Do you ever think that someone out there considers you "the one that got away"?

I’m more the bullet that was dodged.

sometimes i think of myself as the guy that no one wants…until i get a confidence boost or am too busy doing other things to worry about that sort of thing.

I guess, considering I have ex’s that still call on occasion, and believe me, my wife loves those calls! I will usually let her answer unknown numbers, and then it’s a stutter-fest or a dial-tone!

@bulb: just how many ex’s are there?

Yeah, I think stevenb is having a similar problem: http://www.fluther.com/disc/10959/why-do-my-ex-gfs-keep-looking-me-up-years-later/

Many ex-girlfriends but only one wife!

I would like to add that I never think of these girls, and don’t consider myself “The one that got away”! Usually letting the wife answer, gives them the hint!

Yes. They are misguided.

I like to think that every woman I’ve ever dated thinks that. Why bog down a wonderful thought like that with minor little details like being true :p.

Well, gorilla, if your avatar is evidence, you are clearly right; )

Wonder? What’s to wonder? Guys come up to me in the grocery store
several times a year, nice guys I always thought it would be okay to get
to know better, and they tell me “I never meant to tell you this, but you
know I had this incredible crush on you for years, and, well, now you know,
gulp.” All the time.

I’m gonna have to go with @MrKnowItAll on this one.

I think there is probably 1 or 2 ex boyfriends that consider me the one who got away and there is an ex-husband that is relieved that he got away!

It probably is self-centered to wonder but it’s just too delicious to resist from time-to-time. {{giggles}}

I often feel like zack said earlier. mtl_zack :“sometimes i think of myself as the guy that no one wants…”.....darn my bad luck..

probably, but I don’t really care.

@susanc wow, all the time?

No, not ALL the time. I was
stretching a point there. Just, let’s say, enough to make me feel appreciated.

I wouldnt say the one they got away but more so the “what if guy”

I don’t think so. It would be nice though. I think there are guys out there who if they seen me might wish they would have asked me out years ago. But I don’t think I ever just cross someone’s mind. I’m not that memorable.

I used to think I was the one that got away but then I realized I was the one who was saved.

I know that to quite a few people i’m “the one that was never available…”

Yes. I feel it is not self centered to say that, since I am not the one thinking it.

I am literally the one that got away. I lived with an abusive idiot in Ohio, and when I left him, I took the first available plane to Florida. He found me twice down there, and 15 years later when I flew back to Ohio for my father’s funeral, a cousin told me that he had been calling her for all those years looking for me. He apparently had been calling everyone in the phone book with the same last name as mine. Since my last name is not a common one, they were all relatives.

I don’t think he knows my married name, but he is still trying. In my paticular case, it’s not being self centered, because I want him to stop.

Im sorry scamp, that sucks and he seems pretty stalkerish!

Yeah, he’s really twisted. I had nightmares about him for years. As far as I know, he has no idea where I am now tho.

@scamp glad to hear you were able to ‘get away” . hopefully he will never be able to locate you again.

@mrknowitall – hahaha, I agree with you on this one. I’m probably considered the dodged bullet.

I don’t think it’s wrong to think like that, but I have definitely been there. One of those, it’s too bad that you let me get away cause I could have done you alot of good.
Why would there be anything wrong with thinking that, if anything it just means you have a positive image of yourself.

Aww, hopefully. Hey don’t you love it when you see an ex whom you haven’t seen for a while and you just know you’re gonna get one of those ‘so how r u’ texts any minute now

i actually just ran into the guy that let me get away actually, and since then, hes driven past my house a couple times, and has been sending me texts…
too late

I was engaged when I had been in the Marine Corps only 3 years at that point. I didn’t know what the future held. My fiance wanted to be a missionary right away, she was just finishing up college. While she was away to a mission project in NYC she found another guy that wanted to be a missionary as well. She waited till I arrived back from deployment to let me know that she was interested in him now and was breaking up with me. I received my ring back. Now I am getting ready to finish up my degree and retire from the Marine Corps. They are missionaries in Wonder Valley, California, a little town of 15 people in the middle of the desert. I bet from time to time she at least wonders what it would have been like to be with me, if she should have been faithful to me. I agree with Lunafemme it is a bit self centered to think this way, but it is gratifying and fun every once in a while.

yes I do believe that someone feels like that….because we always run into each other..sometimes not for years and everytime I see him we laugh and tell eachother everything. When it’s time to go I’ll say bye and he’ll go in for and hug and say “I love ya” then look sad when I leave.

I’d like to think so….

yesssss,
ha haa!
and, i’ve all ways been grateful for the things that didn’t work out.
i did most of my maturing/evolution through heartache, and real eyesing why and when i needed to GO.
**its kinda more self-appreciation, than the harsher slant of self-centered thinking. it’s a way that i remember: ho. i’m awesome and damn good lookin’ ; )

Oh yeah…there’s a few.
Sucks to be them!

Yes, I had one to look me up about 4 years later and tell me…too late, it didn’t do any good, I had moved on.

No.I was an asshole to my boyfriends in the past.I feel bad about it now though and have changed.Although my sister feels that my very first b.f was the one that got away from me!
He was a really good guy!

no, i doubt it. I never dated that much. And I was never in love with any of them; so I doubt they were with me.