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Should I break up with my boyfriend and move away?

Asked by October (11points) October 10th, 2010

I’m 26, will be 27 in a week, grew up in Denver and moved to the Twin Cities about 6 months ago. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and am felling very itchy and ancy to move on. Overall he is a good guy but I find myself with a very wandering eye. I want to know what its like to live in New York or San francisco or LA, I’m feeling like I still have some wild oats to sew but I dont want to mess up a perfectly good situation… anyone ever been through something similar? Also which city should I go to? Any advice is much appreciated

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thekoukoureport's avatar

go live be free butterfly. Be careful and be good.

Adagio's avatar

@thekoukoureport … careful and good. Are you kidding, careful and good are mutually exclusive!

thekoukoureport's avatar

Its a way of life my friend…. as you walk be careful of your decisions and be good to others and your path should be great.

Aster's avatar

yes; I broke up with a very nice boyfriend my first day of college.
He wasn’t “it.” I wanted to date more, go to classes, be single! It was worth it. Go ahead and follow your heart and enjoy yourself.

Mikewlf337's avatar

Sure. Dump your boyfriend and move away. It’s nice to waste 4 years of a man’s life because you are selfish.

Aster's avatar

@Mikewlf337 No offense, Mike; she’s not in love with him. If you fell out of love with a woman and wanted to move , would you marry her? Or would you have a talk with her, hope she’d understand, and go on with your life? I can’t see where she’s being selfish. Besides; if they had 4 good years then they weren’t wasted years, right?

chyna's avatar

@thekoukoureport Is that from Kung Fu? Go Grasshopper and be free? :-)

thekoukoureport's avatar

Maybe… I get my ancient knowledge in the most arcane places.

YARNLADY's avatar

There is no such thing as a perfectly good situation that is based on a lie. You are already cheating on him in your mind. Go, enjoy.

john65pennington's avatar

You actually answered your own question. “i have more wild oats to sew and a wandering eye”.

Those words pretty much sum up your situation.

Pack your bags and hit the road, Jack.

Come to Nashville. we have plenty of horses that need to be fed wild oats.

Try the Wildhorse Saloon.

sliceswiththings's avatar

Yeah, get out of there. I bet in a month you’ll realize that the situation was less than “perfectly good.”

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October's avatar

Thank you for the great responses. Mike, it has not been a waste of 4 years for him or myself. We have a great friendship, at one time had a passionate relationship, and would have never known had we not given it a shot. You sound like you have been scorned on perhaps a similar situation, my apologies to you if you feel your time has been wasted by a selfish female but I assure you that is not the sitaution here.

To everyone else, your responses made me cry. Why is it that I well up at the thought of leaving him but just last night had a dream about another man….how can two thoughts be so conflicting?

Thanks again for your thoughtful responses.

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