How do you learn to do things for "yourself"? (please see details!)

Every time I think about the one big thing that is looming large in my head, I find myself hearing others saying, “You need to do that for yourself,” or “Don’t do it for someone else! Do it for you.”

Trouble is, I’m not built that way. I do much better when I do things for other people. It’s much easier for me to care about someone else and/or their needs than for myself and/or my needs.

Have you been through this? Did you get past it? If so, how? Or have you found a way to work around it when you need to do something?

I put this in the Social section because I don’t mind if it gets derailed. Hey, if a derailment helps someone else, so be it.