Help, my ex continually bad-mouths me to our children.
My ex-husband is clearly very hurt about the fact that we are no longer married. Our divorce has been final for nearly two years, our marriage was disintegrating for years before that, and we were full on estranged for the last year and a half. Even with all this time, he has not dealt with his pain and insists on sharing it with our children. He consistently tries to come across to them as mortally wounded by the end of our marriage and makes it perfectly clear that – in his mind at least – I am 100% responsible. I certainly made some missteps in the time we were splitting, but I see no reason for him to share all the gruesome details with our children. He continually does this and it is starting to wear on me. Every time they return home from visiting they are disrespectful or even down right defiant. I have asked him time and again to stop undermining me with them and to stop bad mouthing me, but he refuses. I have never told them anything about the way he mistreated me over the years and have steadfastly refused to speak negatively of their father to them. I am at my wits end! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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