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Draconess25's avatar

What do you want in a partner physically?

Asked by Draconess25 (4430 points ) June 24th, 2010

I know personality is #1, but after that’s taken care of.

In guys or girls, I like them thin, but muscular. And I like a bubble butt. With girls, I don’t really care too much about their boobs, but I at least want them past training bras.

I also like long hair. For guys, I prefer it to be past their ears. For girls, it better be past their shoulders. And I like them pale, unless they have dark hair.

Oh, & I like it when they wear eyeliner!

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sleepdoc's avatar

OK for some reason 2 of these popped up. I answered the other one but since it is now deleted I will try again. I like to see some curves. I really seem to notice hair and eyes. It is not that I have a particular type ie. blue eyed brunette. But if the eyes are attractive and she has nice hair that will turn my head. Is that specifically vague enough?

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

I would like mine to be cute sexy good personality fine! funny like me muscular a little tan but not like some ham! takes good care of himself! good hygeine.

Seek's avatar

I like big guys. Tall, broad shoulders, muscular. Slender and muscular is good too, but still has to be tall (tall = at least 6” taller than me. I’m about 5’ 2”). I lurve long hair, and prefer clean-shaven, though a well-tended beard can be acceptable if you have the face for it. I’ve never really been attracted to a non-Caucasian, either. Must be that genetics thing. I like brown eyes and green eyes. Blue eyes weird me out.

No makeup, no “manscaping”, no purse-wielding, and no cologne. I’d really rather smell sweat than 1298679872 chemical fragrances.

CMaz's avatar

Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
As long as they take care of their body and know how to use it. That is a good start.

dpworkin's avatar

I want my girlfriend to look jut like herself. There is one must-have: she can’t be dead.

tinyfaery's avatar

I have no type. A person is the amalgam of all their parts, not just the physical. My wife has aged from 20 to 30 in the time that we have been together and her physical appearance has changed, but she is still the sexiest person I know.

dpworkin's avatar

I agree. My girlfriend was a youngish size six when we met, and is a post-menopausal size 16 now, but I am just as attracted to her as ever, if not more.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@dpworkin That lack of a pulse is a dealbreaker. Other than that, whatever.

Vunessuh's avatar

I’d like them to be a clone of Josh Brolin.
But the actual Josh Brolin would be better.

Leanne1986's avatar

If it’s a man then he has to be stronger than me! I also prefer very short hair or a shaved head on a man, if there’s one thing I can’t stand it’s hair that is caked in gel.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Height is important to me, being 5’9” myself. If the hair on his head is longer than ½ inch – I’m not interested. Strange, but that’s a deal breaker for me. Broad shoulders, big hands, and nice skin are all perks.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Vunessuh I was thinking you were referring to James Brolin and thinking isn’t he a little old for you?

Sarcasm's avatar

I just want this. That can’t be asking too much, can it?

Draconess25's avatar

@Sarcasm Meh, lipstick is a turn-off for me.

ucme's avatar

Angeli…no no come on resist….Angelina…now stop it be sensible….ANGELINA JOLIE!!!.There I said it & I don’t care see….ahem, err…yeah well I am high maintenance so something we have in common from the get go ;¬}

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I like ‘em confident in their bodies – I like their bodies to have both sharp and soft edges and I like androgyny.

DominicX's avatar

I love short hair on a guy, usually as short as mine (which is what my boyfriend has). I prefer an athletic build, but not super muscular. I liked a shaved face and preferably as tall as me or taller. Anything else just has to do with the specifics and peculiarities of the face and it’s not easy to describe…some people just “click” with me in terms of their appearance. I’ll know what I’m attracted to when I see it. :)

chyna's avatar

@Sarcasm You deserve it, go for her!

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Chyna pointed out bad breath could be another dealbreaker. So pulse and good breath and whatever.

Seek's avatar

You know what a deal breaker is for me? Soft hands. Seriously. That might actually be more important than pulse.

wilma's avatar

Slim, muscular build, smiling eyes, clean well groomed hands with long fingers, nice teeth, fresh breath, clear skin, soft clean hair (no gunk in it), a smooth confident but never cocky kind of a walk. I also prefer a smooth hairless chest.

chyna's avatar

No hair growing out the nose. You know, the length you could brush.

Tall, great smile, good teeth, physically fit, nice butt.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Soft hands is an interesting dealbreaker. Nose hair (brushable) I can understand.

wilma's avatar

Now,...
I didn’t say my partner had all those attributes, that was just my fantasy wishlist.

HGl3ee's avatar

About 5’10”, muscular but not “ripped” (I’m not one to enjoy hugging a sack of potatoes.) Eyes, beautiful eyes will melt my heart in a beat. I love when he has a bit of a tummy, “mechanics hands”, body hair but not yeti like; umm short hair tattoos are a major turn on unless they say “Thug life” or “Fiddy Cent” ugh.

Hmmm what else do I love about my SO perfect guy.. Cute nose, beard, I looooove beards, but not Santa ones, trimmed neatly kept ones.

Awh :( I miss him now…

Seek's avatar

I just appreciate a man that knows the value of working with your hands – whether it be building things, playing music, or even pottery.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Seek_Kolinahr I can appreciate that.

Draconess25's avatar

@DominicX Yeah, forgot about facial hair. I don’t like facial hair or body hair, but hair down there is okay.

le_inferno's avatar

I’ve always been really attracted to facial hair. I love a guy with a nice, trimmed beard, or a week or so of stubble… so hot. Strong jawlines, too.
Like @Seek_Kolinahr, I am attracted to broad/tall men. But I’ve also found myself attracted to ones on the skinny side.
I like longish, touseled hair, or a close-cropped cut, but again, no real rules there. I’ve been attracted to a guy with hair at his shoulders.

In all honesty, I’m not too picky, I’m a teenage bundle of hormones. I’m pretty flexible as long as I’m into his personality. I’ve been attracted to all sorts of men…different shapes, races, sizes, hair length. I just like… men. :D

Jude's avatar

Not much taller than I (I’m 5’2”), a pleasant face, in fairly good shape, a beautiful smile, and pretty eyes.

All of her own teeth! :)

I have a thing for brunettes with hazel, green or brown eyes. My current girlfriend has red, curly hair and green eyes. My last was blond and blue eyed… (?)

Really, though, I don’t have a type.

(I love a nice pair of legs)

HGl3ee's avatar

As for women, I’m very very picky. I absolutely love the female body and consider it a beautiful work of art. I catch myself staring at beautiful women with no shame, oh man I’m a creeper!!

Anyways, I love long dirty blonde hair with a loose wavy curl to it. big pouty lips, stunning smile, cute nose. Tall (5’8”+) tan, big eyes no matter what color, big full chest with gravity defying cleavage (I loooooove BOOBS!!) Don’t mind if they are fake or not, just love them big round and full mmmmmmmmmmmm, tight round bum, long slender yet toned legs.

Yes, I love Barbie doll women <3 My ex-girlfriend was just that and ohmigosh she was magnificent <3

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I’m a sucker for pale, freckled redheads, 5’4”, 34AA-25–34 with emerald green eyes, speak French and are named “Meghan”.

chyna's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land That’s pretty vague.

Facade's avatar

I love big men. Over six feet, and over 200lbs. Muscular. Smooth skin; I’m indifferent to color. Nice hair; locs would be best. And I have to admit, I love a man with a face similar in structure to that of a model or just plain handsome. He has to have an overall well-groomed appearance. Penis over 6.5 inches long and between 1.5 and 2 inches in diameter =)

Draconess25's avatar

@jjmah Yeah, Ellie is half a foot taller than Rachel & I, & she has to lift us up to make out!

HGl3ee's avatar

@Draconess25 : I swear you just keep getting more and more interesting! (and better and better :D)

Jude's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land You don’t often see a redheaded French Canadian. :)

Draconess25's avatar

@HeatherGrace How exactly? The fact that I have multiple partners & amazing music taste?

Jude's avatar

@Draconess25 When they’re small like me, we fit together nicely. :)

HGl3ee's avatar

@Draconess25 : Actually yah, I’m quite envious! and ahem turned on by it

dpworkin's avatar

Those of you who claim to have very precise physical requirements (height, relative muscularity, leg length, breast size, penis size, etc.) don’t you ever worry that you might have bypassed the love of your life for a very trivial reason?

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@jjmah Her niece is redhead also. There’s some Celtic in their family tree.

Facade's avatar

@dpworkin As one of those people, I don’t think it’s trivial since I’d have to look at him everyday. Why not look at something that I like?

dpworkin's avatar

I have a pretty well-honed aesthetic sensibility, too, but if I held my girlfriend to my aesthetic standards I would lose the love of my life. What a waste that would be! In comparison to the very large meaning of the loss of a long-term companion and a loving relationship, physical appearance becomes trivial, does it not? Or maybe for some, temporary beauty is more important than lifelong companionability; but then what happens when you become old, and are no longer so lovely to look at?

Facade's avatar

@dpworkin Black don’t crack =)

DominicX's avatar

@dpworkin

I can’t speak for everyone, but my physical “requirements” were just general preferences describing what I find myself most frequently attracted to.

dpworkin's avatar

@DominicX I guess that’s what I meant: how much do you need someone to fit your “requirements”. Thanks for your answer.

nikipedia's avatar

Right now, this is pretty ideal.

Haleth's avatar

I don’t really have a physical type, but I’m very attracted to certain mannerisms. If someone uses body language to subtly flirt and gradually invite me into their space, it’s very sexy.

dpworkin's avatar

@nikipedia the guy in the red jacket, or the bald guy?

knitfroggy's avatar

I like big guys. The taller the better. My husband isn’t particularly tall, he’s about 6ft., but he’s got some meat on his bones. I like guys with nice, clean hands.

chyna's avatar

@nikipedia Oh yeah, him!

wilma's avatar

@nikipedia and @chyna ya, him. ;-)

dpworkin's avatar

So, like, the bald guy, I’m guessing.

tinyfaery's avatar

Okay, if we are talking fantasy (Maybe NSFW). I wouldn’t kick her out of bed.

nikipedia's avatar

@dpworkin: He makes bald look good, doesn’t he?

dpworkin's avatar

It makes me wonder what it would be like to go through life looking like that.

nikipedia's avatar

Probably pretty sweet. But you have your lady; why would you want anything else? Right?

dpworkin's avatar

That isn’t the point. Everything must be different. Maybe this is a topic for a different thread. (Maybe she would like it better if I did look like that.)

nikipedia's avatar

Do it! New thread!

Jude's avatar

Wouldn’t kick her out of bed. Lovely.

Dark hair, dark eyes. I could do without the huge jugs, though. I’m not big on the bigguns’.

I tend to love exotic looking women, yet, my girlfriend is a redheaded Irish/Hungarian girl with freckles.

Again, I really don’t have a type.

Scooby's avatar

I’m easy really! If we connect then I leave the door open ! I never make the first move but I make my Intentions obvious, they either run & hide or jump right in, s’all good! ;-)
we’re still friends, whatever…..

chyna's avatar

@Scooby Why do you not make the first move?

Scooby's avatar

@chyna

I guess it’s the gentleman inside me? :-/

chyna's avatar

@Scooby Oh, I thought you meant you didn’t call them back, you let them call you.

Scooby's avatar

@chyna

I try not to push myself on people, if they respond in kind then I do too, I always call back though….. ;-)

Keysha's avatar

I’ve always been attracted to Aris’s type. Long, straight, dark hair, fit muscular build (not bodybuilder overmuscled), lightly tanned, luscious arms (I’m a sucker for good arms on a guy), tall enough I just fit under his chin, light eyes, and well-shaped features.

If he had no scars, I’d have to wonder why. Aris has his share, as well as a bump on his once-broken nose (or more times). They are part of his appeal. I love his reaction when I trace my fingertips over his scars.

After meeting Aris, I realized that the type I looked at the most, was perfected in him.

Draconess25's avatar

@Keysha Yes, scars are almost a must for me. Ellie doesn’t quite have enough, but I won’t force her.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Draconess25 @Keysha Can either of you explain why?

Draconess25's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Scars are a sign of what they’ve been through. I guess if they’ve been through more, they might be more understanding of my own pain. And I just find them sexy, dunno why exactly.

Keysha's avatar

For me, I don’t know anyone that can go through life, living life, without getting a few scars. I don’t mean people that self-injure. I mean people that fall down when running, bump into things, get cut helping others, and so on.

If you self-injure, use scarification, or the like, stay away from me. I find the first contemptible, the second boring, and anything else not interesting.

@Draconess25 I don’t want people to go get scars. There is no such thing as ‘not quite enough’. I find that kind of thought abhorrent. Please don’t identify my desire to see someone that has lived life, enjoyed it, and experienced it without worrying about a few injuries or scars – appearances not dictating they get plastic surgery and such – with your seeming desire to see someone scarred up. I do not appreciate the comparison.

The scars Aris has, he has earned not bought or had done. Nor does he self-injure. Just as he does not care that my abdomen now is scarred all over from my numerous surgeries and issues, I call the ones he has gotten ‘fancy embroidery’

Draconess25's avatar

@Keysha Oh, if I ever caught Ellie hurting herself, she’d get her ass kicked. I just find it….enviable that she’s been through so little.

bob_'s avatar

I like breasts. A lot.

@jjmah Sorry, but I’ve already called dibs [NSFW-ish]. @Simone_De_Beauvoir can totally back me up.

@Draconess25 @Keysha So this is true, huh?

Jude's avatar

@bob_ share?

bob_'s avatar

@jjmah I do believe multilateralism is a much better policy.

Jude's avatar

@bobbey =)!

DominicX's avatar

@Keysha

I kind of like scars too, actually. My boyfriend has a few from various skateboarding and BMX injuries and it’s kind of cool in a way. It’s not like he’s super tough and hardcore. The fact that he isn’t seems to add to the appeal of them to me for some reason. I’ve had scars in the past, but I’ve never had injuries bad enough to keep them there for that long.

bob_'s avatar

I oughta get the Nobel for this.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Well, yeah I don’t mind scars but I don’t search for them on a partner.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I’d always been embarassed about my scars until a lovely lady taught me to see them from a different perspective.

Ludy's avatar

a pretty face, handsome, the body nah, when there’s atraction it doesn’t matter to me some (some) things do gross me out like acne that is a totally no no.

Ludy's avatar

scars, are you kidding me ? who cares? A person with no scars is not interesting :)

Steve_A's avatar

I tend to have a soft spot for women with glasses

I like some of the old styles of women fashions from varying decades some are very I don’t,just sexy to me.

Certain women with tattos and no not just the “tramp stamp” I’m talking like the one from Miami ink oh man very hot…..

Overall I really ain’t picky….good hygiene that is always a turn on haha :D

Ludy's avatar

man you took so long to answer, I was waiting and waiting, and also i agree w/ you hygiene is indispensable

Steve_A's avatar

@Ludy lol I was changing my music around and looking for some pics, I guess if you start to type and leave it says crafting still :D haha

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

Body? Just that he takes care of it…he puts good stuff into it….and doesn’t abuse it with drugs, gallons of alcohol and fried Mars bars and slabs of bacon dipped in chocolate.

Hair—short as in John Cusack short. I love eyes that look like they are smiling all the time. That sort of “twinkle”. I like large strong hands that have a callous or two. The best part of a man’s body, though, to me….is what is in between his ears. He has to be incredibly intelligent, well-read, and have a great sense of humor. The body is secondary to that for me.

Arisztid's avatar

My physical preference is for the appearance of my own ethnicity (or those that look like us) but physical preference is not what I go by or dictate who I desire. However, you are asking for physical ideal here so that is what I am going to say. I am bisexual so shall list both:

Women: I love them to fit under my chin. I do not know why I like that so much but I do. I find Rroma Gypsy women the most beautiful in coloring (black hair, brown eyes, darker skin)... though eye color is unimportant. Physically, think the stereotypical “bar maid” we see in films are read of in books: buxum, curvaceous, etc. (I am certain that reality did not reflect this) Oh long hair.

Keysha does not meet my absolute physical ideal in all ways but I do not give a squirt. I would be with her no matter what she looked like. However, she is my perfect woman because, as I said, physical ideal is not my barometer of how I view a person.

Men: I really did not plan it this way but, basically, the good side of the Rroma male gene pool. Some of us are butt oogly and a lot do not age well but the good ones are great. long black hair, eye color unimportant, darker skin, my height or a bit less or a bit more, muscular (not bodybuilder)

My male love (yes, I am bisexual and, yes, I am polyamorous) just turned out that way (he is Greek with kind of a golden color to his skin) but, like with Keysha, I would not have given two squirts if he happened to be wearing another body (yes, they are great friends).

I do not like fake tans, either bottle or salon, on anyone.

I, too, prefer scars if they are earned honestly because it shows that a person has lived an active, interesting life. Each scar is a story. I got mine from normal childhood stuff, working on cars, sword and knife sparring, a fight where the wannabe robber clipped me, a couple of pox marks, and more. I am also not bothered in the least or turned off by Keysha’s surgical scars. I am not that superficial and am actually appalled when someone loses desire for their s/o due to things like surgery. To me, those are her war wounds… a battle hard fought with no certainty of her survival.

I prefer not “perfect” features because that is not interesting. Here is a perfect example.

le_inferno's avatar

I don’t understand this fascination with scars. A lot of the time, they’re just mundane as hell. I have heard numerous boring stories like, “I hit my head on a table when I was 2” or “I fell” or “I burned my arm on the stove.” In fact, I’ve never heard an “interesting” scar story. My boyfriend has a scar from falling asleep with his arm on the radiator. Zomg, sooo awesome~. Oftentimes, scars don’t tell you a damn thing about who a person is, what they’re about, or what they’ve gone through in life. More often than not, they’re the result of a common injury or a solitary accident. Not every scar has some mind-blowing story. Life isn’t like Hollywood, people. Just because a person doesn’t have a myriad of permanent scars on their body doesn’t mean they’re not interesting or active.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Good hygeine! Other than that my ideal is:
Clean shaven
Taller than me
Proportionate body
Hair

Keysha's avatar

@bob_ Just so you know, I find that cartoon stupid in the extreme, It shows either you did not read what I said or you are deliberately being offensive.

@Draconess25 Oh. I did not read your remark as that way. We agree, then.

@le_inferno I don’t go out and look for scars, but, if I saw a person that, in fact, had none, I’d have to wonder whether that person was so vain as to get plastic surgery to hide them all, or never lived enough of a life to get any.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@le_inferno The scars that have mind blowing stories to go with them are usually on people who don’t want to tell the stories.

Seek's avatar

Oh, I love scars – but they have to have a good story. If the scar’s story is too mundane – seriously, make something up. It’s the creativity that counts, not the truth. ^_^

My husband has a scar on his arm from swordfighting with a friend when he was 13, a gash on his left eyebrow from his mother chasing him around the house and him smashing his head into the corner of an open door, and a split right eyebrow, caused by a snapping bungee cord (I was present for that one), and a huge scar on his shin from a saw kicking a board back on him and nearly taking his whole friggin leg off. (Yes, I exaggerate, but not by much).

sleepdoc's avatar

@nikipedia you are going to have to fight my wife for him

Jude's avatar

I couldn’t give a flying fig out of a rolling donut about scares. Who cares? (see my “who gives a shit thread”)

Jude's avatar

(make that scars).

dpworkin's avatar

(should we also make it “who cars”?

Jude's avatar

@dpworkin Haha! brat!

le_inferno's avatar

@Keysha That’s my point, though. Why must you assume someone “never lived enough of a life” just because they don’t have scars? The only scars I have are a miniscule one on my knee from falling on blacktop in kindergarten, and another small, faint one on my back from a mole removal. Are you gonna tell me my life hasn’t been full or interesting? I’ve had my share of incidents and injuries. They healed, though. That tends to happen.

And like I said in my earlier post, a person who DOES have scars has not necessarily “lived enough of a life.” The scars often occur from something quite mundane. A man may have lived alone in his mother’s basement his entire life may be covered in scars, from say, burns, falls, etc. Shit happens, it’s not always interesting.

Keysha's avatar

@le_inferno Scars are not always visible. Some are on the heart. Those count, too. My question to you is, why do you find my feelings so offensive? Frankly, with the way you are acting, I would not find you attractive or interesting. And I happen to find interest in most people for what they are inside, not their surface. I am not that shallow.

This question was purely about the physical attributes you look for in a partner. Not about life choices for everyone you meet. Nor about what else you look for. Try looking at my answer as just that. Answering the question and nothing more. And stop attacking my choices. I do not attack yours.

Jude's avatar

Some like scars. Some do not. Settled.

Let’s carry on..

dpworkin's avatar

Or, y’all could make some nice scars on one another over this issue.

bob_'s avatar

@Keysha Humor is subjective, evidently.

DominicX's avatar

@jjmah

Some people seem to judge others based on the absence of scars. I think that’s what makes it different.

I’m on the “like scars” side, but if a person doesn’t have any, I couldn’t care less and I probably wouldn’t even notice.

Jude's avatar

@DominicX whatever makes you (or anyone else) happy. I mean that. :)

mattbrowne's avatar

Tiny wrinkles that form from the nose to the mouth, also known as laugh lines or nasolabial folds ;-)

chyna's avatar

@mattbrowne People pay big money to get rid of those lines with some kind of filler injections, and now, we find out, men like those lines!

Jude's avatar

@mattbrowne‘s an interesting guy.

Facade's avatar

@mattbrowne I love facial lines too =)

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I should add to my list: first aid training and the ability to drive a manual shift.

Ludy's avatar

oh i thought it was about physical characteristics, well I’d say honesty, sounds like not a big deal but to me is cause none of the guys i’ve dated are.

mattbrowne's avatar

I do like people who smile and laugh frequently ;-)

le_inferno's avatar

@Keysha I’m not “offended” by your opinion, I’m merely challenging it. I’m sorry you viewed it as an attack. I’m also sorry that you felt the need to voice your negative prejudices against my character.

Gokey's avatar

The combination of ginger hair and brown eyes make me weak in the knees.

Keysha's avatar

@le_inferno Why do you feel a need to ‘challenge’ my opinion? It is my opinion and preference, not anyone else’s, and it does not impact you one way or another.

le_inferno's avatar

@Keysha Well this site (and the world) would be awfully boring if no one debated anything. Relax. Let it go.

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