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Do you know anyone grieving this holiday season?

Asked by cdwccrn (3610points) December 14th, 2008 from iPhone

Is there anything you can do to include them in your celebration of Christmas?

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EmpressPixie's avatar

Not necessarily grieving, per se, but we often know people who—for whatever reason—will be alone at the holidays (recently divorced, live to far away from home to get there, etc). We always invite the singlets (and sometimes doublets like roommates or a couple that will still feel alone) to come over. It sucks to be alone when nothing is open and there is nothing you can really do but stay home and feel alone. So we try to make sure no one feels that way.

augustlan's avatar

If a celebration is at my house, I invite anyone and everyone. Christmas usually isn’t though : (

Knotmyday's avatar

Yes.

There is absolutely nothing I can do until they return.

augustlan's avatar

@knot: Sending good thoughts to you and your friend.

cookieman's avatar

Given this past year, the question should read: “Do I know anyone not grieving this holiday season?

I wish I had a river I could skate away on

@Knotmyday: I’m sorry to hear that. Best of thoughts my friend.

rossi_bear's avatar

my hubby grieves every christmas. his dad passed away on christmas day.

tiggersmom's avatar

I have known people to grieve because they can’t be with family or with their children, and I always make sure that they are invited to come and spend time with our family. Sometimes it helps. No one should have to suffer on the day that Christ was born.

cookieman's avatar

@rossi_bear: That is horrible. What a thing to have to live with. I am so sorry for your husband. Talk about bad timing

@tiggersmom: I agree with your sentiment, and not to nitpick, but it is unlikely that Jesus was actually born on December 25th. That’s just when we celebrate it. See HERE

rossi_bear's avatar

@cprevite.. the weird thing is his dad got a christmas card from his sister that he hasn’t heard from in a very long time. and so he grabbed his chest and said” someone is going to die” and the next day(christmas day) and he died.

tiggersmom's avatar

@cprevite, I wasn’t wanting to answer to start a debate, I was just making a comment on the belief of the holiday. Most people see it that way, I just hate to think that someone might feel sad on this day.

mamasu's avatar

Yes. I know a few people who have recently lost loved ones. My husband’s aunt is dying and not expected to live until Christmas. His mother is a mess because of it.

To include the ones who are far away, I have been sending notes and making calls.

For those close to home, I’m just trying to keep family and friends together to just be together. The kids always offer a pleasing distraction, no matter how heartbroken people are. This season is magic for little ones and seeing their reactions tends to let others, who are hurting, step away from their hurt for a bit.

cdwccrn's avatar

@mamasu: you make a good point. Children in all their unbridled joy and wonder do make a wonderful distractIon. I love watching them. My favorite: watching a little kid eat ice cream.

cdwccrn's avatar

@rossi, I am sorry about the circumstances of your father-in-law’s death. My heart goes out to your family. I hope your husband’s sorrow eases with each passing year.

tiggersmom's avatar

@cdwccrn rossi and I are friends, and I can say on her behalf that she thanks you deeply for your concern and care. tigg.

cookieman's avatar

@rossi_bear: That is spooky. I got goose bumps reading that. What an amzing (and tragic) coincidence.

@tiggersmom: oh I know what you mean. Like I said, nitpick. Sorry.

Merry Christmas to you both.

tiggersmom's avatar

@cprevite, Merry Christmas to you too. I really hope that you have a great Chrismas, and a Happy New Year. Tigg.

rossi_bear's avatar

@cprevite..and @cdwccrn… i thank you for your concern. they say time heals all wounds and this is a had one to heal they do celebrate christmas on christmas eve now due to this. it is hard to celebrate on christmas. but it is getting better. but instead of celebrating it on christmas we all go to church and then go to his grave and celebrate it with him there. that was his dying wish and that is what we do in his honor. merry christmas and a happy new year!!

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