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Are women like me attractive?

Asked by nicolilambertbutler (12points) December 23rd, 2010

I am 5’4”. I am a size 18 and I weigh about 230 lbs. I am very curvy, but I hvebeen called fat. Am I(and women like me) attractive?

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littlebeck30's avatar

Yes you are! If you think that you are attractive, then you are attractive and I am sure there are plenty of people out there who will find you very attractive.

Just remember, physical attractiveness is just half of the picture, you also must be emotionally attractive in order to keep that special someone.

You are you!!

MRSHINYSHOES's avatar

I love curvy ladies. ;)

Likeradar's avatar

You will be attractive to some people, and not so much to others. The same can be said of every other body shape as well.

tigerlilly2's avatar

Absolutely! Everyone has different preferences in who/what they are attracted to. I’ve heard many people say they aren’t attracted to bony, skin thin people but so what? You are beautiful girl, don’t let anyone tell you any different! :)

koanhead's avatar

For answering a question like this it would be slightly helpful if you posted a picture. It would be even more helpful if you wrote more about yourself.
Contrary to popular belief, guys do care about what’s inside as opposed to what a person looks like; and popular belief states that women do as well. Your question doesn’t specify to whom you might putatively be attractive, and I applaud that.
I don’t know you, so I can’t tell you if you are attractive. I can tell you that I had a long relationship with a wonderful woman weighing nearly 100 pounds more than you, who is still one of my closest friends. Frankly, I was never particularly attracted to her- but I really really liked her, and many other guys found her attractive before, during, and since that time. She’s happily married now.
My best advice to you is this: if being attractive is important to you, then work at it. Don’t even think about or worry about if you have achieved it or not; just keep working on it. That way you never have to feel bad about it and you won’t feel cocky either- it’s always a work in progress.

koanhead's avatar

Also, in general men are not aware of womens’ dress sizes unless they are already married ;^)

Again, Fat != unattractive; in fact, to many people in many places and within many cultures, fat is emphatically attractive (pun intended)!

everephebe's avatar

I would probably not be physically attracted to you.
Unless you lost about 100 lbs. On a planet that does not have a shortage of food but a serious problem with the distribution, I find it less than pleasing that many starve while others get sick and die from eating too much. I don’t mean to offend anyone here, I am just answering the question honestly, I think you deserve that much from me.

downtide's avatar

Just as @Likeradar says, there are some people who would find you attractive and some who wouldn’t. I’m in the camp that finds larger ladies more attractive than skinny ones, but it depends on other things too: your smile and your personality being important. A woman who is unhappy about her body is less attractive, regardless of what size she is.

world_hello's avatar

This doesn’t really answer the question, but I worry about your health. My mom is about the same size and was just diagnosed with type-2 diabetes. She is 60 but it is still bad and you should think about it. I hate to think of another person being in her position when they don’t need to be.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

I don’t know if I’d find you attractive without a pic, but I your weight wouldn’t be an issue – I like knowing that I won’t break the person if sex gets passionate (which it often does).

Seelix's avatar

The most attractive feature of any woman is confidence.

Some men are attracted to larger ladies, some are only into skinny gals. But truly, the most beautiful and attractive curvy girls I’ve known are well aware that they’re hawt and it shows! Dress in clothes that are made for your figure and flatter it – not in clothes that are too tight or that simply hide the areas you’re not in love with (this is true for women of any size).

As long as you’re healthy and unashamed of your body, it’ll shine through, and it won’t matter whether some people call you fat.

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Paradox's avatar

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I’ve choosen heavier and in many circumstances what many others around me would consider the “lesser” catch (as far as looks go). Many guys are more attracted to the personality that goes along with a certain physique over straight looks.

Almost everybody, regardless of looks are secretly insecure about themselves. Contrary to the garbage posted on the net and in the media guys are just as insecure with themselves in many ways as women are. You should always think of that before shooting yourself down.

john65pennington's avatar

My wife is 5 ft. 3 in. and weighes 120 pounds. she has kept her model figure for many years.

Like many have stated, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

LostInParadise's avatar

It depends on the curves , or hip-to-waist ratio, to be more specific.

The_Invisible_Man's avatar

You sound like you could be an attractive lady to me. Being curvy can mean only good. Don’t pay any mind to those who say you’re fat. They’re just mad that they aren’t as curvy and shapely as you are.

everephebe's avatar

Unless they’re doctors.

klutzaroo's avatar

@everephebe Since when do doctors know everything? They’re still using inaccurate measures like BMI charts to tell people whether they’re healthy or not, regardless of things like body composition. Someone can be absolutely healthy being whatever weight and be told that they have a problem by doctors who don’t take the time to actually figure out if its true or not.

everephebe's avatar

True, if it’s her natural weight and she eats healthy, then that’s totally ok. And of course much much much more sexy than…. Well if it was less natural. I am in major support of this lady and people who would find her attractive, as long as she is healthy.

I GA-Ed you :)

choreplay's avatar

It’s all about attitude babe, so stick that nose up, heave those breast out and don’t get a crap what anyone else thinks and I gaurantee you’ll acheive sexy.

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