If you actually walked in and witnessed your partner cheating what would you do?

Not sure what I would do. I would like to think I would just walk away and come to terms with what I just witnessed. I would think it would be how strong the rage would be at that instant. I would hope I would not attack anyone but if I did I would become out of control and would probably cause great damage to both of them. I hope that I am not like that but I haven’t had that shock yet and cannot know how I would respond.

I would simply walk away with my head down. I would probably take pictures on my phone, without their knowledge. I wouldn’t let them know I was there. Then I would come back later, when my S/O was alone, and be nice and sweet, and then just drop it on them. Then I would kick them out, or leave (depending on who’s place it was). Then I’d never talk to them again. I’m not the forgiving type when it comes to that.

At first, I’d have the urge to throw-up. Then I’d grab the closet object to me (that I’m able to pick up) and whip it at them.

I would probably say “You f*cking two bit whore. Get the f*ck out of my life, you f*cking bitch!”

Honest answer.

@mama_cakes That’s cool. Unleash the inner animal! ROAR

@DerangedSpaceMonkey Oh, it’s in there.

I don’t have to imagine it. I went batshit. I don’t think I could have predicted that reaction, but the fury just bubbled up like a volcano.

I would simply walk out and say nothing… after all, it’s their loss.

I think I would walk away, maybe toss the key to the door on the table on the way out. If I’m not giving her what she needs, she’s better off without me.And I’m better off moving on.

@TheOnlyNeffie Details please!

I wish I could say I’d walk out, but I know that I have a temper, so I doubt I could. Who my anger would be directed towards would depend on who was involved. If it was my husband and some stranger that didn’t know me, it would mostly go toward my husband, but if it was my husband and someone I considered a friend, they would both get it equally. I don’t think I would get physical, beyond throwing clothes at them and telling them to get out, but I would definitely be yelling, screaming, and crying.

I’d walk out. If it was our home, I’d say ‘you have about 2 minutes to get out’ to the other person and to my SO I’d say ‘I need a cigarette on the balcony and then I’ll come back and we will talk – actually, you will talk and I will listen and then you will find elsewhere to sleep tonight’.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That’s kind of scary. I have a chill running up my spine.

@Adirondackwannabe Well, considering how the scene would send chills up my spine, he’d get off easy.

Three words, shit…..fan…..hit! Here’s hoping that unfortunate little episode will never play out :¬)

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I would sympathise with my SO on just losing the best thing he ever had… then walk away. His loss.
OR….. perhaps I would instantly become a widow.
Just not sure…...

You people would seriously walk away? I would freak the hell out!

@mama_cakes I’m with you. I’m not walking away! Someone’s gonna die, be disfigured or at the very least be rushed to the hospital because of blunt trauma to the head or excessive blood loss.

Quietly leave, gather as much of her stuff that I can, toss it in the car I bought her, drive it down to the crappy part of town, and leave it there, doors unlocked and keys in the ignition. Then I’d either call a taxi, a friend, or take the bus back, and start breaking everything of hers that I wasn’t able to get into the car, but if he’s still there and his key’s are easy to get, I’d first take his truck and park it in a designated parking space (handicap, the mayor’s, etc.), and then break everything of hers I didn’t get into her car.

And I’d probably beat his ass.

yes, I would just walk away too

I’d walk away…
…to the computer where I’d change the passwords and clean out the bank accounts.
There would be no violence at all.

When I get really stressed I actually get cold and calm. I’d love to put a major whipping on someone’s ass, but I have a terrible temper that I can’t let out. So yes, I’d walk away. Although worrieguy’s approach sounds pretty good

To begin with, I’d yell a lot and throw something heavy at them. Then I’d pack my bags and leave.

@worriedguy that’s a good idea. I’d do that too.

@downtide Why would you pack your bags? It is the partner who should be leaving.
Maybe you can go out for some fresh air for a day. But you shouldn’t be the one looking for a new apartment.

I probably would lose my shit. Thinking about how it felt when I learned I was cheated on before, combined with my reaction to walking out of the bathroom one night at the bar and finding my then-girlfriend’s earlobe in some trashy bitch’s mouth, I have a feeling it would get ugly.

I would have a series of emotions. Shock, pain, feeling like vomiting, then rage. I am not easily angered, but I am one scary mofo when I’m enraged (my then-girlfriend later said very meekly, “You’re really scary when you’re mad.” Damn straight.), particularly if someone has betrayed me.

I have a feeling that I would blow up, yell, throw things, and basically scare the shit out of both of them. I’m really over people shitting on me, so while I might have previously considered taking her back, my partner would get kicked to the curb while I focus my energies on the most creative, hurtful vengeance I can conjure up.

And that is why you don’t fuck with Scorpios.

@MissAnthrope Yeah, don’t mess with this Taurus, as well. I would go f*cking apeshit!

I one time had a situation happen like this in my early 20’s. I met this girl who was married and her husband was in Iraq. She had a roommate who was a mutual friend of ours. I would come by to see my friend, and noticed she had taken an interest. I knew she was married, although she never told anyone, nor wore a ring (she later said their marriage was simply for money because he was in the military, and they’re weren’t really together like that). After a few times coming by, one thing led to another, and you can image how the rest of that story goes.

My friend moved out, but I would still come by sometimes; it was about March, and she had her husband wasn’t due back until July’ish. So I go over one night to hang out watch a movie etc. we end up going to sleep. She lived in a 2 story apartment, which had a garage attached. At about 8 AM I hear a man yelling down stairs “Sarah!!! Sarah!!!” (obviously not her real name). She wakes me up and says “OMG Josh is here!!!”.

He had a key to the house but wasn’t able to get in due to the door had a chain lock like this he also didn’t have a garage door opener so he couldn’t get in that way.

The only way out of the house was through the front door where he was standing, and the garage, but he had parked a u-haul truck blocking the cars in the garage door, and like an idiot that one night I decided to park in her garage.

Her old friend had left a bed in the other room so we get dressed, and I run to the other room. She goes down stairs to let him in, and lets him know there is a guy here who is just “crashing” for the night. I hear him yell “WHO THE F—- IS THAT!”. Note this guy was huge compared to me, and I was scarred beyond all belief. I hear them downstairs arguing, she starts crying, he’s yelling, its all around bad news bears. Apparently her idea of their marriage wasn’t the same as his.

Needless to say after about 10 minutes of hearing this yelling, short of calling the police, I decide I need to get out as soon as possible. I head half way down the stairs and they are standing there yelling. I say “I have to go, I need to goto work”, he looks at me and yells “You’re not going anywhere!!”. I tell him I’m going to call the police if he doesn’t move that van. He fortunately agrees, moves the van, and I jump in my car and speed off faster than bat out of hell.

In the end, I was that “guy”, and one thing I learned (I’m probably going to hell for this), if your gonna be involved in someones affair, never let it happen at their house…ever..ever ever. If at all possible just avoid it, even though I know temptation can make it extremely difficult.

Hope you enjoyed the story.

Note: they ended up getting a divorce shortly after, he crashed her car, she moved out..and sadly I still saw her a few times afterwards (just never at her place)

@wgallios I don’t know why but I laughed my ass off at that story..thank you for sharing.

@wgallios If I was the dude (hubby), it would take all of my strength not to have your nuts in my hand! Twiist!

@mama_cakes Why do you think violence so often comes to mind? Is it about some kind of a primal response to another taking what’s yours or is it some kind of a perverse extreme of jealousy? I just don’t get it – it is about anger?

@mama_cakes I’m sure he wanted my head, he was seriously pissed. But I’m sure he was able to stay logical. The last thing I’m sure he needs is police showing up for domestic violence/assault when hes active duty.

Either way, it was a completely bad situation.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I would want to go after the dude (or woman) who was cheating with my partner, but, probably wouldn’t. I’d be more opt to have a go at my partner.

It’s an automatic response that comes from the gut. But, that’s me. I am certain that I would not be in my right mind at that moment. I couldn’t just turn around and walk away calmly. Would I physically hurt someone? No. I would yell and throw something (I take back what I said earlier. I wouldn’t throw it at them, but, I would whip it at something), and be right pissed.

My girlfriend’s response: she’d go all Penelope Cruz in Vicky Christina Barcelona—ape shit!

maybe, I’m crazy.

@worriedguy mainly because I don’t want to be lumbered with a house that I can’t afford to pay for on my own. I’d rather walk out than have that responsibility.

I’d tell them both to get up and get the hell out of the house while I separated and packed his belongings. I’d send him a text msg later to tell him when it was ok to come by and get his things. Yes, my heart would be broken but that wouldn’t change the fact there is no more “us”.

There is different things I would do. It all depends on what I see them doing (making out, making love,etc.) or what I have to use as a weapon XD
I would hit my significant other with a bat(or anything else that’s around). The harder I hit him is the more I loved/liked him.
I would take pictures of them without them knowing (while my heart is breaking), confront him about it later, and if he denies it I have those pictures as evidence.
I would ruin there whole moment and confront the girl. If she didn’t know about me I’ll be cool with her and won’t do nothing to her but if she did no me and him were dating I would’ve went bad on her.
I would scream and yell, try and fight the girl. some of the words I would yell at the guy would be “You f***in b!***, how the f*** could you do this sh!* to me?” I would wait for an answer then start screaming “f*** you, you son of a b****” before he could finish talking.I would also get some one to fight him. Then once I am calm again I would ask him about all that.
What I do is also depending on my mood.

I think the yelling and screaming part, followed by the walking away with my head down part would be pretty accurate. I’d probably say some horrible things to this individual, given that they’ve decided to violate my trust for their own benefit, and that benefit being lust.