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Have you ever had to cancel your well laid plans at the last minute?

Asked by Cruiser (40449points) November 23rd, 2010

Have you ever put a massive effort into planning a special moment, activity or event and at the last minute something comes up that you have to pull the plug? How did you handle that change of course and how did the people/people involved react? Were they supportive or reacted like crazed banshees when you broke the news?? Were you the planner or the one left out in the cold and what did you do?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Yes,but rarely has that ever happened.It has to be a death or I have to be on fire for me to not follow through with a promise to someone.I was taught from an early age to keep my word to people.
I do not expect a good reaction from someone that I cancel on.They have every reason to be disappointed and/or pissed.It is an inconvenience and it puts people out to change plans at the last minute.It is a lack of respect to cancel on someone without a very good reason.It is a way of telling someone that their time is not as valuable as yours.

Coloma's avatar

It happens, I am pretty damn flexible sooo, I always go with the ’ it is what it is’ mantra.

No use fighting ‘reality’, well you can, but doesn’t make any dif. lol

Extreme rigidity and inability to go with the flow is the stuff heart disease is made of. haha

ucme's avatar

Yeah some of the lads & me planned a night on the piss. Trawling the local pubs & clubs, a monumental drink fest was planned. The night’s jolly japes had hardly begun when a phone call announced that the wife had gone into labour with our first child. I couldn’t have been happier to cancel that night’s drinking. Better things to do, wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Got pissed the next day, well you’ve gotta wet the baby’s head haven’t you? :¬)

wundayatta's avatar

So I had just gotten married, and we were headed off for our honeymoon. We were going to Portugal, and we lived about two and a half hours from the airport. We had stopped at my mother-in-law’s where we would leave our car and my wife’s brother would take us to the airport.

We were about to head out for the airport, and my wife’s brother said, “You got everything? Coats? Bags? Passports?”

When he mentioned passports, my wife’s suddenly went pale.

“Oh my God! I left my passport on the table back home.”

So, yeah. Sudden change of plans. Non-refundable tickets and all that. We didn’t have time to go home, get the passport and make the plane.

Talk about panic, too! Well, I hopped on the phone, and called everyone to see if we could leave without a passport, but we couldn’t. So finally, I had to call the airline with our sad story. They were very nice, and found a place for us on the next flight out. We called the car rental agency and the hotel in Lisbon to change our reservations.

Then we went home to get her passport.

Later on my mother-in-law said that I was such a good husband, because I never yelled at my wife once. I didn’t even get angry.

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Then there was this summer. We had an 7 hour trip to make the ferry to Martha’s Vineyard. You need a reservation to get a spot on the ferry, and we had made our reservation some six months in advance. So we had to get there on time.

I decided we should leave ten hours for the trip, because I knew traffic in CT could get pretty snarled up on a Saturday. So we packed up, and set off at seven in the morning.

Two hours later, in the middle of the New Jersey Turnpike, my engine just shut down. No power. I managed to pull over and I tried to turn the engine on and off. It’s a hybrid, so it went on, the gas engine never started. We were next to an exit, and somehow I managed to drive up just past the toll booths on electric power alone.

I don’t know what would have happened if I hadn’t bought a smart phone a few weeks before. We were able to find a car dealer, a tow truck, and line up a rental van (just in case). Soon, the bad news came. Our car wasn’t going to get fixed. They had no idea what was wrong with it.

We rented the van, switched all our belongings, including a bike rack which was advertised as the fastest installing bike rack ever (good thing). We took off, and we had lost “only” a little over the three hours of lead time we had for ferry departure. Of course you have to be there a half hour in advance, so we were really a half hour behind.

We drove without stopping, watching the GPS on my phone to see where the hold-ups were and how long they were, so we could either try to go around them or wait. Knowing how long they were was really helpful in reducing anxiety. We knew when the roads were all green and we could fly. All the time, I was thinking about what we could do if we missed the ferry.

We were flying through Rhode Island, and getting time checks every five minutes or so. The GPS gave us an estimated time of arrival. We had caught up to ferry departure time. Good, I thought. Now let’s see if we can get up to time to board the ferry—I figured if we got there 15 minutes before, we might get on. Slowly we made up time, and unbelievably, we actually got there five minutes before they started boarding.

I think the phone saved our vacation, and is well worth the investment. I can’t believe we were able to breakdown, get towed to the dealer, have the car diagnosed, get a rental car, transfer our belongings and go exactly the right amount of speeding to get there in time for our ferry.

It turned out our inverter had broken. Something this dealer had never seen before. It was a very expensive repair which, fortunately, was covered under warranty.

marinelife's avatar

Yes, we once had to cancel a trip to my mother-in-law’s at the last minute due to car trouble. We were disappointed, but OK, but she was furious.

It took a long time for her to forgive us.

Coloma's avatar

@wundayatta

Good job ol’ chap!
Yep, the road to hell and all that.
Once something has happened one can choose to stay in hell and resist what is, or, re-group and go on with plan, B, C, D, E, F….. lol

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Oh sure – I don’t handle these things well.

wundayatta's avatar

@Coloma At times like that, I actually can lose my attachment to the plan and the results. We’ll do what we can, and if that doesn’t work, we’ll do something else. It would be nice to be able to find that calm in ordinary life.

partyparty's avatar

Yes it happened to me once.
We cancelled our special wedding anniversary… which was at Christmas time… because we had to have our dog put to sleep the day before the anniversary. Many of our friends either telephoned or called round to offer us support. Didn’t even celebrate Christmas that year.
Just couldn’t face celebrating without our furry family friend :(((((

Cruiser's avatar

@Coloma That is just how I feel over things like that….LITS to get your undies in a bunch over things out of your control!

@marinelife..but did she really ever forgive you??

@Simone_De_Beauvoir apparently you are not alone!

@partyparty WOW! That is one of the biggies I thought has happened! Sorry about your pup and hope the guests were understanding!

CyanoticWasp's avatar

I cancel and change plans a lot, but I can’t say that this question really applies to me, because I never have well laid plans. I’m not being smutty there; I just don’t plan to the nth degree like I see people do sometimes.

MissAusten's avatar

We have three kids. I can’t even count the number of times we’ve had to change plans because one or more of them got sick! Things like dinner plans with friends, holidays, and visits to family have all been affected by a sick child. Usually one of us will stay home with the sick child while everyone else goes off to the event. Kids have the best timing.

There have been bigger plans I’ve had to cancel or change. Two of my kids have birthdays in February or March, and each has had one birthday party postponed at the last minute because of a blizzard.

marinelife's avatar

@Cruiser I’m sure it just got added to my list of daughter-in-law sins.

ducky_dnl's avatar

All of the time. My schedule changes fast and then sometimes my friends pull out on me.

Cruiser's avatar

@MissAusten That is what I was thinking about…plans that get changed because of more important responsibilities that creep up and destroy the best laid plans.

@ducky_dnl How does that make you feel when plans get dropped at the last minute?

downtide's avatar

Trips to relatives have been cancelled due to bad weather or broken-down cars. The mother in law usually insists that we cancel if the weather is bad; she doesn’t like us driving over the hills in bad weather.

filmfann's avatar

We spent months planning a family get away to Big Sur.
The night before we were to leave, my wife’s daughter was arrested for selling drugs, and stealing stuff from a friend (actually traded stuff with him for drugs).
So, my wife stayed home from Big Sur, since we were pretty sure she was gonna come home and steal stuff.
Instead, while she was home alone, someone came here with a sword to kill my step-daughter. Fortunately, he did not see my wife.
Anyway, lonely weekend, crushed plans.

Coloma's avatar

@filmfann

Damn, that’s some serious drama! I hope it’s all behind you now. :-/

YARNLADY's avatar

We try to plan for the unplanned. It doesn’t always work, such as the flight that is cancelled and makes you miss your connecting flight. I was lucky, the next flight was readily available.

Or when we were ready to leave San Diego after the annual birthday party, but Father-In-Law went into the hospital. We stayed over several days, and finally most of us went home, but Hubby stayed over because Dad passed away.

On our last trip, the car refused to start in the morning of our second day. We still had enough points to get an extra day free room, and the hotel got us in right away, even though we had just checked out an hour earlier.

Since we had to meet Sonny and his wife at the airport the next day, we rented a car just in case. It was worthwhile to have two cars anyway.

filmfann's avatar

@Coloma My daughter is 7 or 8 years clean, and now holds down a normal, stressful job. All that nonsense is gladly behind us for now.

Coloma's avatar

@filmfann

Good news indeed!

Kids!

So far, so good with my offspring, I’m just afraid she might have to move home again someday…noooo!

The first launch has gone well the past few years, hopefully there will be no crash landing back at mama’s place. hahaha

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