How can i Be attractive( personality wise) to Foreign people when I'm not a typical American?
I’m in my early 30’s. latino. not a problem right? But I’m different.
Many latinos even all of my relatives, are loud and outgoing.
Foreigners seem to like confident, outgoing Americans who are good at speaking their own language.
I have a speech impediment and also because i’ve been shy all my life, my speaking skills suck and i don’t know alot vocab, expressions, slang etc. I’ve never had friends either. And no i don’t speak good spanish. My spanish sucks too.
So, Japanese or Chinese ESL students in america, want to meet typical Americans because they want to learn Native English. I don’t have that in me, so they are generally not interested in me.
I’ve tried to meet many of them, but it always turns bad. I try my best, but when they hear my accent and the fact that i speak really slow( don’t sound fluent), they loose interest.
I’ve studied Japanese and i want to meet Asians for cultural and language exchange but so far, it seems like they see me like I’m useless garbage.
There have been times when I meet some Japanese or Korean that is friendly towards me and is interested in me. But usually those people have a very low level of English. The advanced English speakers think of me as NOT AMERICAN and clearly from the way they look at me, i can see they are not interested.
Anyway, I met some Japanese and foreigners in some Social networking place and they are living in my city. We’re going to meet soon, but I’m worried that they won’t like me.
Any tips on what i can do to not be seen as garbage just because I’m not a native english speaker?
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