NSFW (How many times a week is normal to have sex)
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April 11th, 2010
My boyfriend says I want sex too much, is there a thing as too much? I don’t think so. I could have sex all day, everyday.
But I guess, realistically, how many times would you say is normal?
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If you’re Tiger Woods !! 20~30
*and that’s a slow week !
It;s normal as often as all parties want it to be. My lady sometimes wanted more frequently that I could deliver, my tongue and fingers could still deliver. There’s no such thing as “too much”, maybe performance issues at times.
depends on the person! some people have higher sex drives than others…a given!
personally, 24 times a day will work! loll…....just kidding!
Statisticaly there probably is an average, but that is just what it is, a statistic.
It depends, of course, totally on the person(s) how many times they want to, or can have sex in a given period of time.
Is there really a norm? No, there isn’t!! Also, I believe you would become quite sore but, hey, who am I to say?? Let us not forget, Jesse James, whom I happen to know. Well, actually a mutual friend introduce him to me when I was living in Long Beach.
Women don’t need to engage anything ;-)
So it is normal. We need 5–10 minutes between…
Normal is whatever you and your partner(s) decide it should be. For us, during the week, once or twice, three times if we’re lucky, has become acceptable (I just can’t force myself to call it “good”). Morning comes too soon and nothing ruins the mood like a hangover from short sleep and a long day at work. Weekends… now that’s a different story altogether. But really it all comes down to balance, if you find that you’re both satisfied, then, congratulations, you’ve found normal! Happy hunting :D Ohhh and just remember, sometimes it’s not about quantity but rather quality.
The old seventies bumper sticker:
Tri-weekly
Then after a few years
Try weekly
Finally
Try weakly.
(My wife and I are still doing better than any of those…)
Dibs, I wonder…nah. Never mind. I used to initiate it a lot but I was alone for nine, almost ten years before this last relationship, so that may have had something to do with it. I’m back to zero.
I have never heard of a man complaining about a woman wanting to have too much sex. Usually the norm is how many times a week you and your partner decide to have sex. Maybe your boyfriend cant keep up with you. Talk to him and see if you can work out how many times per week you both want to have sex. It may be possible that you need someone else who can keep up with you and are able to have sex with you alot.
Back when i was in graduate school was working on a construction job during the summer. Was a carpenter’s helper. Would eat lunch with this middle aged carpenter everyday! Some how we got on sex…never will forget what he said! He said when i was your age, only a few women looked good. And twenty years later, a lot of women looked good…now, they all look good!
This a little off the subject…but, thought it was worth sharing!
Incompatible libido is a frequent cause of strain in a relationship. If the two of you are unable to manage the issue yourselves without bad feelings, and there appears to be a genuine threat to the relationship, then I advise you to seek couples counseling. The profession know how to address this issue.
for me and my fiance: 3 to 4 average per week, not including weekends!!!
I could help you up to about 14. After that, you’re on your own. But, then again, I’m getting old.
@Dibley, I know from your other posts about your relationship, that you approach it from a “please your man at all costs” perspective. Could it possible that while sex could have the frequency of his wildest dreams, the frequency lacks emotional connection, and comes across as a tactic to hold him? Sometimes the purely physical is not enough.
It’s a personal preference. All day everyday would get old for me, it would start to feel like a chore. I have to do the dishes everyday, I used to love doing dishes, but now, not so much.
@PandoraBoxx I don’t know, maybe I guess. I do mention it a lot to him, I think maybe he feels a little pressured to do sometimes. I do want it a lot more often than he does. He is older than me, but that shouldn’t be a problem. I know I have a high libido.
If you don’t make the move, how often does he want it?
I don’t know for other people but I like it daily. Quickie morning sex is a great way to start the day but I look forward to taking my time in the evenings when there’s no leaf blower and kids on skateboards outside to annoy. Sex drives are definitely different though, my partner is good with fewer times than me and knows there’s something amiss if I’m not in the mood.
We do it 3 to 4 times per week, more or less in the weekends, but if it was my fiance’s desition it’ll be at all times, he never says no to me, he always wants to do it, and until now I tought that that was the normal standard for men, ‘til i read your question.
@Dibley How often would you do it if it were up to you?
I think it’s time you guys had a serious discussion about this. You are always asking for sex, and then worrying that you drive him away with your desires. Or you are feeling insecure about yourself, and you are trying to make yourself into the perfect girlfriend.
It seems to me you are always trying to guess what your bf wants—at least, judging by the questions you ask. You’ll do much better if you ask him what he wants. I think you guys should discuss the libido disparity between you—if there is one. You should figure out what is going on. You should figure out a way for him to decline your offer without you feeling bad. Perhaps you could figure out an alternative.
Some alternatives—such as masturbating in front of him—might excite him into a state where he will want you right then and there, after all.
The other thing to check is whether your libido is medically ok. It could be that you just have a high libido (could you trade some with my wife?), or I suppose there could be something medical that is making your libido higher than it might otherwise be. You could also be using sex as a way to make yourself feel better (as opposed to sharing love with your bf).
There is also, some believe, a thing called sex and love addiction. This is a tool to help you diagnose yourself for sex and love addiction. I’m not quite sure I think this is a sensible way of looking at this, but you can decide for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, though. I would love to see you find more stable happiness in your life, and be able to stop worrying so much about your relationship.
There is no “normal” answer… For me, there are two answers, the way things actually are, and the way they would be ideally for me… My own personal habits are determined by the fact that my partner and I live 50 or so miles apart… we see each other normally every weekend, and manage one or two screws in that time, so twice a week is typical for us…
If we lived together, I would imagine it would be more like 3 times a week. I would add, @Dibley that like you, my drive is higher than my man’s, but I think the discrepancy is not massive and is lessening over time as we adjust to each other (we have been together for a year). Ideally, I think I would want sex with him every day if we were living together, but the compromise from him would be 3 or 4 times a week, I think.
Normal for me is once a night most nights and two or three times a day on the weekends. But it varies greatly depending on how much we’re home, how much work we both have to do, tiredness, etc. So…10 times a week? If we do it more than twice a night I usually get sore which isn’t terribly unpleasant but it can get to be if we overdo it.
ridiculous answer for a silly question
What’s normal for us is daily. What’s normal for others may be different and is just as normal.
studies say for men it is best for mental well being to have sex 3 to 4 times a week or more.
I used the forbidden sight to look such information up. I will look for a link for you I read it like a year ago.
@zebter oh I agree with all those reasons, just don’t think regular has to mean 3 to 4 times a week for men, specifically
I think as long as it is great and you connect well it is wonderful.
Let’s see, I figure twice a day would be a nice pace. That’s 16 times, for good measure.
@wonderingwhy I would do it 7 days at least, I would like to do it in the morning before he went to work, and when he came home.
Normally, Id say new couples have sex as much as they can, maybe 5–7 times a week.
I don’t think there is a limit to how much sex there can be in a relationship.
However, if your boyfriend doesn’t like having sex as often as you would like then perhaps you should discuss some trade-offs or find a new partner you can fulfill your sex drive
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