I have an ex-friend who has placed a huge responsibility on me and has blamed me for her suicide attempts. What should I do?
In the beginning, there was just something about this girl that I didn’t like. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. It took her awhile to get me to be her friend. She’d call me and send me messages trying to make plans. She knew who I was because she went to school with one of my sisters. Anyway, eventually I met her one day at her place of work and she immediately recognized me as someone she “knows from somewhere”. My impression of her in person changed. I started hanging out with her after that. She’d hang out with me to dump what I thought were her problems on me. I tried to be the great friend I thought she never had. In turn, she tried to turn me against people who did nothing wrong. Things got more complicated when I discovered that the problems she had didn’t even exist. Once I discovered this and lost trust in her and told her so, she went to one of her friends to complain about me and blamed me for making her cry and all that. He sent me a message asking me to stop making her cry and told me he was just trying to keep her alive. I’ve been in this situation, too. I have been one of the people who tried to keep her alive. It’s not out of character for her to blame the most convenient person for her suicide attempts. I’ve suggested to her that she may have a mental illness and she kept throwing it into my face that she’s getting psychiatric help as though that’s supposed to make me forgive her and completely trust her all over again. I just feel like it’s all an emotional blackmail and guilt-trip. What should I do? What mistakes have I made? What would you suggest I do differently from what I have done? If you’re unclear about something, what are you unclear about? Thank you in advance.
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