There is a good chance that my SO and I are pregnant. Can anyone answer some questions for me before we head to the doctor?

Okay, if you’re reading this then right off the start I want to say Thank You.

I have the tell-tale signs of being pregnant. My period is two+ weeks late, I am constantly nauseous from the time I get up in the morning to when I finally fall asleep. (It has been very unpleasant!) My breasts are very tender, nipples swollen, and constipation along with frequent urination.

Now, I know that as much as it seems like a pregnancy it could very well not be, so my SO and I are going to head to the doctor’s tonight to have it confirmed one way or another.

I’m sitting here at work and my mind is going a mile a minute. I know that asking doctor related questions on the internet is pretty silly, but I guess since I can’t think of anything else but this possibility, I will ask a few questions I have to you all.

Personal experience answers are more than welcome!

I have talked with my SO and as it stands we are unsure if we will keep the baby. (I’m going to basically type as if I know I’m pregnant, it will just be easier..) The idea of abortion is hard for us both. We love one another very much and without a doubt want to get married and have a family one day. Thinking about losing our first baby together is heart-wrenching. However, in saying all of that, we are just not ready. I’ll be 22 in August and I feel that there is so much I have yet to do in my life. That in no way justifies NOT having a baby, but there are other factors also.

Financially, we are not in a place to start a family. We are old fashioned in that there is an order to things, marriage, being a young married couple, then children. I guess one never is truly ready to take on the responsibilities of having a baby.

We do consider the option of keeping this baby, raising him/her and diving into the world of parenthood.

Being that this is an unplanned pregnancy there are some concerns to the health of the baby. This is where my questions come in..

I rarely drink, and by rarely I mean about once a month that amounts to a glass of wine. This past Sunday I did just that and had a glass of wine. If I’m pregnant there is no way on Earth I would ever drink, but because it was unknown and I was unaware I’m worried that if we choose to carry the baby to full term it may have defects because of the glass of wine.

Also, I smoke marijuana every night directly before I go to bed. Now, I’m not a “pothead” or a “chronic” where I’m always stoned. It is strictly medicinal and is used in a way to only help me sleep. I suffer from night terrors and an “over-active” imagination. Sleeping pills made me feel like garbage where as with the weed I wake up feeling great and rested. Again, if I knew I was pregnant all drinking and smoking pot would cease. I would never intentionally put my baby in harms way.

So, my question is, basically, that if I’m 2–3 weeks pregnant have drank once and had a small amount of pot each night how likely would it be that the baby has been harmed?

Any and all other information, ideas, suggestions or just words of wisdom are more than welcome :)

Thanks for reading my long question and for taking the time to write your response. I’m looking forward to reading it all!

Much lurve,
LB