What would you do if you like a person but that person all ready is dating?

Why would you start something with a person that you know is willing to cheat?

If you don’t mind a competition then you could try to win his heart. Tell him that you like him and show him that you’re better than his other girlfriend. I just hope that he don’t cheat on you in the future.

When you say, ”...that person has a date,” do you mean that he or she is dating someone seriously? If that is the case, it is hands-off.

And in general, it is not a good idea to kiss professional colleagues.

Clearly the answer is to disregard everyone else’s feelings and do only what you want to do right now and ruin an existing relationship for you own gratification.

If they’ll do it to their partner, they’ll do it to you.

Yeah that true if he is cheating on his girlfriend then in the future he could do the same thing back with another person.
Also he hasn’t saw his girlfriend in a year. I will not call it serious realtionship because all they do is talk on the phone.

You know they’re hooked up.

I would go for it. My heart , or my lust always takes over my brain. Sometimes the outcome isn’t so good.:(

True

Nothing…I’ve learned my lesson the hard way

You’ve got a jump on the long distance lover, and their not your friend. Go for it.

I could go for it but one thing I think about if he will cheat on me? I think yes but I’m really not sure.

Whether or not his relationship with his girlfriend is serious, it’s pretty messed up that he’s willing to do this to her after a year of being together. If you like someone enough to be involved with them for a year, it’s pretty disrespectful to kiss someone else for a month. Sure, he could do it to you in the future. The real issue is, do you want to involve yourself with someone like that? You know he is cheating on his girlfriend with you. It would be more self-respecting to stop seeing a guy like that, but maybe your feelings for him will win out. You should definitely think about it.

Then there’s the fact that you work together. If you’re young, and it’s just some after school job that you don’t really care about, it doesn’t matter too much. If this job is how you support yourself, it’s something to worry about. Dating someone you work with can be tricky under the best of circumstances. This guy has been seeing you and his girlfriend for a month, so it’s not like it’s some impulsive, one-time thing- he’s intentionally doing this. If he has it in him to do that, maybe he’s not the nicest guy ever. What if things go wrong in the relationship, and he causes trouble for you at work later?

“That’s The Oldest Story In The World…”
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*I’ve got a gf but we don’t get along well, I know she’s not for me.

*It’s a long distance thing, we’re not actually together.

*We’ve always been off then on again but never serious.

*My girl drives me nuts, I’d be lucky to have one like you.

*I can’t get serious about anyone, I’m already trying to get out of a relationship back…

*You know we shouldn’t be doing this but I really like you and want to be with you.

Everything you said is true I could have some big problems in my job plus the business is a family job my whole family runs it. Sometimes I feel I have done wrong because I will not like if my boyfriend will do that to me. My “so called friends” have said to leave it to peace because they say he just looks like a type of guy which cheats. Also on he works in a different place but still it’s one of my family businesses. My friends told me to talk to him but I really don’t have an idea to say or ask or do… But haven’t had an idea to do.

Will if you know she is not for you why don’t you just be friends. Do you think she might have feels for you? They had told me that long distance really don’t work out.

I’ve learned the hard way over the years to “Trust but verify”. What if it turns out your friend is married and only separated rather than divorced? What if he truly is unhappy but entangled and testing the waters just to get himself some ease and affection at the cost of your trust and time? Have you learned anything about him as far as background like if he’s been a good and respected employee? If he works at another location then there might some tales to tell. Many people have “fished off the dock” and had no relationship problems or fallout on the job but you have to handle it very very carefully, there’s more stress on minding your p’s and q’s, for sure. If you really like this guy then check him, don’t feel intrusive to ask him direct questions because you are worth looking out for and he should know up front you want more than a distraction. If you didn’t then it’s doubtful you’d had asked this question. Protect yourself and then let your heart live a little.

There can be only One!
I never learned how to share. or be shared.

just wait.

I have been very careful with this… He doesn’t get alone with my mother and my mother doesn’t like him. My family don’t know anything about it or they will “fire” him will that what I think. My family really doesn’t care but they don’t like me dating or to talk to people who we work with. Some of my friends say I can do better but when I 1st saw him he got my attention. What my mind is saying to leave it alone because I don’t want any problems but my heart is saying to try the best to be with him but I can’t make a move because I feel something I really can’t say what it can be about his girlfriend. He says he just go with her to go with her. But it makes me mad I just feel like telling him “why don’t you break up with her?”

I’m a girlfriend stealer. I’m seem to have a talent for stealing girls away from their boyfriends. So I’d just probably end up charming her enough to where it’d be ME she’s dating.

I’m actually in this process with a girl that I currently work with. ;)

wow you do have a talent…..!!!

@iam2smart99037

Dastardly~

@iam2smart99037 Do you like doing that???

Move on and have a little more respect for yourself. If this person is doing this to their SO then how worth it can he/she possibly be?? If cheating on his/her SO is this easy, what makes you think they won’t do it to you too? Distance is not a good enough excuse.

its not that i like it. it’s just that if i like somebody, I’m going to do whatever it takes to get them. I find it hard to just sit idly when I can try to get what I want.

i kind of do the same thing but i dont do it on purpose. sometimes i do whatever it takes to get something. im the type of person who gets what they want.

@iam2smart99037 : I am a girlfriend stealer

What happens when the worm turns? Not so charming behavior for either the stealer or the stealee.

That’s so…negative. Life is what it is. I have a hard time believing that if I didn’t have a drive to get what I want, that others would suddenly stop trying to get what THEY want too.

Drives come with cruise control. Hey, why shouldn’t I steal a bag of oranges from someone else’s shopping cart? I want it. Who cares whether I can buy the same oranges from the stall owner?

What you do with your drives is not related to the behavior of others with better impulse control. Nor does it justify it.

Charles Manson made the same argument.

but if i don’t steal oranges that isn’t going to make other people stop stealing too

You can deal only with your moral compass. Keep it true north.