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• 17 hours ago

  What are you thankful for?

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• 1 week ago

  Have any of you had to begin dating again post-divorce, past age 35?

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• 1 week ago

  If you found out that your daughter's or son's spouse was cheating on them, what would you do?

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• 2 weeks ago

  If your spouse had been pretty recently unfaithul, would you trust him with female friends?

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• 3 weeks ago

  Have any of you ever been arrested for something you truly didn't do, or as a consequence of trying to do someone a favor?

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• 17 hours ago

  What are some of your best Christmas memories that didn't involve spending money?

  My best Christmas memory is of my grandfather staying with us one year when I think I was four. I loved the smell of his pipe, eating the goldfish crackers he always had with him, having the Archway cookies my mom would set out, and his taking us out into the woods, cutting grapevines and then making wreaths for my mother and for our neighbors. I know this part involves money, but my grandpa also always brought a little bag of old silver dollars with him for us to spend (which my dad would then buy from us and never let us spend). he was a very interesting, quirky, wise old man who died a few years after this Christmas, but he made it the very best one ever for me (OK I admit he also brought me four puppies).
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• 17 hours ago

  How do you explain Thanksgiving to your children, if you celebrate it?

  As a ¾ Native American I have taught my kids what I see as realistic about thanksgiving, including what they are taught at school, what really happened in its own context, and what this holiday can be if approached in a certain perspective. I celebrate thanksgiving purely to remind myself each year to be grateful and content and to try to help others in this respect if I can. My grandfather had a saying, that in life, the only thing guaranteed in our society is money. It can be earned, inherited, stolen, received, found, or made in one way or another. What really counts is what is never guaranteed: friends and family, because those are the true gems in life to be celebrated and thankful for. I always thought my grandfather was a very wise man. This is what thanksgiving means to my family. It is what you make it.
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• 5 days ago

  When can/should a divorce' start dating?

  as soon as a divorce is agreed upon you’re fair game honey!!!!
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• 1 week ago

  If you found out that your daughter's or son's spouse was cheating on them, what would you do?

  I am simply amazed at the kindness and care expressed by all of you here on fluther. God bless you!!!!! I ***warm fuzzies*** I am finncially dependent on my husband, who has a seperate bank account and has me in a full nelson there. He is sleeping on the couch now. I have the feeling that he will end up crawling back but I am a shattered, devastated woman now and I don’t look at him the same way anymore: he is ugly to me. In the past year, through a very difficult pregnancy I have withdrawn into my home like a hermit and haven’t had anyone to talk to, really. I have made an appointment with a marriage counselor to go to alone to try to get through this without completely falling apart. I have also applied for legal aid in filing for divorce. I am proud of forcing myself out of the house to do these things. I have had post traumatic stress disorder before and I know I have a pronounced case of it now. I’m a basket case’s basket case and a psychiatrist’s wet dream. But I am still functioning for my children, even if I am on autopilot. My mother had an aneurism four years ago and had not been quite right in her mind and actions since, but truthfully I think she doesn’t want my husband and I to break up simply because she owns our house and my husband pays the rent, and if he left I wouldn’t be able to pay her the rent that actually covers the mortgage on this house. I don’t know what I will do to get by but I will. If any of you have been cheated on I do want to ask: does this pure, grinding, burning hell of agony ever recede? Will I ever feel like a woman again? Will the shock and pain and shame and anger ever go away??
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• 1 week ago

  If your spouse had been pretty recently unfaithul, would you trust him with female friends?

  (((((big teary hugs))))) to all of you. You are helping me tremendously. I have been packing his shit all day and into the evening…when he rolls his eyes at what I’m doing and says nada. He’s so full of himself that don’t think he believes I’ll really throw his sorry ass out. But here goes!!!!!
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