I really have issues with people at work asking me how what i did on the weekend and what's my plan for the weekend at work...

I make stuff up. Obviously off-the-wall responses.

What am I doing this weekend? Oh, I was challenged to a duel to first-blood for my sister’s honour. We’re meeting at the old church at the edge of town at high noon. That reminds me, I need to sharpen my rapier… ::trail off, leave::

I would give them believable but untrue (perhaps) scenarios; bowling league, martial arts tournament, parkour practice, sporting clays event, etc…tons o’ fun.

I would say “Why do you ask?”

However, just because someone asks how you are or what you are doing on the weekend does not mean they fear silence. We are social by nature. If we were not, sites such as this would not exist.

Answering questions about your plans or lack thereof does not cross any work/private life paradigm. It’s people doing what people do.

I assume you have some friends in this world. If so, you must have engaged them at some point or been engaged by them. And almost assuredly someone you have worked with at some point has been a friend, though your post indicates that shouldn’t be.

I really like the people I work with, so if they ask me what I did over the weekend I don’t mind sharing.

@suzie271 I agree with every word of your post. I could care less what co-workers do on the weekends (or during the week for that matter).

To birdland..yes i have no desire to be friends with people at work… I have a couple people at work that I am friendly with yes and do discuss some of my private life but as for the others I could really care less….. You either connect with people or you don’t.. i don’t consider anyways asking people what they did on the weekend to be social…
I am not looking to work for friends…as I have no intention of spending my life in an office…
You spend 8 hours of your life in an office .. why spend anymore?
Finally as far as I am concerned work friends and life friends are not one and the same…
because of the professional nature of work it is difficult to get to know people’s true personality..

must make the day drag, but, ok

I tell them about the wedding I attended on Betazed.

I’m totally having a Betazoid wedding next time. Think of all the money you save on dresses and tux rental.

Many of them do ask for the sake of politeness so I responded with a polite non specific answer. It doesn’t cost me a thing.