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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

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• August 2nd, 2009

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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

  Believe me, I’m thinking about it! :-)
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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

  Jack, the therapist I was seeing advised the same: ignore him. I’m glad you mentioned that because it reminded me to, well, ignore him. My therapist gave me a sheet of instructions on how to ignore him (which goes beyond just blocking him from my mind kind of thing). As for your first question, you’re right, we didn’t date long enough for him to really get on my nerves. I still remember that on our first date he talked over me a lot and it bugged me, but soon all the wonderful, spontaneous dates he came up for us erased all the “wait up – did he just interrupt me again” moments. Sigh. But you’re right on…and I appreciate your opinion.
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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

  PDworkin, you’re right. He has said things that relate to being worthlessness. It’s like he’s way depressed then all of a sudden he becomes a super hero that has all sorts of powers. He even claims to be the “Thomas Jefferson for the 21st century!” This has led me to call him “Thomas” at events where we’re unknown…just to get at him. He constantly changes his mind too. I don’t even take action on things anymore if he prompts them because I know he’ll change his mind sooner than later. It’s odd, but he is successful at work. Sometimes I wonder if he behaves differently at work…I can’t imagine that he does. People I know (mutual friends) have said, “_________, I just don’t know how you put up with him.” I wonder the same about his co-workers.
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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

  He fights the idea that he is bi-polar. He says that bi-polars “do crack, can’t hold a job, lie, cheat, steal…” and he is the opposite. He says if he is bi-polar there is no way he can hold a job; that he would be homeless. I went to see a therapist for us both. My therapist suggested that he might be bi-polar too. But he says he’s not and won’t seriously seek help. I know this sounds awful, but, man, I am so embarrassed by him sometimes. In private, I hurt; but, in public, I am often times humiliated. I dread introducing him to people.
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• August 9th, 2009

  How do I get my husband to shut up?

  He says stupid things like (one of his favorite quotes): “I will beat my competitors in every way. I will be better looking, smarter, sharper, stronger, better.” I swear he said that! Who the hell says stuff like that…every freaking morning?! And he talks about people behind their backs – our friends! He says horrible things about them and puts them down…even though they are all very succcessful people. The things he says, they are unbelieveable. Oh my god, it just hit me: I’m married to a NUT!
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