Because more of their actions are reactions than considered or trained. I Would explain the order of operations to be opposite, but before I begin, I would point out that I am speaking in general, not about ALL men in comparison to ALL women. I also disagree with Riser’s account.
Those that I refer to when I use the word ‘men’ apply ethics or consideration prior to decision or conscious desire (one that does not originate in emotion or direct reaction to stimulus), and base their decision of action on the resulting understanding. They also have what I call a list of priorities, and on that list to be prioritized are their desires (emotional or otherwise).
Women react to stimulus, events, or perceptions, and then apply abstraction after the fact to support whatever reaction they performed or decided, defending their (re)action. And they have a list of desires separate from their list of priorities, usually preferring to sate the former until forced to deal with the latter.
I have met many women and men that behaved contrary to this, but the percentages were remarkably low by my count. And I am specifically speaking about adults. When I engage in online chat or video games, I can rarely tell the difference between a boy of 16 years, and a woman of any age.
Incidentally, I agree with Clinton252. I don’t read between the lines (though what lies there is often obvious)... learn how to communicate accurately and without deceit (word games and what I call fuzzy speech). In fact, I have found through questioning, that many women can’t even explain themselves, which causes one to wonder if they even understand themselves well. From my experience, women most often rely on sympathy for communication versus clear concise understanding. Why? My theories and evidence are far too great in volume to put here.
As far as consistency goes, I have found most women consistently inconsistent. That part I find sad is that consistency is the cornerstone of trust. We trust the sun to rise tomorrow because it consistently does so (simple example). It’s also why trust is ‘earned’ over time versus simply given by men. It’s time to experience consistent behavior (versus relying on words that can be conjured to deceive at any specific time). I don’t mean this as negative concerning women’s behavior, after all, many males nowadays behave much the same.
Unpredictable comes from the reactionary versus proactive decision making, and they often find themselves in the difficult position of understanding why they would/should choose one, and why they would/should choose the contrary, and then suffer internal and external debates on which to do.
“I feel this way, but that will cause this, and if he takes it this way, then he might do this…” so on and so forth. Then they choose that which they had chosen from the start, but gathered all the abstraction and evidence needed to support the decision they already made to defend their decision should it be challenged as selfish, petty, and whatever else they thought it might be considered. Note here that with a pre-established set of principles in order of chosen ethical value (for example the tenet to always tell the truth), many of these difficult decisions are only so for the emotional reactions that accompany following the tenet.
Instead of saying to the guy that regularly approaches woman A at her regular bar, “No I am not interested in getting to know or relating to you.” The woman realizes some ‘minor’ deception will get her free drinks. But a firm tenet regarding truth would cause her to get no free drinks, might have an effect on the man, and she will likely have emotional reactions to how he responds. Rejection rarely fosters happy feelings in either the rejector or rejectee if any sympathy be present. Hence the decision to forego a direct and honest severance, of course based on her sympathetic desire to avoid hurting him or his ego.
Hope that helps.
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