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Were you shy as a child, yet are much less shy as an adult?

Asked by daloon (4132 points) | asked August 15th, 2008 | 14 responses | “Great Question” (0 points) | Flag as…

How did you change? What made the change happen? How shy were you? How outgoing/gregarious/dramatic can you be now? Do you now seek to perform? Examples would be real nice.

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tabbycat's avatar

I was shy as a child, and I’m still shy as an adult, but I’ve constantly made an effort to overcome it, so perhaps I no longer seem as shy as I really am. If you are in business, or if you need to interact with others constantly for other reasons, you have keep forcing yourself to reach out to other people. It doesn’t mean you still are fundamentally shy.

lefteh's avatar

I’ve never been shy, and I’m not shy now.
I don’t see myself being shy as an adult, either.

syz's avatar

I was pathologically shy. I wouldn’t speak to strangers or even ask for the time. When I went to college, I would literally go for days and days without speaking to anyone. I gradually got better and then found my dream job, with the down side of having to do public speaking. But because I was passionate about the subject matter, I finally managed to almost completely overcome my (obvious) shyness. I still feel uncomfortable around people I don’t know and in some social situations, but I hide it fairly well (most of the time).

wildflower's avatar

I was very forward as a little child (would talk to/answer back to people I’d never met before, whistle along when the adults where having a sing-song before I could speak), then became quite shy, especially around doctors, photographers, etc. (once hung up on the doctor’s office when they called for my mum and clung to a street light outside the photographer’s studio when I had to have my pic taken).
As an adult, I’m not shy, but probably a tad reserved. I have no problem talking to people – individually or in crowds – I’m quite used to leading meetings and preso’s at work, I connect easily with new people.
But! It’s not completely ‘open book’ type thing, I guess.

wildflower's avatar

too late to edit and just noticed: where should be were

ruby's avatar

I was really shy as a kid. My face was in a constant state of blushing. Now it has gotten a little better, but I too have to force myself to talk, especially in group situations. Motivation has come from being tired of knowing an answer to a question (like in class) or having a question and feeling too shy to say it. And deep breathing helps…but my face still gives me away sometimes

mee_ouch's avatar

Oh ‘shy’ is sooooo yesterday…..Isn’t it social phobic now?

wildflower's avatar

It was shy when I was a kid, so shy it is!

mee_ouch's avatar

…..oohhh here’s one….anxiety neurosis

RomantismNightmare's avatar

I was so shy as a child that I wouldn’t answer someone if they asked me a question… I don’t think I would even look at them.
When I started becoming less shy, it was because I started participation more in social events. I was a member of Bible Quizzing, and you HAD to stand up in front of people to talk. I loved doing it so much that talking in front of people got easier.
Now that I’m an adult, I’m still very shy, but I am trying to overcome it. I hate feeling shy and looking shy to other people. In most situations, except when I’m around people I know really well, I would probably be considered a quiet person. (At least I don’t purposely ignore people anymore…)
I can be VERY outgoing to where it surprises me sometimes.

mee_ouch's avatar

I was a bit of an anomaly. There were times when I’d work myself into a state almost akin to catatonia if I was approached in a crowd. “Why me?” I would think to myself. Yet, I would dress off-beat….obviously calling attention to myself….
It would drive my mum nutty.

loser's avatar

Nope, I’m just as bad, or even worse now!

mee_ouch's avatar

I guess I was told to “Get the f*ck outta the way”....one to many times over the years.
‘Shy’ doesn’t factor into my character these days…..

MacBean's avatar

When I was very small, I was so shy that it would even take me time to warm up and speak to family members. Forget about strangers! When I started school, obviously that wasn’t going to fly. I learned to just suck it up and deal with it. By about 6th grade, I’d turned it into sort of an art form; I was really charming and outgoing even though I was still inwardly anxious about social interaction. I stayed that way through high school and my first semester of college. Then I experienced a downward spiral and I’m back to being silent and mousy in public. I’m working on fixing that, though…

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