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Whats your thoughts on someone who drinks alone?

Asked by wgallios (1768points) November 1st, 2010

I tend to drink by myself a lot, sometimes its a few beers, on occasion its binge drinking. I’ll just stay at home, watch TV, play video games, or listen to music, and have some beer. I don’t think its getting in the way of my personal life, or job; obviously if I have something better to do, I’ll go do that. But for some reason whenever I tell people I drink by myself, they look at me weird.

What are your thoughts on drinking by yourself?

*note: I’m in my mid 20’s so, would drinking alone be more acceptable at a later age? I have a friend who is 40 who goes to the same bar (alone) every day and drinks, but people don’t think twice about him.

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Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

If you are in the US, it tends to be a red flag for a fair amount of people. The way I look at it, as long as it isn’t getting in the way of your work and social life, you aren’t overdoing it, and you aren’t drinking and driving, there is no harm in it.

nikipedia's avatar

I don’t know. I do it a lot. It doesn’t seem to be a problem.

flutherother's avatar

I would say it is not a good habit to get into especially if it involves binge drinking, Warning lights should definitely be going off. Already you feel that maybe you should cut down and it is hard to do and you try to justify it. My advice if you want it is stop, if you can. Try to get enjoyment from what you are doing rather than the alcohol. Keep that for socialising. Just my twopence worth.

Marodr13's avatar

Are tou doing it cause you enjoy drinking or is it that you are going through emotional problems?? i tend to ask this because at times people use drinking as a excuse to drink or whatever nots… I feel that if you are not hurting yourself and your maintaining your responsibilities then you are good to go.. Sometimes we have to learn that we dont have to listen to everything that others have to say.. If you are happy with things then you should be good..
One piece of advice,dont tell people that you do that because they tend to think the worse.. Regardless of what your doing people always have something to say when there is peace and no problems.
@futherother: Sometimes stopping something that you are used to is harder than it sounds, cold turkey is not for everyone, but cutting out some of the drinking is a great idea because He does not want o be a alcoholic.

lemming's avatar

I’d keep an eye on it, to make sure it doesn’t get out of control. Maybe you should set your limits so you know when to say enough is enough. Alcoholism is no joke. And as for drinking alone when your older being more acceptable, I’d say the opposite is true, now people will say it’s ok because your only young, but as you get older the label ‘alcoholic’ might come a bit easier. Maybe that’s what people really think of your friend.

ucme's avatar

Hey if it’s in moderation what the fuck’s the problem. Kick back & relax, have one on me while you’re at it. Cheers!

Blondesjon's avatar

You’re not alone my friend. Beer is there with you.

Sure, you can take Beer out to the bar but oftentimes Beer is just as happy as you are to stay home and chill.

as to what other folks think? fuck ‘em.

LuckyGuy's avatar

Can you not drink for a week?
If “yes” – No problem. If “no” – Careful now. If “Hell no!” – It’s a problem.

jrpowell's avatar

I have the Internet.. I am never alone. And I drink while I am alone.

chyna's avatar

No one else lives at my house, so I drink alone. Better than going out and drinking and driving.

Aster's avatar

I don’t see what’s wrong with someone having a drink or a glass of wine alone? I think drinking alone has gotten a bad rap. Of course, if someone drinks until they’re staggering it’s a different matter.

poisonedantidote's avatar

There is nothing wrong with drinking alone, however, from what you have said i would say you are on the edge of having a problem, if not already in early stages.

Why do i say that? well, for one i dont fully believe you (or anyone else) when they say things like “obviously if I have something better to do, I’ll go do that.”. but the main reason is the use of the word “binge”. if you binge drink alone you have a bit of a problem imo. if you do it a lot, the problem is bigger.

Also, asking this question at all hints at something. im not sure what it hints at, but it does indeed hint. maybe you suspect you have a problem, or suspect your friends are more right than you would like to admit, or maybe you just want to be told to stop, or maybe you just want to be told everything is ok.

downtide's avatar

I think it depends on the reason why you drink. I drink alone sometimes too: I enjoy a beer or two, or a glass of wine in the evening from time to time. It becomes an issue when you’re drinking because you need to. Or when you find yourself unable to not have a drink. Or when the purpose of the drinking is simply wanting to be drunk. Those are definite warning signs.

funkdaddy's avatar

I think this is more a perception thing than anything. People think if you’re talking about it, then it must be a problem. It’s similar to if you told someone “last night I stayed up all night worried about my future”, they’d assume there was a problem even though we’ve probably all had a restless night thinking about a change in our lives.

My personal measure of whether something is a “problem” or not generally comes down to whether it’s impeding other things. (As many have said above) If you’re handling your business, happy with the progress in your life, and not drinking to avoid dealing with the world then I think you’re fine. Whether you put your time into drinking, watching TV, video games, or making national monuments out of matchsticks really just comes down to personal preference. It’s your time, enjoy it.

As an aside… apparently “binge drinking” is defined as 5 drinks in a couple of hours…

My liver and I were shocked by this…

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I did it a lot when I was young because I was living alone, unhappy with the speed of my accomplishments at the time and drinking eased me into sleep so I couild stop obsessing and get some rest. Later, drinking and the mania it gave me was a welcome distraction from the seriousness of the crap I was trying to hold together.

When other people do it then I think several things:
Trying to escape somewhere

YARNLADY's avatar

If you mean going out to a bar and sitting there all by yourself, buying drinks, I think it’s terrible. If you mean sitting at home and having a beer or glass of wine while watching TV, I do that several times a week and I don’t see why there would be anything wrong with that.

BoBo1946's avatar

Each his/her own! No big deal !

deni's avatar

I don’t think its weird at all. Who doesn’t?

Edit: People who need to be around others and in social settings all the time don’t. I am definitely not that type. I’d rather unwind at the end of a long day with a few drinks alone at my house than at a party or in a crowd, ya know? More peaceful and enjoyable. But a lot of people think being social is more enjoyable than being by themselves. Which is ok too.

rts486's avatar

I don’t see why that should be a problem. If anything it’s probably safer than when out with a group. Sometimes I enjoy being by myself… with or without a drink.

lonelydragon's avatar

I don’t think it’s a problem, unless you are depressed or you’re choosing to drink alone because you have a social phobia. But if you just like to drink by yourself, there’s no harm in that. Not all of us need to be surrounded by people in order to enjoy a good drink.

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