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What is a remedy for boastfulness?

Asked by KeithWilson (833points) November 1st, 2010

I have the tendency to boast. What can I do about it?

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ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Just stop??

Seriously, work on your self esteem. I imagine you are only boasting to make yourself feel better, or look better to other people, so just learn to be more comfortable in your own skin.

KeithWilson's avatar

@TheOnlyNeffie Thank you for you comments.

YARNLADY's avatar

Ask about the person you are with, listen to the answers. Talk as little as possible.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

The best cure for the boastful is a dose of humility.

You need to get your clock cleaned

KeithWilson's avatar

@YARNLADY Thank you for your comments.

KeithWilson's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Does one ever outweigh the other?

Pandora's avatar

Invision the other persons eyes rolling toward the back of their heads. I know I always have to look away and do that whenever I am around a constant boaster.
I can take some boasting. I mean everyone is allowed to toot their horn once in a while but not religiously.
Then I just feel like handing them a mirror, since they are already with the one they love.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

“Does one ever outweigh the other?”

Sure… In youth, the scale weighs towards boastful. In middle age, it’s about even. Later in life, humility weighs quite heavy.

KeithWilson's avatar

2Pandora I dont tend to do it often, but am I justified when I do?

KeithWilson's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Yeah, I totally agree. Im middle age and I feel the balance is very even right now. Its nice. Thank you for your comments.

Dog's avatar

Might I suggest this:
For each time you speak of your accomplishments make sure you listen to the person you are talking to and accept and praise them TWICE. No comebacks on how you did something. Just let them have two wins. :D

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I like @Dog‘s idea.

KeithWilson's avatar

@Dog Thank you for your comments.

seazen's avatar

Usually, a dose of reality, when least expected.

KeithWilson's avatar

@seazen Thank you for your comments.

Nullo's avatar

Get humiliated.
Less painfully, if you notice yourself veering towards boastfulness, catch yourself.—Maybe patch it up with something self-deprecatory,

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

On behalf of @KeithWilson, let me be the first to “Thank you for your comments” @Nullo.

Plucky's avatar

I agree with @TheOnlyNeffie, @Pandora and @YARNLADY.

I also think you should ask yourself…why do you find yourself boasting? What types of things are you boasting about? What type of situations do you find yourself doing so?

perspicacious's avatar

Loss of friends and associates.

judochop's avatar

By recognizing your problem and asking this question you are putting your best foot forward to stop being annoying to others. Humility is what you need. Just start recognizing your words. Watch what you say.

Deja_vu's avatar

I agree with @Dog and I have to admit that I boast, but I do listen to others and I like to encourage my friends too, They can boast back. I don’t think boasting is 100% bad.

cookieman's avatar

That’s a great idea @Dog. I love that.

@YARNLADY also had great suggestion.

Deja_vu's avatar

Really, I don’t mind so much when people boast.

weeveeship's avatar

Humble pie. Pride comes before a fall, as they say. My observations tell me that the saying is correct.

ucme's avatar

You know, is it really so bad to pat oneself on the back occasionally? I’m very self depricating always prepared to laugh at myself, any shortcomings I may have. I therefore see nothing wrong in a little self appreciation when the need arises. As long as the balance between the two is correct & you’re not a monumental pain in the arse about it, then I think it’s fine.

BarnacleBill's avatar

It depends. Do you have any real accomplishments to boast about? Is what you’re proud of real?

Supacase's avatar

It is not bad to be proud of your accomplishments, pat yourself on the back, let people know you’ve done something great. On the other hand, it is exhausting to be around someone who is constantly doing this.

I have a friend who brags about herself and her kids literally every single time she speaks to someone. Anything someone else does, she or one of her kids has done better. Our entire group of friends has distanced themselves. If I have to hear how her son is the most brilliant, her daughter is the most stunning or any number of the things she thinks of herself one more time I think I might lose it. We used to be very close, now we barely speak.

@perspicacious got it right – you’ll ultimately lose friends if you really have a problem with it.

Pandora's avatar

@KeithWilson It really depends on what you are trying to accomplish. Lets say you’ve just met someone and you want to impress him/her. How are they going to be impressed by you if you don’t talk about yourself and hear anything impressive. I mean they are not going to put out an ad.
Anyhow, if they ask you a question that may lead to some bragging, than go for it but, only slightly and do it in such a manner that you are kind of embarressed about it.
Then you move on and ask them a question that may lead to some boasting for them.
I’ll give you an example. First time I met my husband he mentioned that he spoke 3 languages. Anyhow, when I said that was impressive, he said it wasn’t because in his country they were taught other languages as well from 1st grade. And that his dad knew 5 languages.
So he made it seem it was no big deal where he came from and quite common.
So I was still impressed with his skills without feeling he was bragging. He simply was tellling me something about himself.
Later I met his family and discovered that most where only knowledgeable in their language and they knew some English because they moved to the states.
He didn’t lie to me about them all being taught in school. Only, most of them don’t really work hard to learn another language till they have too.
He learned the rest because he wanted too.

josie's avatar

Why do anything about it?
Certainly, some people don’t like it.
But I bet you already have a supportive circle of friends who like you in spite of it.
Plus, you can use the president as your role model.

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