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Am I too young?

Asked by goldilocks (273points) April 1st, 2008 from iPhone

is it possible to love someone when your, say, 13? I think I am in love but (oh god this is embarrasing) is it even possible? I know I am probably too naiive and young to even understand love, but please try to help me. Am I in love?

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lovelyy's avatar

this is a hard question to answer because i don’t know you personally. a number of people would say you are way to young, then again a number of people would say you aren’t. in my own opinion love is a strong word and most people take it for granted. seeing how you are thirteen you might love her but not be “in love” with her.

edit: i know fluther is all flipped today but since this “answer” actually was a “question”, i am answering as i normally would.

scamp's avatar

It is possible to love at any age. Understanding what it is comes with time and experience. When you start out, people like to call it puppy love, but it is love all the same. It’s new exciting and confusing all at the same time, but it is the beginning of a wonderful phase in your life. It will probably not be the love of your life, but it’s a start!

osakarob's avatar

The American Heritage dictionary offers two interesting definitions:

Love: 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. 2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. 3a. Sexual passion.

Infatuation: 1. A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction.
2. An object of extravagant, short-lived passion.

Perhaps only time will tell if your feelings were truly love or just infatuation.

teejay0514's avatar

I don’t think that it’s love, you are still young and you have a long life ahead of you. All these people that you meet while your a teenager will come and go. You’re going to meet a lot of people later on in your life. Just have fun, and see what life brings you.

babygalll's avatar

It’s Puppy Love…

drownedtosleep's avatar

I’m going to have to agree with lovelyy on this one. I think you are just a little too young still to fully appreciate the power of that word. When I was fourteen I too thought I was in love but it was more puppy love than anything.

mcbealer's avatar

watch A Feast of Love starring Morgan Freeman.

shared3's avatar

Probably, puppy love, but you can’t really determine it. After all, I know of several people who married their high school sweethearts that they have been dating since like freshman year or even earlier. Some people are just really lucky and meet a good match for them early on. I wouldn’t obsess over semantics, just have fun and see what happens!

DeezerQueue's avatar

There’s no doubt that people can experience love no matter what their age is. The real question is are you old enough to handle a relationship that might not be good for you at your age. Being in love and allowing those feelings to run your life are two different things. I know some women in their 40’s who still make decisions based on love, decided to leave their country for another for love, all sorts of things, decisions that weren’t based on sound reasoning.

If you find yourself wanting to do stupid things out of this love, then maybe you need to rethink it.

Alina1235's avatar

sweety in have been in love so many times I can’t even count LOL. You seem very sweet and open. Stay that way, dont let anyone try to change you, because with years to come you will find that one that will love you for this very thing.
I met my husband when I was 23 and even though ive been inlove before, nothing compared to this time ;)
you’ll know when the right one comes. Its just practice now just be careful

skfinkel's avatar

I was in love with someone from age fourteen, and ended up marrying him, and loving him all his life. They said it was puppy love, but I always knew (at least from about 16) that is was the “real thing.” We were married at 20 (he was 22).

cwilbur's avatar

Yes, you can love someone at 13. You may not have the judgment yet to determine if it’s love you should pursue or love you should ignore.

lugerruger's avatar

It is possible to love someone at 13

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