Can my marriage survive the fact i dont have a relationship with his mother because she speak spanish?

Spanish isn’t too difficult a language to learn. Granted, you may not be fast and fluent, but making an effort may please your m-i-l.

If it were me, I would try to learn the language to show respect to her. Then you won’t feel left out!

I totally agree with @essieness and @gailcalled. You will not only honor the mother but your husband will love you all the more for the effort.

My paternal grandmother spoke Italian only – one or two phrases of English. My mother speaks not a lick. My parents are celebrating their 25th anniversary this year.

If your marriage falls apart, it has nothing to do with the language barrier with your mother-in-law.

Gotta agree w/ everyone else so far. Learning a little bit of Spanish might be a good way to go. Plus it’s fun and useful for almost any career track these days! Try buying some Pimsleur CDs to get started.

I hope that wouldn’t be the downfall of your marriage.
I’d pick up a book, and try to learn some Spanish.

Trying to learn Spanish could be a great way to bond with her, and the whole family. My grandparents spoke Polish at home, and I was always left out of the good jokes and the family stories. It’s a lonely feeling.

In my experience, people love it when you make an effort to speak they’re language, and if they’re nice people at all (which I’m sure your mother-in-law is), they go out of their way to help you learn even more. Just because you don’t speak spanish now doesn’t mean you can’t learn.

The first thing you should learn to say is “I love your son.”

Yo amo tu hijo (yo ah-mo too ee-ho)
; )

Next, try this: Su enchiladas son muy deliciosos! : ))
(assuming they’re Mexican…)

@tb1570 – slow down there, cowboy. She would probably want to address her mother-in-law with “usted” not “tu”. “Confused” wouldn’t want to come off sounding disrespectful.

That would be “Yo amo su hijo.”

EDIT: and since enchiladas are feminine, you would want to say deliciosas, with an “a” not an “o”.

@La_chica_gomela Ah, yes. Very good advice. My Spanish is definitely a little rusty!

And since “enchiladas” is plural, what about “sus enchiladas”?