Are people attracted to other people that look like them?

I just saw a couple who looked like the male and female of the same person. I think people are attracted to those who look just like them or the total opposite, like you said. They also say, however, that after living with someone for awhile, you begin to resemble that person.

I am a black female and my husbands white, he’s a big redneck kid and I’m serious and a stickler for the rules. So I can’t agree. I have always been attracted to white men and he to black women.

I would say that there is virtually no truth in this based on the vast number of couples. I suspect it could happen by chance, just as you say that you are sometimes attracted to people of your general type and sometimes not.

Both my daughters married guys that looked like them. The red head’s husband looks like he could be her brother. I am just happy to have those cute red headed grand babies!

Don’t tell my sister, but if you cover up her hair she looks just like her soon-to-be husband (he’s bald). Like exactly alike. Freeeeeakyyyyy.

My daughter says that the reason her and her husband were attracted to each other is because they are both closet narcissist’s

I have blonde hair (well right now it’s hot pink/fire engine red, but my natural color is blonde) and I have never been into blonde guys.

Yeah my wife is a dark skinned italian with brown eyes and dark hair and I’m a very light skinned italian with blue eyes and supa blonde hair.

(my favorite question ever… Do you dye your hair? Yup. My eyebrows, facial hair and my arm hairs too! I’m dedicated to being blonde. dumbass)

I have dyed my eyebrows, once or twice, just because my hair was midnight blue/black and the dark brown eyebrows were not pulling off the look.

and then I realized that most people don’t have jet black facial hair….LOL

i have had people tell me that i resembled some exboyfriends but i dunno. i would say that generally it’s probably true.. i’ve heard it as well and have seen many couples that look alike.. it’s sort of weird

Yea I’d totally do me so I can buy into this easy.

Alright, y’alls. Don’t be offended. I don’t necessarily agree with this statement.
The following was just something thrown out (in response to a similar discussion).

People who date people who look like them are narcissistic.

they say my wife and i look like brother and sister. we’re both the same complexion, have dark hair and dark eyes. yet my wife does not look much like my sister because body structure is different. nonetheless, our children have really been blessed with attractive looks and genes. one is a model for catalogs and text books.

but i’ve also noticed “there’s somebody for everyone” couples and the children are quite attractive with what seems to be exotic features. weird.

I’m a fair-skinned, blonde and my boyfriend is and Indian American. I’ve never been attracted to light haired, fair-skinned, and pale-eyed people like myself…. I don’t know if there is a sure answer to this one….

Well my eyes, mouth and nose are like Keith Allens and I love him….so…yes?

Still, even when couples are of different races, I’ve often noticed certain similarities with facial features. How big their eyes are, the bone structure of their face and so on.

Here’s a study (not sure how credible it is…)

I’ve noticed that lesbian couples often look like bookends. I think it’s cute!

this, too, is a Seinfeld episode!

you say that a lot stratman

Well, it APPLIES a lot, don’t ya think?

honestly I haven’t seen seinfeld in like sooooo long, and from what I remember….it doesn’t really…at least not for this

In a roundabout way it does!

Oh well. I guess I have to go watch seinfeld again then

You know. That one episode where George starts dating a girl.
Then he realizes that she looks exactly like Jerry.
Then everyone starts teasing him that he’s secretly in love with Jerry. Har.

I don’t nimis

I guess sometimes it can happen.. but I think there are plenty of folks that go for someone who looks really different.

My last girlfriend, both of us are attracted to our complete opposite body types. I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life and think my body type is heinous, she’s struggled with being too thin her whole life and feels the same about hers. As a consequence, we’ve come to like the opposite body type. We also didn’t look alike in features.. she’s got dark brown hair, I have light brown/blondish hair, I’m fair, she’s darker, I have light eyes, she has brown eyes.

Alena: That was the second runner up theory in our discussion…attraction to opposites because of struggles with our own. Though both kind of amount to the same…attraction to what we want for ourselves.

Yeah, that makes sense. I actually felt kind of bad and hypocritical about it for a while, but I finally came to realize what you said.

@Nimis: that is not always the case. people don’t realize that they look like them, they’re just subconsciously attracted. it’s not like, oh hey that boy looks just like me and oh man he is fine!
people probably just are used to those sort of familiar facial features. or something.
just sayin.

and y’all doesn’t have to be plural. ya’ll = you all. and you wouldn’t say “you alls” would you?
sorry.. it’s a pet peeve

Gen: It’s not any really substantial theory. That was just mostly stuff that people threw out (in a similar discussion). I don’t think there’s any one blanket statement that would explain why people choose the partners that they do (body type or otherwise).

Sorry. I have a bad habit of adding an s to many a word that doesn’t need it. Like: I likes.
Started as a joke. But is becoming more of a habit.

Comedian was a little too young to watch seinfeld when it was still on

If I remember correctly, according to The Third Chimpanzee, a Jared Diamond book about the evolution of humans, there are a handful of well documented human-mate-look-alike patterns. One involves earlobes, maybe earlobe length. Another has to do with the distance between our eyes. This is definitely something of a tentative answer, for I haven’t read the book in a while, but I think the point Diamond made is that the look-alike patterns that are most consistent involve traits that our conscious minds have a hard time noticing. Look alike attraction is mostly subconscious, and some of it is pretty difficult to explain evolutionarily.