General Question

choreplay's avatar

Do you have an honor code?

Asked by choreplay (6297points) February 7th, 2011

What are the essentials that you subscribe to in how you treat other people or want to be treated? Tell me about your top three precepts. If you don’t have an honor code and owe nothing to your fellow humans what are your top three rules of engagement.

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

27 Answers

janbb's avatar

1. First, do no harm.
2. Own your own stuff.
3. Be kind and compassionate.

marinelife's avatar

1. Avoid lying unless it is harmless and to not hurt someone’s feelings.
2. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.
3. Give people the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.

JLeslie's avatar

1. Golden rule
2. Be noticeably happy when interacting with the other person, even if it is just a smile or a polite please and thank you.
3. Listen well

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’d answer your question but I don’t have the 25000 points required yet.

choreplay's avatar

I don’t remember listing the as a prerequisite @Adirondackwannabe. I only have 1719 at the moment so please feel free to ask.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

It just struck me as ironic the heavy hitters were the first to weigh in.
I have a code of honor I hold myself to that is extremely high.
1 Always do the right thing. It might not be pleasant, but if it’s right you have to do it.
2 My word is absolute
3 Treat others the way they deserve to be treated.

Summum's avatar

I have changed my considerably over the years as I have gained experience.

1 Have an open mind to all possibility.
2 Judge not for we are not in the shoes of anyone else.
3 Take full responsibility for my own life and actions.

Seaofclouds's avatar

1. Treat others how I’d like to be treated.
2. Be honest.
3. Be aware of the consequences of my actions and take responsibility for them.

Coloma's avatar

Absolutely!
My integrity is tantamount and I expect the same from others.

Do not lie, ever! Unless it is a matter of life and death. As in, lying to protect another from great harm.

Do not manipulate using guilt, lies by omission or trickery to get what you want.
My biggest hatred.
A borrower is responsible for returning what they have borrowed from the lender.
Do not expect me to come and collect my own thing.

Be impeccable with your word. Read, no lying or manipulations

Honor others as you would have them honor you, meaning, all relationships are between equals and everyones wants, needs and desires and well being are just as important as your own when negotiating any situation.

Do not use others for your own selfish desires if you really do not truly enjoy them for who they are.

I have found in my maturity that the more self aware one is the more integrity they tend to possess. One must understand their own dynamic and clear themselves of negative programming and bad emotional habits to be fully present in their integrity.

Bluefreedom's avatar

We have 3 Core Values in the Air Force that I follow in my military career each and every day:

- Integrity First
– Service Before Self
– Excellence In All We Do

coffeenut's avatar

1— Treat others as they should be treated.
2— Honesty is usually the best policy.
3— Hope for the best…prepare for the worst.
4— L R take priority.

Nullo's avatar

I have one, but it’s not really codified.

choreplay's avatar

Ok, well, what is it Nullo?

wundayatta's avatar

1—Leave things better than they were before you got there
2—Always love as much as you can
3—Do no harm

glenjamin's avatar

I have my own honor code, but it is nothing I consciously think about. That said,
1) Be honest, even when you’re lying
2) Give them the benefit of the doubt, until they prove you wrong
3) Don’t overstep your bounds

thorninmud's avatar

I don’t have much to add to all the wonderful expressions above, except to say that I try to keep in mind that every person is a deep and wonderful mystery. That keeps me from feeling that I have anyone all figured out. Ever. It keeps me from reacting too quickly to surface appearances or isolated interactions. There’s always something about them I’ve yet to discover. How much and which aspects of that mystery get revealed depends a great deal on the openness I bring to the encounter.

SmashTheState's avatar

Never snitch. Ever.
Never back down to authority.
Do whatever it takes.

“Honour” is a luxury for the rich and powerful who established the rules of play. Those of us fighting them must use any and all methods possible.

Coloma's avatar

@SmashTheState

Uh, your philosophy sounds sociopathic and highly manipulative.
Honor is a state of being, a value, a mental, emotional and spiritual responsibility if one wishes to be as happy and healthy as possible, not a luxury of the rich and powerful.

Seriously, your attitude and opinions are dangerously dysfunctional.

flutherother's avatar

1. Enjoy and have respect for Nature
2. Live with others in the spirit of Spring
3. Live with yourself in the spirit of Autumn

lynfromnm's avatar

1. Do what is right, regardless of any consequences
2. Promote human dignity
3. Give benefit of the doubt

Coloma's avatar

@lynfromnm

I agree. My version of giving the benefit of the doubt coincides with ‘3 strikes you’re out!’

The 1st time I will look away and give the benefit, the 2nd time I will be watching for the 3rd time, and then, poof! be gone! lol

bkcunningham's avatar

@Coloma my philosophy on benefit of the doubt is the old, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”

Coloma's avatar

@bkcunningham

Yep, that too. We can live our entire lives in integrity through catchy little sayings. haha

YARNLADY's avatar

I don’t lie, I don’t steal, I don’t cheat.

incendiary_dan's avatar

This, because I’m an animal and my behavior has effects on my surroundings beyond just the anthropocentric focus.

Nullo's avatar

Do What Is Right.
* Do what is legal
* Do what is moral
** If neither option is available, do what is most reasonable, or least detrimental.
If one must choose, moral is to be chosen over legal.
* If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
Don’t Do What Is Wrong.
* Should one find himself doing what is wrong, he should stop. Neglecting to stop doing what is wrong is itself wrong.
Be Polite And Respectful For As Long As You Can. Unnecessary rudeness, violence, and misbehavior will not help your case unless you have some control over the situation.

Thammuz's avatar

I base my actions on a strictly practical basis: What would better life for all of society if everyone did it. I’m honest about my opinion, I don’t inflict suffering to anything without good reason, I judge people on their intentions as well as their actions.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther