If everyone dumped their SO as soon as they discovered a physical imperfection, no one would ever get laid.
As a guy, I can honestly say I wouldn’t even notice 99% of the time. Let’s say for the sake of argument that you’re in the 1% who had it so bad I would notice. I can honestly say it wouldn’t bother me in the grand scheme of things.
As soon as a guy starts dating real women, he is bound to realize that those pictures in Playboy, the SI Swimsuit Issue, and hell, even the weekly Target flier don’t represent reality.
And I think a lot of women tend to judge themselves very harshly about physical attributes that quite frankly, guys don’t give two shits about. A lot of women want to be one of those lanky supermodels, or those pixie-ish women who look like little girls, while in real life most guys I know would prefer a little meat on the bones. Women see their ass in the mirror and wish they could make it smaller, while a guy sees it and thinks, “I’d hit that.” I’ve never yet met a woman who didn’t wish she could change something about herself that most guys wouldn’t even notice, and most who did wouldn’t care.
I would also say that both you and the hypothetical guy need to understand the difference between love and attraction. If a relationship is based only on attraction, AND a guy noticed your cellulite, AND was repulsed by it, then he might leave. But he’d have to be extremely shallow first of all, and second of all, it would have to mean that he neither loved nor cared about you. He lusted after you, period, you were a fantasy, and when that fantasy died, so did your relationship. If it’s more than a fantasy, if a guy TRULY enjoys your company because he likes you as a person, no single physical imperfection, particularly one that can only be seen in a very limited set of circumstances, is going to make him want to give that up.
Think about it…if every guy insisted on physical perfection from their mates, they’d have to be able to offer it up themselves, or be seen as hypocrites. Some guys are that shallow, but they’re jerks and you’re better off without them, because these are the same guys who might promise to love you till death do you part, but sees his attorney to draw up divorce papers at the first sign of crow’s feet. No one would ever be married for more than 10 years if guys were by and large willing to cut and run for something like cellulite.
My advice, if that’s the reason a guy breaks up with you, consider yourself LUCKY that you found out before you made a mistake. In some ways, you’re far luckier as someone who is physically attractive to have such a potential “deal-breaker” because you can use it as a tool to weed out the jerks from the nice guys (and in my experience there are more nice guys out there than jerks, it’s just that jerks tend to be braver about asking women out and thus most women encounter a few jerks before they find a nice guy).
In short, I doubt any guy worth dating would care 10% as much as you do. And what’s more, it’s really just a way to sell insecure women beauty products…the first printed mention of the word came in the late 1960s in Vogue magazine. Cellulite is just naturally occurring dimpling of the skin, it’s a less than smooth skin topography. I’d honestly be willing to wager that you’d be hard pressed to find a married guy who would count his wife’s cellulite among her top 10 physical imperfections, and most guys who would even dare say out loud that their wives were in any way imperfect would tell you that the things that make their wives less than “perfect” are often the things they actually like most about these women. Women get hung up on the belief that there’s some ideal of physical beauty they must ascribe to, but most guys find that lack of variety to be a turn-off….you’ve seen one skinny ass bleached blonde, you’ve seen ‘em all. Slight imperfections actually give people character. Extreme imperfections scare people. But I have a hard time even conceptualizing cellulite that could be bad enough to even come close to being described as an “extreme” imperfection by any reasonable person.
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