I'm losing faith in humanity..help!

I have faith that everyone on the planet is crazy, at least from time to time. Only with some people the intervening time between those times becomes vanishingly short.

I concur until I realize I’m just as nuts as anyone else. As per family visits and the holidays, they’re both like fish. They spoil after a couple of days.
Meanwhile, I need to get some work done

Believe me I can empathasize, These things tend to go in waves for me. Almost everyone around me seems crazy and mean, and then it settles down. During these times I focus on only spending time with the non-crazies in my life as much as possible. I used to stay in the fray, trying to reason with people and smooth things over, which was time and emotions wasted. Focus on yourself and the good people around you. Make new freinds, occupy your time with simple pleasures.

My detachnent cane from Asperfers Syndrome (although diagnosed many years later) and am one of thr “crazy people” that other love to kvetch about. I’ve carved out my solitary niche and am struggling to get the meds right so I can resume a useful function in society. Mayd teaching History at East Overshoe State Community College, but at least some role.

When I start to feel this way, stressed and a little bit crazed, I go to MMT. Which is an awesome site that has a lot of uplifting stories that make you think, hence the name. I suggest looking at some of their stories and reflecting on your life. That really helps me a lot.
Well I hoped this helped. :) Best wishes.

I hate that people can be unreliable – fear not, there are others who are. There are reasons to lose faith in humanity but whever you do remember there are reasons to not. Kids are growing up every second – we can change the world by teaching them.

Join the club. You are not alone… And, get use to it. :-)

I think the stress associated w/the holidays makes everyone at least a little crazy. Good advice, @JLeslie !

Sometimes we have to just accept people for who they are. They might not always measure up to our standards. Believe me, I understand how you can feel the way you do. I do too. But I find myself expecting everyone to be too “perfect” and that just sets me up for disappointment.
You can drive yourself NUTS if you dwell on it. All you can do is be the best YOU you can be. Try to be around people who are positive and accept you for who you are. Concentrate on those types of people and allow the “loonies” to do their thing without you whenever possible.

What *ccrow” said !!!

Think of it this way. How boring would the world be if everyone was completely sane and on a level keel? There are always going to be strange or unhinged people in your life.It’s how you let them make you feel. Of course, when they bail on you that’s a little different and that bothers me as well. My word is what I live by.

I think most people feel this way, which is why we feel that everyone else is the nut job. Being that close to your family only heightens the sensation that they are bonkers.

It’s not just family, though being in such close quarters with crazy relatives does heighten the sensation that I’m surrounded by crazies. I’m feeling a real need to go off in the woods by myself to ground, but I’m expected to constantly entertain my sister and now with them being ejected from their lodgings, my mom is occupied with trying to find a place to live when we return from vacation next week.

There have been several instances of my welcoming new friends into my inner sanctum, something that is not easy for me and which I don’t take lightly because I’m easily hurt, then they turn out to be crazy, unstable, and end up betraying my trust in some way.

It’s frustrating. :/

C’est la vie.

You cannot change others, only yourself. And, in my experience, those who think that everyone else has a problem is usually the one with the problem. Find a way to set boundaries and keep them.

Is it necessary for you to have faith in all of humanity? Is it necessary for you to trust everyone? Be careful, but don’t close yourself offf.

my best advice is be yourself and do not let the insaneness get to your head. Stay out of other people’s stress and do not stress yourself. Stress is what has made these people so nuts in the first place. Find your happy place and keep a big smile on. If you want to make friends, treat them how you’d like to be treated. Do not dip down to other’s level because you are better than that.

Unfortunately our human race has the mentally of doing things all for them self. Many things can be to blame for this, but that is another topic. Keep your head up high and continue to have a positive outlook. Making fun of other people’s quirks helps me. If they do not appreciate it and do not understand that you are just joking, that is their problem. When you make the atmosphere comforting, people will recognize it and maybe you will bring out their non crazy side and will want to stay there because you comfort them

Barring the door to keep the crazies out keeps you locked in. Get out there and mingle with them. They aren’t all that different, they are just dancing to a different tune than you are. You can waltz right by them without losing step if you don’t get too wrapped up in their drama.

No one is as crazy as they think they are. If you were that crazy you would have no idea you were. Those are the people to watch out for.
I find that stretching like a cat helps.

Everyone has a crazy tipping point; stress just brings it out differently for each person. Sometimes just helping diffuse the situation by stepping back and giving space can but things back to rights.

@mass_pike4 – Therein lies the rub. :P I hate stress, I hate drama, I hate unnecessarily wasting energy on games and b.s. I put so much pressure on myself that I honestly can’t handle extra anxiety from other people. I try to avoid all of this stuff, but man, it’s everywhere!

And, in my experience, those who think that everyone else has a problem is usually the one with the problem.
@tinyfaery – I completely agree with you there. I’ve asked myself many times if it’s me; honestly, I spent my whole life pretty much feeling like the problem was me, that there was something wrong with me. That would be the easiest answer; I’m an oddball that had to learn and to adapt to fit in socially, and I’m used to getting it wrong. Over the past year, however, I’ve realized that I’m more self-aware and self-reflective than most (I definitely analyze my behavior and other people’s reactions to me and am very willing to fix any problems). None of these “crazy” people are self-aware and seem completely oblivious to how their behavior affects others, which is mind-boggling and frustrating because things can’t be discussed in a reasonable manner.

I try to live my life as positively as possible and I really try to be good, kind, and honest. I treat people how I’d want to be treated, I’m honest, helpful, friendly, polite.. actually, it kind of surprises me when other people are otherwise. I just don’t understand why people choose to be mean or rude when it’s so easy to be friendly and nice. I also don’t understand why I can’t seem to attract other positive, genuine people when I make an effort daily to send out as much good energy as possible.

My first therapist told me that it’s the one who reaches out for help who’s the one that has the most strength and is likely the most even-keeled, because that person recognized a fucked-up situation when they saw one, as opposed to the people who really need extra serious help, but try their darndest to resist and act like everything is hunky-dory.

That made me feel a little better about the family crisis I extricated myself from.

@MissAnthrope
But the thing is sometimes if crazy works for them let ‘em be but just know it doesn’t work for you. But at one point it may. Sooner or later you have to lose your mind to come to your senses. If the entire world is crazy, and I think it is, then to be “here now” or “now here”, or in the middle of “nowhere” you have to be a little nuts. It’s called crazy wisdom in my book. And it’s quite sane actually. And there’s an old saying about what you do with whirling dervishes…You let ‘em whirl.

Yeah.

Consider yourself blessed.
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^Yes good point.^
Humans aren’t running the show anyway. The universe has its own design.