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[NSFW]How do you kindly ask your boyfriend to trim his hair down there?

Asked by iluvyou (47 points ) March 21st, 2010

I want to ask my boyfriend to clean up the hair down there in that area but I dont know how to ask him without offending him or having an awkward conversation. I dont want him to shave it all off I would just like a little trim so its not a huge bundle of hair mess..Is that weird? Any suggestions?!

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dpworkin's avatar

Offer to do it.

Likeradar's avatar

Do you ladyscape? Just asking because it might be easier to bring it up with him if you do that kind of grooming too.

On one hand, I want to tell you to not say anything. He is who he is, and he might like himself the way he is.
But if it’s important to you and you think he’s be cool with it, you might want to tell him you’d enjoy giving him blow jobs more if there was less hair.

And no, it’s not weird. Plenty of men manscape, and I assume it’s partially because their partners appreciate it.

lillycoyote's avatar

Just ask him if maybe he could trim things up a bit down there. It doesn’t seem like a big deal to me. If you’re having sex with him it seems like you have a relationship intimate enough to discuss that sort of thing with him. Is he afraid it will deplete him of his strength, like Samson? Why is it that people can have sex with each other but can’t talk to each other? I don’t get it. It’s just pubic hair, it’s not like you’re asking him to get circumcised.

iluvyou's avatar

Um no I don’t ladyscape and I don’t want to do it for him..gross

dpworkin's avatar

Gross? You must be young. Wait till you like sex then.

iluvyou's avatar

You honestly wouldn’t think it was gross to cut someone else pubic hair? That doesn’t mean I don’t like sex

whatthefluther's avatar

Next time you choke on a hair, mention that perhaps a trim would mitigate future disruption.
See ya…..Gary/wtf

EdMayhew's avatar

Life is give and take sugar. Don’t expect more effort from him than you are willing to give yourself xx

By that I mean perhaps you should set an example first…

chels's avatar

You just ask. It’s not that hard. Really.

Dr_C's avatar

@iluvyou It’s the simplest thing in the world to ask him to do it. In those words. “please trim your pubes”.

However… asking him to do it if you don’t do it yourself is selfish and a bit hypocritical.

Dr_C's avatar

@chels If it’s “not that hard” the hair might be an issue…

richardhenry's avatar

That’s not weird at all! Just literally say “you should trim down there”.

But I agree with @Dr_C, if you don’t do it yourself, you’re sort of taking the piss.

iam2smart99037's avatar

I was going to write something somewhat lengthy about mature relationships and such, but never mind – dpworkin said it short, sweet, and to the point. You must be young. Wait till you like sex.

chels's avatar

@Dr_C Ohmygod. ahahhahahah

iluvyou's avatar

Did I say I didn’t do it myself?! I wouldn’t think it was gross if I didn’t take care of myself..

richardhenry's avatar

@iluvyou I’m confused. You said “um no I don’t ladyscape”.

Dr_C's avatar

@iluvyou your comment here says you don’t lady scape.

kevbo's avatar

dumbshit troll

iluvyou's avatar

Whoops sorry I meant to say I didn’t want to do it for him. Just to clear the confusion I do ladyscape. Thank you

richardhenry's avatar

@iluvyou Okay, so just ask him. It sounds like you need to work on communicating with him. There really shouldn’t be a problem saying “trim your pubes”. Are you worried about his reaction? What do you think his reaction will be like?

iluvyou's avatar

Well I just don’t want to offend him or hurt his feelings..

richardhenry's avatar

@iluvyou I’m sure he’ll be very offended that you don’t like his long, shiny locks of pubic hair. He’s probably very fond of them. ;)

…Just ask him.

Dr_C's avatar

@iluvyou unless he has the emotional maturity of a 5 year old he has no reason to be offended.

richardhenry's avatar

@iluvyou In fact, I would go so far as to say that if he is horribly offended by you asking him to trim his pubes, that you guys either have a lot to work on or that it might be time for you to move on.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Come at him with live buzzing clippers and a wild look in your eye saying:

“I WANT TO SEE YOUR TREE THROUGH THE FOREST!!! I WANT TO SEE YOUR TREE THROUGH THE FOREST!!! I WANT TO SEE YOUR TREE THROUGH THE FOREST!!!”

He’ll get the idea

DrasticDreamer's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Oh, god. I’m laughing, that was fantastic. Lurve. :D

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Here’s an Interesting Approach.

Highly recommended.

Violet's avatar

I agree with @dpworkin, “Offer to do it.”
That is how I went about it. He loves when I groom him. Now he does most of his manscaping himself, but I still do his eyebrows.
But, if you don’t “ladyscape”, don’t expect him to manscape. That’s hypocritical.

lillycoyote's avatar

@lillycoyote Note to self: For next time remember (!!!) @RealEyesRealizeRealLies advised: repeat “I WANT TO SEE YOUR TREE THROUGH THE FOREST!!! 3 times, have wild look in eyes and come at him with “buzzing clippers” not hedge clippers! No wonder they never stick around for breakfast. You’ll do better next time

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Haha… lilly!

Breakfast is always best served… in bed!

Buttonstc's avatar

@Realeyes

You’ve been taking lessons from Chuckie lately, haven’t you. Come on, fess up.

The vid you linked to is really funny, but I also liked the one done by Gillette just below it.

I’m sure the boyfriend will realize the appeal of the repeated slogan: “Trimming the bush to make the tree look taller.”

What guy could resist that appeal to vanity ?

Shae's avatar

Look at it an say I have never been turned on by Wookie junk.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

That’s right @Buttonstc. Who can resist an extra “optical inch”?

La_chica_gomela's avatar

It sure seems like a double-standard if you don’t trim but you want your partner to do it….

Shae's avatar

Yes very strange that you don’t clean up your Vajayjay but think he should. Weird.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@Shae @La_chica_gomela

She cleared that up earlier… so to speak. She does ladyscape herself. She misunderstood the original asker, thinking that ladyscape meant that she does it for him.

wundayatta's avatar

If you ask him, he will feel like he’s not doing his personal grooming right. He might take offense at that. It’s not nice to be told you aren’t clean. Some guys may not mind, and others would.

Second, he might think, “grow up.” “Grooming” pubic hair is something that has been popularized by porn. People nowadays think that’s how it’s supposed to be, and give this “hair in the mouth” crap as an excuse for it. If you’re giving a blow job, there’s no reason to get a hair in your mouth unless you’re hoovering the wrong area. This is an issue of being like a porn actor. Things were not like this only thirty years ago, and no one then was complaining. Women in porn need to shave so the camera can see more.

Guys are probably more likely to get hair in their mouths and, I suppose, might request a trim. That seems pretty weird to me. If it doesn’t look the way it would naturally, it can make a woman look like a prepubescent girl if she goes bald, which is very freaky.

Anyway, if it’s that important to you, then you are right to worry. He could take offense, and rightly so. But I don’t see what you can do other than make a case for it, suggesting you’d go down on him a lot more if he were more closely shaved. It would make his cock seem longer, which would excite you no end.

Shae's avatar

@wundayatta Umm have you ever given a blow job?

Guys raise your hands if you like tongue on more than your shaft. lol

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

As long as she’s hairy all over I really don’t give a damn. First thing my girl does is loose her razors altogether. I like em’ el-nat-ur-al. Or is that La-nat-ur-al?

Shae's avatar

And it frakking feels better.

Here is an experiment. Touch your head covered in hair, then touch the inside of your arm. In which place did you feel more? The hair covers that nice soft sensitive skin.

Stop trying to make people feel dirty for their preferences. You like hairy muff great for you, but that isn’t any reason to tell the rest of us that we are porn star child molestor pervs b/c we like it smooth.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Uhhh… me? Trying to make people feel dirty? Me?

A simple comment about my preference does not degrade the preferences of others in any way. Where did “porn star child molestor pervs” come from?

BTW… “molestor” has two “e’s”... molester.

Shae's avatar

No sorry @RealEyesRealizeLies I was responding to @wundayatta post

Arisztid's avatar

“Dear, I like King Kong but I saw him swinging around down there. I do not like sharing. Could you trim the forest so he moves on”

No? Ok…

“Dear, I am really getting tired of hacking up hairballs like the cat does. Could you give it a trim please?”

No?

Ok, just freaking ask him. If he says yes, great, if no, that is his right.

hug_of_war's avatar

My suggestion: tell him WHY. If he understands why, he’s a lot less likely to take it personally and think you find him unsexy

danny's avatar

Just say you don’t want to floss your teeth everytime you go down there.

JeffVader's avatar

Well, you could try the approach of my last girlfriend…. ‘Look, I love you very much, but if you want anymore bj’s then you’re gonna have to shave….’ You’d be amazed at how quick I broke out the Gillette!

wundayatta's avatar

@Shae I take the fifth.
I’m not saying you’re a porn actor. I am saying that I think the style first appeared in porn and then it got spread. Now no one knows any different. They don’t know where it started. They just take it for granted. It wasn’t this way before porn proliferated so much.

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