Depends on how old you are, but like others have already said, talk to them the same way you talk to boys. Secondly, a good way of approaching people when you’re shy is to start off by asking questions. Next time you see a girl you’d like to get to know better, find something in common, a common interest or hobby, anything you both can relate to, to talk about. If at uni, ask her about homework, class you’re taking, anything, if you know she’s interested in golf, ask her something about golf. If you meet her at a party, ask her how she knows the host etc etc.
Don’t be afraid to pull a joke. Laugh, relax and have fun. :)
Just don’t think about it. If you think about it, you’ll have time to think of dumb shit to say. If you don’t think… you wont have time to think of dumb shit to say.
Trust me… not dwelling over it works. Man up, grow a testicle or two, and just say hi. Just keep asking questions about them in a non-creepy way.
Bad way to compliment her breasts:
Asking her what size her boobs are
Good way to compliment her boobs:
Telling her you really like the shirt she is wearing.
Bad way to say she has a nice ass:
You have a nice ass.
Good way to say she has a nice ass:
I really like those pants. Where did you get them?
If she is reading a book, ask her about the book, and ask if she likes it. Just get her to talk. Girls love to talk about themselves, and they love to be listened to. Don’t ruin it by telling her about you. Not yet. You need to be a mystery. She has to realize… wait, you know everything about me, but I dont know anything about you!
Even then… don’t give in. Make jokes… be funny, even if they arent funny you get points for trying.
Attraction is unattractive. Don’t appear too attracted to her, it looks desperate and it is a major turn off.
Well first approach a girl in a public area (malls) . It seems then that they feel comfortable so will you. Well its always good to approach a girl when she is standing with her friends.
they sometimes can be a great help.
Find activities in groups that include girls. Participate in them and slowly get to know the girls in non-threatening situations. You can easily have conversations about whatever the group is doing. Maybe, over time, you’ll come to like a girl and she’ll come to like you, but that’s not really the goal. The goal is just to socialize and talk, as you said.
@mattbrowne English?!! not so so important. I have seen guys with less knowledge of grammar walk up to really beautiful ladies and in five minutes the ladies are laughing, touching and giving playful punches. Its all about your confidence anyway.
I used to be real shy (still a bit shy) but I can tell you its just like any other thing in life. you have to build momentum steadily and things DO get better with practice. Just start small and KEEP moving. you could start with greeting lots of them and then move on to actually discussing with them
Just a secret: I found out that I kind of become less scared once I am in front of the lady concerned (its too late to run and I might as well make the most of it). Sometimes I deliberately place myself right there to ensure I would not slink off and go hiding somewhere.
If the conversation doesnt go well, make sure you dont kill your own inner self by making silent derisive comments at yourself. You tried. Thats better than the rest.