How do you know it's competely over with your ex? Is he waiting around?

He probably is between things at the moment, and you are safely overseas so he is in touch with you.

Actions speak louder than words. If he is interested, he will give back your friend’s guitar. Try and arrange the exchange.

Do you care?

@Zen_Again I’m not sure really… I’m curious, but I’d like to know where I stand and what I really meant to him… we didn’t talk for almost 4 months… and now he’s suddenly being nice to me…

He left because he felt he really needed space… during the relationship I didn’t do anything wrong, what i mean is I dont cheat, I don’t flirt with other guys, so I haven’t given him a real reason to leave with out speaking to me… I don’t drink, I don’t go clubbing, I doing peaceful things… I paid for everything, took care of him and it was my first relationship and we were togather for 2 years. it really bugging me not knowing what is really over, or what I mean to him… I think when I come back things might be clearer… but what do you think?

“Is he waiting for me to come back? Does he want to talk to me?”

It’s hard to tell, from the few sentences you wrote, what his intentions are. Maybe you should just take a risk and ask him yourself.

@HTDC what kind of detail would clarify my question? I always make it difficult to understand D: haha

What I mean is, no matter what or how much you write it’s impossible for anyone to know what is going on inside another persons head.

Stop reading tea leaves. If you want to know, ask him. If you don’t want him to come back, then do nothing but be polite.

He’s a user and you’re letting him take advantage of you. He’ll probably string you along until a better deal comes along. When you go home, get the guitar and return it to your friend. Salvaging that friendship is worth something. If you drop him before he drops you then you get self respect points as well.

I would go cautiously. I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions just because he’s contacted you and is friendly and conversational. Doesn’t sound like enough evidence to indicate he wants to renew the relationship, and if I were you, I wouldn’t set myself up for disappointment in case he’s just being a “friend” and thinks you see him that way now too. Too risky. It’s too your own advantage to just be friends for now, or maybe not even friends (acquaintances?). You don’t want to be hurt again right?

It absolutely sounds like he wants to talk to you in person, and he’s flirting with you a little. It’s really up to you though if you actually want to see him, or flirt back – yada yada. Bottom line though, I think if you want him back – You have him….

Game player… Let it go! Just feeling for a hook, if you will. Walk away, and you will accomplish two things: 1) Make him think about what it is that he has lost… and he will make a defintive decision, if you stick to it; or… 2) You will heal and move on from an emotionally abusive relationship. Choice is yours…

Good Grief! He still hasn’t returned that darn guitar? That in itself speaks volumes about him…

PandoraBoxx lol could you please elaborate what you mean by volumes about him? I don’t understand that part :)

@bean, well, three weeks ago you posted that your boyfriend was breaking up with you and had your friends guitar. Three weeks is enough time to figure out how to get a guitar that you don’t own back to the person that does own it, especially if you’ve broken up with the person that enabled the lending of the guitar in the first place.

By speaking volumes about him, I mean he’s either extremely lazy, uses people or a potential thief. He has something expensive that doesn’t belong to him. They asked for it back. He makes no effort to return it. How do you describe a person like that? “Prince Charming” and “Good Catch” are nowhere in the top 100 of descriptives of this guy.

I think @evandad and @PandoraBoxx summed it up well.

@PandoraBoxx ahhh… I see what you mean now, thanks