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My best friend is flirting with my boyfriend ( who i have mentioned before).What should I do?

Asked by karson74472 (29points) January 17th, 2011

My best friend is flirting with my boyfriend ( who i have mentioned before).What should I do?!!?!?!

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Sueanne_Tremendous's avatar

Change best friends and boy friends.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Is he flirting back?

Seelix's avatar

Tell her you’re not comfortable with it. If she’s your best friend, she’ll take your feelings into consideration.

zenvelo's avatar

follow @Sueanne_Tremendous‘s advice. Tell him you’re not going to put up with it. Tell her good luck, he’ll flirt with other girls in front of her.

tedd's avatar

Flirting is just flirting, as long as it doesn’t go past that I don’t really see the problem. If you have an issue with it you could ask your b/f, then your friend. But its just harmless stuff.

Seaofclouds's avatar

If your boyfriend is flirting back, you need to discuss it with them both. If he’s not flirting back, you need to tell your friend that you consider her behavior inappropriate and hurtful. Good luck.

cheebdragon's avatar

I hate to break it to you dear, but she is not your friend…..kick her ass, problem solved.

Dutchess_III's avatar

The real question is, how is your boyfriend reacting to it?
I agree…change friends, at the least.

skfinkel's avatar

Talk to your boyfriend about it. He’s the one you have to know is on your side, and isn’t leaving. If he is solid, then you can talk her, but you know where you stand.

Kardamom's avatar

If your boyfriend is flirting back, then you need to tell him how embarassing it is for you when he does it. If he doesn’t apologize and stop immediately, then you need to break up with him now, before it get worse. If you stick with him and he doesn’t respect your wishes, then you will feel awful and look like a fool.

You need to tell your best friend that you are hurt and embarrassed by what she is doing and ask her to stop. If she says you are “immature” or being “ridiculous” or that she’s not flirting, give her a few examples (calmly) and let her attempt to explain. If she can’t see it, then she’s probably interested in him. If she doesn’t apologize and stop, she’s no friend.

marinelife's avatar

Yuck! Sorry this is happening to you. The advice above is good.

YARNLADY's avatar

Your definition of a friend is different from mine. No best friend would ever do such a thing in my life.

cheebdragon's avatar

I had a best friend just like this….keyword HAD….she ended up making a few Porno’s and eventually just became a hooker, true story.

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lonelydragon's avatar

That depends. First, is your boyriend flirting back? If so, you must have a serious talk with him. Let him know that you think this behavior is inappropriate and, more importantly, damaging to your relationship. Have a similar talk with your friend. If one or both deny it, then there probably is something to your suspicions. I would ditch them both if they are behaving inappropriately. With friends like that, you are better of on your own (speaking rom personal experience).

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Milku's avatar

if shes flirting with him, that means you have something she hasnt. Shes jealous. Confront her, tell her that her behaviour is inappropriate. Ifs shes a real friend, she will stop. She might trying to break you and your bf up. She also might fancy him. Tell him that you think shes flirting and make sure he doesnt like her more than he should. If he knows how you feel, then he might tell her to stop. He might also mention that he DOESNT have feelings for her.

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