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April 15th, 2009
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April 16th, 2009
@NaturalMineralWater: I didn’t mean to say that my decision was going to be based wholly on Fluther answers. With that being said, if I don’t know what to think, and 10 men answer this question, and maybe 8 of them say he probably has feelings for me and 2 say no, that gives me a bit more confidence to do what I’ve wanted to do all along, and that’s see if I can get some answers from the guy.
I referred a lot in third person, but the people I’m asking about are me and my friend. I know, that was confusing. But this whole thing is confusing. Right down to nearly posting under my usual Fluther name a few times.
This whole thing has really put me into an emotional jam. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m flying, and other times I feel sick to my stomach. I just want it all to be over. Hopefully positively in a new direction.
I also know that many of you think what I’m doing to my current SO is terrible. But without knowing all the backstory, such as things that precipitated the “death” of the relationship, it’s not right for anyone to judge. I think it’s safe to say that all four of us have made mistakes here. I’m not denying that. But again, that’s not what I asked.
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April 15th, 2009
@dynamicduo – I understand the way the line you pointed out sounded, and yes, we both do feel bad. For the most part, we don’t flirt in front of them because one of the biggest gripes we both have about our relationships is that we are SO SICK OF CONFLICTS. We are sick of fighting over stupid little things, so that we avoid any type of conflict, whether they would have a valid complaint or not. Does that make any sense?
I should also mention that there is hesitation because we live several states apart. We couldn’t carry on a normal relationship. I should have added that, but I didn’t want to muck up what was already becoming a saga!
As for fixing underlying problems, like elijahsuicide pointed out, we both feel like it’s just irreconcilable differences, basically. We both know that the whole thing is a giant mess, but we’re BOTH too chickenshit to leave who we’re with.
Oh, and I also need to point out one thing: He’s not trying to string anybody along or play the best of both worlds. That’s one thing I’m 100% confident of. I can tell he sort of “dipped his toe in the water” so to speak with this whole thing. He’s being extremely cautious. Trouble is, I can’t figure out if he’s being cautious because he doesn’t know what he wants, or if it’s because he doesn’t want me to think there’s something there when there isn’t, while at the same time, wanting to remain friends and not ruin what we’ve built already.
Am I making any sense?
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