that was part of the thrill.

dpworkin's avatar

That reminds me. A long time ago (1972!) I had a girlfriend who had a BMW 2002tii. We both loved that car, and we both loved to go fast, and she invented a game. If I went 85 mph or faster, she would suck my cock. If I slowed down, she would stop. I now shudder to think how dangerous that was, but I sure loved that game at the time.

DrBill's avatar

Done it all,

@Ansible1 (missed my exit 4 times)

Violet's avatar

@DrBill – EVERYTHING? even bestiality? Incest? Toilet slaves?

dpworkin's avatar

I don’t even know what that means.

Violet's avatar

@Ansible1 lol good one!
@pdworkin – double vag double ass

dpworkin's avatar

Ah, thanks. SVSA is nice.

Violet's avatar

@pdworkin – lol, very cute! : )
@Ansible1 – I have only given head while the guy was driving

Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

@Violet We’ve experimented with other girls and strap-ons but they haven’t been the greatest or most fulfilling experiences.

One other thing I’d love to experience before my time on earth is done: I’d love to actually voyeur another couple having sex. They can’t possibly know that I am watching. It would be more fun if Jenn and I were watching together….

Ansible1's avatar

@Violet If you could give head while you were driving I would be very impressed =)

Violet's avatar

@Sueanne_Tremendous – I think the only way you could get away with that, is to be a peeping tom. Most of my 3-ways, were not all that great of fulfilling either.
@Ansible1 – lol, I don’t think I even want to try. I have masturbated when I was stuck in traffic though

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Dildos do not even begin to replace a real man penetrating you.
They do not carry the same force and weight nor overall feeling of the male body controlling and penetrating.
Also the excitement of a male for a female is different than dildo masturbation.

What I would like to do that my wife and I have not so far is:
Whilst supporting her entire body weight off the floor, to have her straddle me and ride over my hips and member during my total penetration and thrusting entry of her.

Violet's avatar

@denidowi do you mean having sex standing up?

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – I’m not sure i meant it that simply put: I don’t know what it’s called… but Yes; I mean I would be standing, taking her weight and she is riding over my cock with her legs splayed wide apart – so that she is entirely in ‘my hands’ and perhaps I would pin her up against the wall.
You know what I mean??

Violet's avatar

legs splayed?
This is what I’m thinking:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_standandcarry.shtml

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Yes, Sweetie… you got it – probably a mixture of both really, but ‘Stand & Carry”: Huh?? That’s wot they call it: S&C for shortLOL!
But I’d prefer to carry her to the nearest wall and ‘pin’ her up against the wall, Violet – so that the leverage, control and penetration are much stronger: You know what I mean??

denidowi's avatar

BTW, Honey, thanks for those Beautiful sites.
That is much appreciated.

Polly_Math's avatar

@pdworkin The funny thing is is that they obviously didn’t know what it meant when they started using the term.

Polly_Math's avatar

@Violet Yes, obviously she be the teabaggee, I be the teabagger.

Naked_Homer's avatar

@Violet – Yes, thanks for those sites.

@all – Great job on this thread!

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – or with her legs wrapped around me, feet drawing me in, in encouragement of as deep a penetration as possible: I think you follow? ;)

PS Thanks again for those sites; there are some very nice positions and explanations on those 2 sites – very nice :)

Violet's avatar

@denidowi I LOVE sexinfo101.com I just found the other one, so I don’t know much about it.

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Yeah, Honey; it does a beautiful Job on there; doesn’t it??
I learned quite a bit re just the slightest differences in ‘positions’, you might say: it is a very nice site – and plenty of order in its presentation and layout too. I did love that pic you led me to.
I also liked the Ballerina and the Amazon Reverse, but a girl needs well-packed thigh muscles and strength in the legs to accomplish that style for very long.
From My own personal experience, I also like Standing Doggy very much, Violet, where the girl spreads her legs and bends over touching her toes: you can get tremendous leverage and wonderful vision on the girl and her flanks and buttocks in that position: I’m not sure it’s on the site; I didn’t see it, but I didn’t look everything over – well… not so far, Violet, anywayLOL!! All in good time ;)
I also just LOVE eating my girl out – her clitoris and vulva, I mean. I just love making her feel in Heaven as I give her attention she just can’t escapeLOL! I love looking at her fleshy, meaty inner thighs as I just lap her and suck her up for dinner… and looking up past her torso to those 2 Luscious, soft mountains: GLORIOUS!!!

What do you and your guy like doing??

Violet's avatar

@denidowi out go to position is the deck chair

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Yes; I noticed it last night looking through: it looks great: I like it.
I think we’ve done it just a couple of times, but it would be a long time back now.
But thank you, Honey… I think it certainly needs re-visiting, now that I’ve also seen the accompanying commentary of advantages that I hadn’t noticed with my own little experience of it. :)

Do you have any others you particularly like??

Violet's avatar

@denidowi yes, the drill, butterfly, deep stick, launch pad, mirror of pleasure, Pirate’s Bounty, victory, and every doggy-style position except bent spoon, Ben Dover, Acrobat, and bodygaurd

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Love that Drill and Screw, Honey
ThanX again :)

phil196662's avatar

@Violet ; Time for Bent Spoon! get those corners and your boobs can be tended too…

stemnyjones's avatar

You guys are so bad…

phil196662's avatar

@stemnyjones – just straight with the stuff.

DrBill's avatar

Anyone who wants to add to their list should try karma sutra level 99 “the swing”

denidowi's avatar

We’re having Difficulty keepin’ it as straight as possible Now… w/o udder advertsLOL!

Violet's avatar

@phil196662 that one looks difficult!
@denidowi the drill is one of the best. That’s a great way for me to orgasm. I don’t think I’ve ever tried the screw.. I’ll have to try that soon!

denidowi's avatar

@Violet – Good Luck, Girl… May it send you to ‘Heaven’ ;)

BTW, ALL those you mentioned look fantastic, Honey; I can only say we’ve tried only a few: we’ll have to goto Work ;)

tramnineteen's avatar

Road head. Tried before but she failed to finish the job. None the less it was one of the more exciting things I’ve tried (not that I have tried a lot of the things listed above).

Anyway, I would like a re-attempt. Just need a willing partner, no longer dating original girl.

IMO, only moderately dangerous.

RareDenver's avatar

@tramnineteen pretty dangerous if she’s also the one doing the driving ;)

tramnineteen's avatar

@RareDenver No, I would drive. I think that’s a lot of the fun. Driving and climaxing.

Deja_vu's avatar

I’ve only been held back from the sexual acts I don’t want to try.

Smashley's avatar

@tramnineteen – Cruise control and automatic transmission are invaluable! And don’t freak out if (s)he accidentally moves the shifter into neutral. In fact, you might want to count on it.

Let’s see… well, I’ve written some pretty heavy dom-sub scenarios that might be a bit much for most, and for which I’m probably too unskilled to make work properly, but we’ll see. Other than those, I suppose I’ve got a casual and unrealized interest in certain MFM and FFM, playtimes, as long as one of the F’s was one woman in particular.

tramnineteen's avatar

@Smashley Check and double check. My car would be perfect for it.

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