If you write erotica, can you describe your method?

I can tell you my process for reading erotica and..
The once or twice that I’ve written erotica, I wrote it as if I were watching it, not involved in it. I wrote from the perspective of what would make me hot but also from other people’s perspectives and what would make them hot.

I write what I find sexy and believable. You don’t have to read much trash before you start running across the repetitious, hackneyed plot setup. I avoid those like a plague. I do my best to write something that would sound believable if it had no erotic content. I want the story to stand on its own, not just be the shortest possible path to the money shoot.

Of course, if you are writing short stories for mens magazines, they expect you to get to the dirty-dance PDQ because they are only looking for truly short stories. They can’t afford you much time for character and plot development.

EXACTLY as you described!! I do the same and I cannot explain where it comes from or how it manifests itself… but it just that it “happens” with no forethought… Great question!

All I know is that after watching some Hentai, I don’t look at Squids and Octopi quite the same way.

I have entire stories download in my head. I have no idea where they come from. It’s almost like a cassette sliding into a slot and turning on. (No pun intended)

I actually think that this is what is should be happening for all your fictional writing—that the writer must, to some extent, experience it.

But the trick is to not just experience in, but to transfer the experience on to paper. (It’s no good feeling it if it doesn’t communicate). So use the good old techniques, sensory detail, etc.

I don’t have much experience in reading erotica but remembering the best literary sex scenes I’ve read, they’re creative, and they’re able to capture the breath of that moment.

This is not my genre, but I have given it thought when stumbling upon an awkard sex scene in a book.

First, sex is not a goal, it’s a natural outgrowth a tapestry of events. My wife, chinese, thinks we ruin good movies with blunt sex.

Think mentally of a candelight dinner, versus Mcdonalds.

Think of the shy passionate desire building between two teenagers, often meeting, never able to quite get it going, the slow, maddening tease.

Think of a cheap one night stand.

This is the difference between a slow building interplay and omitted foreplay. There must be more emotions than just lust. It must be more captivating than a quickie.

Lust is a spice, not a meal. Sex is desert, not a burger and fries. Obsession on the other hand, compels us with it’s maddening ways. That left unsaid speaks volumes

An encounter can be defined as what remains after the orgasm.

Is it international intrigue. A failing of temptation. Love, forbidden and hidden. In America we are numb, our actors dulled.

Passion is dead.

Capture it.

Imagine instead 2 lovers willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for each-other. A passion so maddening it destroys lives.

Sigh… I don’t even know why I answer these anymore.

Yes, I wrote a story on one occasion mainly because I was bored and hadn’t tried it before and put it somewhere for people to read to see what reactions I got. I wrote it in first person and got some interesting responses, including how one woman “got off” to it. I didn’t quite exppect that kind of response, and I was a bit happy that someone appreciated it, but after that I didn’t bother writing anything else, and deleted all tracesw of that story I tend not to cling to the past, and rather erradicate it. I have wanted to try it again, but never found the time. Maybe now that I have a laptop I’ll do it. Who knows.

I just record my daily adventures.

I daydream and just describe it in writing. It’s HOT.

My girlfriends & I usually write it in roleplay form, & then make an actual story out of it.