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Who exactly was it who died and left you in charge?

Asked by josie (29299points) February 9th, 2011

When I was a little younger, people would occasionally say “Who died and left you in charge?”
It was sort of a friendly way of telling somebody that they were being a little too bossy, or leaning too far forward.

But as far as I know, I have never heard anybody actually answer the question.
What would you say?

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anartist's avatar

I have heard tis a time or two, but don’t remember where. I didn’t answer either.
But a good answer might be:
I’ve ALWAYS been in charge.

JilltheTooth's avatar

I always heard “Who died and made you God?”. I, too, would love to know the answer.

Jude's avatar

“They” did. You know that group of people on the corner = they.

They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change
them yourself” – Andy Warhol.

Summum's avatar

The answer is that we are the creator of our own lifes. Therefore no one had to die to put you in charge of your life it just is so.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I always heard “Who died and made you God,” too. So…it had more meaning that way!

Jeruba's avatar

My mother.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Yeah…..that’ll do it @Jeruba.

josie's avatar

@Jeruba I would have said My Father, but same idea. GA

aprilsimnel's avatar

You will in a minute if you don’t shut yer trap!”

chyna's avatar

“The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind.”

Neizvestnaya's avatar

My Grampa. He’s a hard act to follow but I try ;)

bob_'s avatar

I had heard it as “who died and made you Mr. I-decide-the-law?”

john65pennington's avatar

Actually, it was my Uncle Philmore. He use to operate an illegal whiskey still in Nevermore, Tn. He always told me that when he died, that I was in charge of his still and all his whiskey-making.

Sorry, Unlcle Philmore. That’s illegal.

DominicX's avatar

Who cares if you disagree?
You are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be?
Who died and made you king of anything?

I suppose it was the king who came before me. :)

cockswain's avatar

My dad. After giving his eulogy at his grave, I felt pretty much like it was all on me after that.

cookieman's avatar

My father. Although I’ve come to suspect he wasn’t truly in charge of anything.

cockswain's avatar

@cprevite I had the same realization, yet it somehow made me feel more in control of my life.

wundayatta's avatar

Seth, my imaginary friend and master of the universe. He promised I could be in charge if he died.

Is imaginary friendicide illegal?

peridot's avatar

Like a lot of other people here… my mom, in November to be exact. @cockswain—I feel ya!

SABOTEUR's avatar

This question is absolutely BEGGING to be answered “yo mama”...

Dutchess_III's avatar

@SABOTEUR It’s already been said, but not so flippantly. There is nothing like your mother dying to change your perspective of the universe.

SABOTEUR's avatar


#1 The comment was meant in jest…you perceived it as flippant.
#2 Anyone who’s mother has died should not be reading questions concerning somebody dying and leaving somebody else in charge.
#3 To anyone else who’ve chosen to be offended, my sincere apology lighten up…it ain’t that serious.

Jeruba's avatar


#2 Anyone [whose] mother has died should not be reading questions concerning somebody dying and leaving somebody else in charge.

Why not? That’s exactly what happened. As I said above.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Thanks @Jeruba. I guess if you’ve never experienced the loss of your mother it’s hard to fathom.

Jeruba's avatar

@Dutchess_III, there really isn’t anything else like it, not even losing your father.

When I answered above, it was in a slightly wry tone, because the wording of the question implies that the person who died was in charge. My mother was one of those who always know exactly how things ought to be. I’m a bit the same way—and we didn’t always have, shall we say, identical visions. When she died three years ago, it was a tremendous loss, unspeakable. But I’ve also found that there’s a little more room in the world now for my sense of how things ought to be.

Regardless, I don’t see any reason why a person whose mother has passed on is ineligible to read this question. I didn’t see [NSFPWMHD] in the subject line.

Dutchess_III's avatar

LOL! [NSFPWMHD] took me a minute!

ALL mothers are in charge, period. That’s just the way of the world, even if you don’t agree with them. When they pass, if you’re a mother, suddenly….you’re in charge, even if you don’t want to be, and whether anyone agrees with you or not. It’s…frightening at first. The loss never goes away.

It’s not ever something I can imagine I could joke about.

Oh yes, also, @SABOTEUR regarding your [NSFPWMHD] comment… everyone’s mother is going to die some day, including yours. So…your comment makes…no sense, actually.

SABOTEUR's avatar

In my 54 years on this planet, I’ve never heard anyone take this phrase as literally as you people are doing in this thread. I made the mistake of assuming everyone understood the phrase to be a sarcastic way of telling someone they’re not the boss. Why you insist on misinterpreting a joke to be an insult to everyone’s mother is beyond my limited comprehension.

I’ve explained my intent. If you still insist on being offended, knock yourselves out

Dutchess_III's avatar

Do you still have your Mom @SABOTEUR?

SABOTEUR's avatar

My mom had a stroke several years ago.
She lies comatose in a nursing home.

Dutchess_III's avatar

My Mom was there, @SABOTEUR for 1½ years, after 4 years of…things going wrong in an otherwise healthy-as-a-horse woman. Minor things that didn’t really need fixin’ but they dumped drugs on her to “fix” the minor things. I just…think I could have done something different. Could have stood up. Done something to change it before it happened.

ANYWAY! We did come to a truce earlier, didn’t we? Don’t take a break from Fluther now! We just getting started!

SABOTEUR's avatar

You did what you could. There’s no guarantee that “standing up” would have made much difference.

As for us, we’re ok. I have to be mindful, though, when I see patterns develop where I appear to be in conflicts with people. It’s usually a sign for me to take a break. This appears not to be one of those instances.

Thanks for the olive branch.

Dutchess_III's avatar

It was, actually, a maple seed I gave you, @SABOTEUR because we don’t have Olive trees in Kansas. But we have Maple seeds ALL OVER the place! You want more than one???? They’re way better than Olive Branches because they grow into actual, huge trees. See. I’ll send you some if you want them!

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