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• 1 month ago

  Are there any paying jobs where you work on-line? If so is there a place where are they listed?

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• April 2nd, 2009

  How would one sabotage a cell phone for safety reasons?

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• 1 week ago

  I lost the love of my life 20 years ago, on Nov. 14. Should I feel guilty as I finally start to let go?

  You are not alone. I remember it like it was yesterday. His amazing green eyes and warm hug that no matter what was going on sheltered me from the world around me. I can hear laughter and see his sly little grin. Shy and yet when drawn into a passionate argument he was as articulate and as tenacious as a bull terrier. I remember his touch, laugh and his embrace. Watching him listening to music and observing the involuntary way he played along, making the chords on his knee with his fingers. I remember every band he was in and our small church wedding. I remember our first home and barbecuing in the snow. I remember every inch of him from the scar on his hip from skateboarding as a kid to the birthmark on the sole of his foot. I hear his voice in my mind and and his laughter. I can see him playing with our black Labrador and remember the chilly nights outside with the telescope- him patiently finding stars and planets for me to see. I swear sometimes that the memories are so real that I could walk into them and yet they are locked from me- behind the thick glass of time. I can see him hear him but I cannot touch… and what I see is only replays of what once was. For a while I tried to hope it was not true. Thinking, despite touching his face in death, that through a cosmic mistake that defied all reason he might just show up. I remember his face was cold and pale. It took time to allow myself to feel and open up to love again. I had a very hard time letting anyone inside my heart which I locked up like a fortress. Then I met another gentleman with beautiful blue eyes. He was patient and loving wish a great laugh and wonderful way of making me feel safe and alive. I now can honestly say that I love him as much as my first love. Perhaps it will help you to know that nobody can ever replace your first love. It is as if your heart just gets bigger. She is and always will be everything she always was to you. If you open yourself up to love again you will see that it is not a disrespect to your past to be happy. Both my husbands hold my heart. Both do so in different ways. Each relationship is different and beautiful. I am happy again. Truly happy. I am loved and cherished and love and cherish in return. I cannot tell you anything beyond what I have experienced myself- that beyond all my expectations in life I did get a second chance to love and took it. I find it hard to believe that my first spouse would not have wanted my hapiness. Had I been the one who died I would not wish him to be alone. You deserve to join the living Davidk. You can honor your past love by embracing life if you choose.
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• April 2nd, 2009

  How would one sabotage a cell phone for safety reasons?

  Thank you all for your rational and well thought out responses. You are all correct in that I must learn to let go and trust that she will make the right choices. Parenting is really the hardest job I have ever had and has caused me the most pain and joy. This being said I wish there was a technology that, while the key is in the ignition will BLOCK INCOMING TEXTS AND CALLS. (outgoing calls should be allowed for emergency purposes only) I really appreciate all the input. and @adreamofautumn I will show her that article.
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