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jaketheripper's avatar

How can I get my girlfriend off my case?

Asked by jaketheripper (2779points) September 28th, 2009

she’s always up in my bidness

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mramsey's avatar

lol. i hate you sometimes.

Sarcasm's avatar

Give her your credit card and send her to the mall.
Sexistman strikes again!

dpworkin's avatar

Explain to her how a committed relationship does not require sharing, communication, honesty and vulnerability. While you’re at it, explain it to me, too.

kibaxcheza's avatar

stop posting on sites that she uses?

limeaide's avatar

Maybe the book Boundaries would help? I’ve heard good things about it. It is from a Christian perspective but I’m not sure how much it gets into the religious side of things.

peedub's avatar

Mucho G.Q. Lurve to you for this one. I find it a very poignant question.

wundayatta's avatar

It much depends on how big (or what kind) the case is. If it’s a suitcase, why, a good tackle ought to do the trick. If it’s a cold case, well, maybe you need a dedicated detective?

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Two magic words: “Yes, Dear.”

aprilsimnel's avatar

Tell her to get off your case, or you’ll split.

For some reason, I’m tempted to say a bunch of dumb Welcome Back, Kotter insults. “Get offa my case, toilet face!” “Up your nose with a rubber hose!”

tinyfaery's avatar

Follow through on promises and try to meet her expectations. Or if you don’t give a shit, leave her. She probably deserves better anyway.

kibaxcheza's avatar

@tinyfaery down girl down….

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

A successful relationship must have communication, no secrets, and complete honesty.

mramsey's avatar

He just doesn’t like that I’m now on Fluther and I have the ability to see everything he posts.haha

tinyfaery's avatar

No. These asinine questions just irk me. If you don’t want her in your life then get out of hers. You’re not doing her any favors by sticking around.

kibaxcheza's avatar

Yall are totally wrong. A true relationship should have time together and time apart. If you dont have separate groups of friends all youre gonna do is get sick and tired of each other… Had a relationship for 8 months with a girl i saw twice a week. It was when she decided that she needed to see me every day that i got annoyed. She started checking my phone, wanted passwords to my email, facebook, what have you.

point is, you need to give each other a little bit of space….

And @tinyfaery he didnt say he didnt want outta her life, just that he needs some time to himself and a kinda get away every now and then.

tinyfaery's avatar

No. He said she’s always in his bidness and that she is on his case. Why is she on his case? What is he doing or not doing?

8 months? Today is my 8 year anniversary. I know what it takes to keep a good relationship, and wanting your SO. out of you’re oh so important business isn’t on that list.

Sarcasm's avatar

I know what it takes to keep a good relationship
Definitely every human on Earth needs exactly the same things in a relationship.

First off, I think OP was joking. Especially since his girlfriend is on fluther, and has even posted on this thread.

Anyway, if he was legitimately asking, haven’t you ever dealt with somebody either overly paranoid or overly curious? Someone who wants to know your every action (for whichever reason)? Have you never wondered why they’re, well, “always up in my bidness” and how to get them “off my case”?

tinyfaery's avatar

That behavior would last about 2 minutes with me.

cookieman's avatar

I’d give it a minute and a half.

Sorry, I’m with @tinyfaery on this one; grow up.

kibaxcheza's avatar

because youre a controlling (expletive deleted)?

mramsey's avatar

@Sarcasm Thanks for noticing me!

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

@kibaxcheza You need time to yourself, but that does not mean secrecy. There needs to be a balance, but @jaketheripper said that ”she’s always up in my bidness [sic]”. His business is her business, if they have a communication and any degree of trust.
My SO and I have no secrets, see each other at least 4 days a week at uni, plus whenever we go out, and we have been together over a year. Often after having been out the whole night, we will call each other and talk for another few hours before bed. If you get sick of a girl because you see them more than twice a week, then chances are you’ll get sick of them eventually anyway, and its time to move on.

mramsey's avatar

@FireMadeFlesh Props on being together for over a year.

My SO @jaketheripper (the OP) and I have been together for almost 5.

BTW everyone, he’s “always up in my bidness” too. lol

CMaz's avatar

Get another GF if it bothers you that much.

And, until you do, find another GF.
Masturbating in the shower and eating dinner alone is so much more exciting.

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