Friend Code?

perhaps the time period between when she liked him and yu tow became involved could have some impact….
how your friend got over him could be another…
was there history at all?
you know your friend best. i think you should make your decision based on your judgement of your relationship with your friend. you should be able to tell if she really is okay with it or not.

If she said it’s ok, I’d go for it. She’d probably not be happy, but as long as she didn’t like him anymore what’s the harm. And, yes we always mean the opposite of what we say.
That’s just my opinion.

It happened to my daughter and her friend. She hated the ex, but got super ticked off when a friend hooked up with him. It ended up being short lived, and since then her and her best friend are just fine.

Just make sure you talk it over with your friend again…

I think it’s fair game to take your friend at her word. If she’s ok with it why should you second guess that. She said it was ok. If she changes her mind it’s her own damned fault. Go be happy, you. Cheers!

You guys are great.
This is why I love you.

WELL….It depends, in my opinion. If it was kind of recent that she was seeing/liking him I would hold off for now. Ask yourself, how much and why do you think you really like this guy? Is it really worth potentially tarnishing a friendship you really care about? Maybe she SAID she didn’t care but what do YOU really think. If you know her well you can figure it out and make the right choice. I was in her shoes not too long ago, and although at first I didn’t want to admit or even feel that I could care less about the guy, turned out I did. NO FUN. Be careful and remember: Chicks before dicks, ladies!!!

I have said “go for it” when I didn’t mean it and it was pretty terrible…. but in the end if you two really do like each other and it’s not some little thing, then you might as well go for it.

The lesson here is for people to really say what they are feeling. You should take your friend at her word. When we say that we would hate it, that seems so dog in the manger, which is why we are reluctant to say it.

Would any of us want to caue our friend to miss out on potential true love just because it didn’t work out between us and the guy? We need to just live with that little twinge.

Chances are you and your friend will be back trashing him soon when the two of you don’t work out. In the unlikely event that he turns out to be the one, your friend will get over it.

As to the rule. To my way of thinking, it is you don’t date a friend’s ex without talking to that friend.

Finally! A woman admits to how they usually are!

Id say go for it, but with caution.

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