How do you approach talking with a former enemy?

Well, if you want to let go of what happened in the past, you could start with “Hello. I want to put the past behind us in order to move on.” Then you may both exchange some thoughts, since you’ve had a long time to think about this.

I would try to avoid arguments.

No, no way. Mortal enemies means to the death.

“Good roads and good weather.”

That is, talk about things that are obvious, that you can both agree with and that are non-confrontational.

I would just say hello and ask how she is. I would not bring up the past.

Then it is her move. Then progress from there. Maybe later bring up how silly it was to fight back in the ‘day.

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Just chat and eventually you can say something like – we were crazy to have stayed angry all these years.

Unfortunately, in life you make mortal enemies, but rarely in 6th grade.
Let that shit go.

You want to clear up shit from the sixth grade? Don’t bother. Both of you will either laugh about getting mad about what seems stupid now. Or you will have such twisted recollections of what happened you will make things worse and not get anywhere.

It really sounds like you found a way to confront a person you think wronged you. I would just pretend like you never found her.

I agree with @Arisztid just say hi! how you doing? so nice to see you are also on the book. Then take it from there.

It may not even be that big of a deal to her…..I’d just get to know what’s been going on for her, and do the update thingy. If you get to reconnect, maybe you both can have a couple of laughs about it- otherwise, what’s the point? Would you guys ever hang out again? Do you even have anything in common anymore?

Just ask how shes doing. Tell her how ridiculous it was to lose such a good friendship over something stupid.
Don’t make it too serious.

You know, when you say “as a child” ... “this happened in the 6th grade”, etc., some of us have ideas of things that happened forty or more years ago (more, in my case—my 40th high school reunion is next year).

So… how old are you? If you’re 13 years old, then yeah, it might still be sort of a “big thing” for your former friend. If you’re my age, then she probably has little or no recollection of it… or an entirely different one than you have.

Mark my words. You are doomed to becoming best friends with her again.

As ever @Arisztid delivers the goods. You’re both grown up now, so I wouldn’t bother mentioning it unless it comes up during reminiscence. Adults, after all, don’t have enemies.

@CyanoticWasp
I’m going on 18. Senior in high school.
Hence the “before we go to college,” bit.