Ever feel like your SO has a lot of growing up to do?

Not at all. In fact, I feel that she’s a lot more mature, and has it together than most 30 year olds that I know.

No I don’t. My SO is like a kid and so am I. We are a perfect match :-)

Sometimes I do, yes. But then again, sometimes I feel like I have more growing up to do as well.

I usually feel that my SO has growing down to do. As the oldest of five children in a very poor household, he had to mature fast and is very responsible. Over time, he is slowly learning to listen a bit more to his own wants and needs.

No, I don’t. But he has this special innocent quality to him that’s been there all his life. I wouldn’t want that to go away. It’s one of my favorite aspects of him.

The only problem I have with my SO is his urge to play video games. If only he played in moderation it wouldn’t be so bad. Sometimes I feel as if he rather stay home and play video games then go out and do something with me.

No. What is or is not appropriate exists in the perception of the onlooker. Maybe you think it’s inappropriate, but that doesn’t make it so.

Yes. But he’s 19, so I’m optimistic.

I would advise reading Loving What Is By Byron Katie… you might need to loosen up a little

do you ever say anything inappropriate for the situation? ever?
or…perhaps… feel like the world is coming to an end…ever for what seems like trivial things?

or… you could always give the girl/man a break and leave them…cause you’re obviously not in a place of…acceptance…let alone love…

Every single time I see him. Of course, I know that I also have growing up to do, so I try not to be too hard on him for it. What does concern me is wondering whether or not the person will ever mature.

Yes. She’s Only thirteen, and she knows how to NASTY.

I do, but to be fair he is young. The things that I notice are things I did when he was my age and are things you can’t be told by someone else – like how to argue fairly, or at least productively, if you feel you need to do it at all.

There are times where I feel this yes, but at the same time I think it is more our difference of opinion. I love him just the same though. Besides I am sure we both still have plenty of growing up to do, he is 21 and I am 19.

Sometimes, not in terms of most things but sometimes I think if he had more relationship experience he could see where I’m coming from easier and have a better understanding of relationships in general.

I’m SO glad you asked this question because this is exactly what has kept me upset all weekend. He’s 19 and even though I’m barely a year older I feel like he’s got soo much growing up to do. But I think in the past few days I’ve realized that I need to take that for what he is – we’re both still really young and that’s the point.

@Supacase – That’s the same problem I have with my bf. I’m glad to know that there’s nothing I can say so at least I don’t have to take responsibility for it haha

Even in friendships, our friends can seem to need some growing up. A good relationship, I’ve always thought, consists of two people who intend to grow together. So, if a SO or even a friend has a bad trait like you’ve described, it seems to be “your place” to help them improve or “Grow up.” That’s what you’re there for, to help them through things with love.

I don’t call him Peter Pan for nothing!

If that were true, I wouldn’t be in a relationship with them – we must be equals

No, but I feel like I have a lot of growing up to do. With a worldview much more mature than mine, and a mind which can be much more logical than mine (I have a very emotional side), all while being younger than me, it brings out this… Sense of inferiority within me which I recognise to be childish and stupid.

Hence, I’m the one who needs to grow up in this aspect.

I think people who feel their SO has a lot of growing up to do, have a lot of growing up to do.