Do you and your S.O. share an email account?

i’d never do it, my email is private…that’s it

Nope! I have mine, and he has his. I don’t check his, and he doesn’t check mine.

Similar thread here.

And like I said in that thread, I think it’s totally creepy and an invasion of boundaries.

No. My wife and I have our own separate ones. But she can certainly see mine whenever she wants, and vice versa.

@niki – It is a similar thread, but the question’s premise is different. I am talking about an email account that you both share rather than 2 separate accounts that you each have access to through known passwords.

Nope…why in the world would you?

We did up until about a year ago. And, had that same one for probably ten years. I kept that one, and she got her own. There’s nothing in my e-mail that she can’t see.

Considering how easy it is to have personal accounts – and managing multiple accounts on same computer, I really don’t see why people would share one account. I wouldn’t like my friends doing that. I might not want their SO to see what I send to them.
My husband and I share a domain, but not email address.

I know people that do share e-mail accounts but my SO and I do not. We are able to access each others account if we wanted to, but don’t. Same as @cprevite. Hopefully, that says something good about our relationships.

I would not have a problem , nor would he, for us to check each other’s email. We are not trying to hide anything.

I need by own space and privacy.

We have separate accounts, but like cprevite and witchhazel, we both know each other’s passwords. We could look at each other’s email, but we don’t and wouldn’t without asking although I can’t imagine why I would ask. If there is anything we want the other to see, which happens fairly often, we forward it to each other.

My grandparents share an e-mail. It seems better this way actually as far as my grandparents go. I mean they share everything else. And no e-mails come in directly for one or the other.

As for me me and my b/f do not share one, but we both know how to access each others. If for any reason we ended up living in the same house together and things of that nature I dont believe we would share one. It would be way to cluttered, and unorganized. Its better to keep our things separate.

No, I have mine own as does WTF, but WTF has all my passwords or knows where to get them should I need him too.
I have nothing to hide from him. Nor he from me…

My husbend and I don’t share an email account, but it’s not because we keep anything from eachother, it’s just because we both have a bunch of emails and we don’t want to get confused at whose is whose.

We do know eachother’s passwords though, not that we ever use them…

Such an odd question! I only thought that people born out of the digital age did that (my parents, grandparents and such). Fascinating to think that younger couples would share a personal email account! It seems odd to me. I do know one couple who got a gmail account to deal with wedding stuff specifically, but that is different due to the jointness of the endeavor. Oh, the Fluther! Always making me think…

aint no way in the world. she’d never understand.

We have our own accounts but know each other’s passwords. I don’t care if he checked my email but he doesn’t, nor do I check his.

We share an email address but most of his email gets sent to his work address. I don’t think he reads mail that is obviously for me, though it would be okay, and I don’t read his.

I’m not sure what’s weird or not weird about it. It just is.

To me, the biggest downside of a shared email is how it’ll impact your relationship with your friends. I know when my friend shared email address with her SO, I didn’t pour my heart out over email – I wouldn’t want him to see that!
As a result, we shared less. Now she has her own, so I can be a bit more free with what I write to her.

Heck no.

Not that I have anything to hide, but sometimes you need to vent to a friend or whatever and reading that sort of thing in someone else’s email can be hurtful, especially since you don’t know their mindset and it being text in email can make things sound harsher.

Nope, sharing an email account doesn’t work for us. It is too easy to jump to conclusions when I get some crazy spam in an old email account. I would think that if there were trust issues that a couple might share an email account and delete their own individual ones or if they don’t use email very much to make it easy to tell both of them something. It is too easy to create a private one anyway. My wife asked for my passwords because of baggage from previous relationships and I granted her access. It was a problem from day one. She read emails from my Mom that were slightly disapproving of her (as mother-n-laws tend to be), she saw spam from what looked like a friend of mine saying “single in my local” area. She did more damage to our relationship by chasing wild geese generated from my email account than deploying to Iraq did. Instead of people identifying feelings and sharing them, it seems the current trend is to be surprised that one feels emotionally low and then look for things that justify the feelings, instead of realizing that many times feelings follow the ‘verbs we insert into the narratives of our lives’. For Example: If you do things that are healthy and that you enjoy you will feel good! In relationship I realized that our private email had to be private emails, and everyone is happier. (I told my Mom to stop being negative about my wife also btw and to email my wife if she has a problem with my wife) ;)

This is a slippery slope that I’ve slid down before.

A now ex-girlfriend of mine told me her e-mail password (without me expressing any desire what so ever to know it) and then got pretty offended when I didn’t share mine. I think privacy is an important part of a successful relationship and told her so. This brought up the question “Well, what do you have to hide?” I didn’t really have anything to hide, but the idea that she felt the need to spy and peek in on my correspondences to validate the trust she supposedly had in me felt wrong.

I, personally, would never ask my significant other for their e-mail password, and in a situation like the above, if I knew it, I wouldn’t use it. Nor would I give them mine.

No my s.o. does not even go onto the computer but I do not care what he sees on my account. He never knows what I am doing so he sometimes is behind me when I am on one all I have to tell him is I am checking my e-mail and he will move. He ALWAYS touches me when he come up behind or close to where he can see what is going on with the computer.

as with most women: what is her’s is her’s, and what is mine is our’s….

Allen, you really must have about the healthiest relationship in the world!! Certainly no pint up anger, hostility or resentment there, is there?
Kudos!!!

i was talking about the question posed by play….

Wild are you projecting again?

Not at all my friend. I’m just slightly saddened by your view of women – that’s all.

@wild—the culture of what is mine is mine and what is your’s is ours——are you saying that this view is not pervasive?
How does it reflect hostility? Does it not reflect reality?

I interpret (and feel free to correct me if I’m wrong – I hope I did misunderstand you!) that line as you saying your SO is more likely to consider what’s yours hers than you are to consider anything of hers yours…...which to me seems wrong, for a number of reasons – certainly doesn’t seem fair on you if this is something she’s enforcing or it may be that you don’t consider her to have anything of value that you could potentially share in….there are many possibilities, but none of them particularly good or healthy for a loving relationship IMO, but each to their own.

OK, I’m getting my own email account! No more password sharing for this dude!

haha, nice comeback! :)