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(NSFW) How do you manage to get sleep, when you have "noisy neighbors" engaging in late night/early morning activities (the walls are thin)?

Asked by Jude (32112points) December 3rd, 2010

Is it safe to wear earplugs through the night? I’m all for everyone to have a good time, believe me. :) It’s just that I have to get up at 5:30 in the a.m., and from around 1:30 ‘til 3, I hear “it”. I just moved into this place and I am worried about my g/f and I, as well (as far as the neighbors hearing us).

We’re louder

Last night, I heard “yes, seriously, I did c*m!” (the girl), hahaa!

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iamthemob's avatar

I would turn my living room into my bedroom and vice versa. But you know…at least you don’t have to pay for porn…

crisw's avatar

Earplugs and white noise.

Earplugs are safe; I have been wearing them every night for years due to a snoring hubby.

BoBo1946's avatar

loll…. @iamthemob a lot of trouble. I would turn the TV UP…

Jude's avatar

@iamthemob I have everything situated and I like where my living room is at. Switching them wouldn’t work. My bedroom is too small.

I’ll get some ear plugs.

marinelife's avatar

Move your bed to the opposite wall if possible.

A fan can offer white noise.

josie's avatar

This is a lot of trouble, but my roomates and I did it in college, because our neighbors complained about us.
We peeled back the carpet from the wall in question. We took the electrical outlets out of the wall in question. We framed up a new wall on top of the old wall, stuffed it with insulation and we reinstalled the outlets. We put up dry wall and the trimmed the carpet. We painted the wall. The room was about 4 inches smaller, but nobody ever knew the difference. It is probably still that way.

jca's avatar

sometimes switching a bedroom with a living room is impractical, as if it’s a one bedroom apt, that would mean guests walking into a bedroom, and having to walk through bedroom to get to living room.

you could write them a note and slip it under their door, and just say something like “can you guys please try to be a little more quiet at night? We will try to do the same. (signed Your new neighbors)”

FutureMemory's avatar

The next time you see one of them, say something like “sounded like you two had a really good time last night!”. Maybe they’ll quiet down after that.

jca's avatar

I think the advantage of writing a note as opposed to saying something to one of them is that writing a note will make more of an impression, and there will be no misunderstanding the intention. Saying something to one of them, they might not get the drift of what you’re talking about or they might forget you said it and forget to tell the other person. With a note, they will both look at it and think harder about it, in my opinion.

chyna's avatar

They go for an hour and a half? Wow!

Jude's avatar

“sometimes switching a bedroom with a living room is impractical, as if it’s a one bedroom apt, that would mean guests walking into a bedroom, and having to walk through bedroom to get to living room.”

Yeah. that’s not going to happen. I’m not going to switch rooms.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

If you and your g/f are louder you might want to get with the neighbors and come up with a mutually agreed upon range of times when all of you can go at it with no restrictions and other times when you have to keep the noise down. What the heck, you’ll probably encourage each other with the noise. Or insulate the heck out of the wall, which doesn’t sound like nearly as much fun.

BoBo1946's avatar

ummm.. hour and half. I’m jealous. Where did you say you lived?

Jude's avatar

It was off and on for an hour and a half. Things started to quiet down, then it started back up again, haha!

chyna's avatar

@mama_cakes Too funny. Just as you think it’s over and you start to fall off to sleep they start up again! Ok, that isn’t really funny to you I guess.

Jude's avatar

“Just as you think it’s over and you start to fall off to sleep they start up again! ”

I know, haa!! Someone got up to use the john (I heard a flush), it was quiet (for a good 20 minutes), then she started back up again. I was like “Jeeesus!

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@mama_cakes You have the neighbors address or phone number? I’m always looking for tips. Although he should have known she came.

jca's avatar

either he is insecure and has to ask if she came or she is not a good enough actress.

Jude's avatar

@jca Personally, I don’t even want to know, nor do I care. ha! You know what I’m saying.

FutureMemory's avatar

Homeboy ain’t doing his job right if he has to ask that question.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Well if he did it without even being aware he was doing it I might want to know what his technique was. (There’s a sentence to send an English teacher screaming into the night.)

tedd's avatar

One of my x g/fs was pretty…. “loud” .... I at the time lived with 3 other guys and of course being guys they would always later make comments to me (usually joking about it). It didn’t bother me at all.

Then several months later I mentioned something to the g/f about how they could usually hear (I think we were talking about being able to hear one of them)... and she was instantly mortified. Apparently she didn’t realize she was that loud… even though the neighbors could probably hear her.

Seelix's avatar

I’d write a note. Explain that you can hear everything, and they’ll probably be embarrassed enough to keep things quiet.
What are the noise bylaws like where you live? Here, we have a “quiet after 11pm” bylaw, which means that if I felt the need to (and I’ve done so, with other neighbours who liked to play LOUD music ALL THE TIME), I could report the issue to the landlord and/or police. I know that would create bad blood that might make things uncomfortable, but it’s an option.

As for earplugs, you can definitely wear them throughout the night. They have foam ones that you can get at any drugstore that are actually quite comfortable to wear, and they have different decibel ratings to tell you how much noise they’ll block out.

Mikewlf337's avatar

Tell them to shut the F*#k up. I hate it when people who are “passionately in love” disturb my life. Keep it to yourselves. I don’t care how much you love one another. If it doesn’t stop then call the landlord. If that doesn’t work call the police. I hate it when idiots do idiotic things.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Earplugs work, at least the “threaded” foam squishies I used to buy. They look like a threaded bolt, kinda. In an apartment I had an open upstairs loft that was my room and 18ft below was the living room where another bf and sometimes his gf “slept” along with a third roomie in an actual downstairs bedroom. We all wore earplugs and it was okay so if you’ve got a wall, even a thin one then they should help.

This might be the opportunity to invest in a 6×9 rug you can hang on the most offending shared wall.

YARNLADY's avatar

Those foam insulator wall boards are excellent sound reducers. They come in 4×8 sheets and can be placed against the existing wall without any glue or trouble. Just make cut outs where the plugs are, they cut with any sharp knife. They come in different thickness, In our experience, the 2” work fine. They are less expensive than the 3”

sinscriven's avatar

I vote for the nuclear option:

Pound on the wall and yell “She’s faking it!!”

FutureMemory's avatar

@sinscriven Best answer on this thread.

BoBo1946's avatar

Lmao….... love it Sinscriven!

Jude's avatar

I need thicker walls. Three thirty ‘til five thirty this morning. Lots of talking and laughing. I heard her say to him “you’re great”, lol!

jca's avatar

i would definitely say something to them. post an update please.

Jude's avatar

Follow up.

So, last night, at around 1, I heard them again. HE was being a lot more vocal this time. And, all of a sudden I heard a loud “Uhh..Uhhhhhhhhhhh” from him (orgasm). Then, she started laughing. He then angrily said, “Why are you laughing?”.

Poor guy can’t win for losing.

I moved to the sofa, just in case they were going to start up again.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Jude Why don’t you leave a better sex manual or something on this guy’s doorstep. At least that way somebody would benefit from his efforts.

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