How long has it been since you last spent the night sleeping next to someone else?

Four or five weeks, for me. Honestly, I enjoy all-night cuddling more than sexual stuff anyway. No real reason why it’s been that long. That’s just how it is.

been three and a half years for me. I have full time custody of my kids, and not quite ready to have a woman wake up here in the morning.

11 months.

Do toddlers count?

Too long.

6 months. Spooning with someone is amazing. I haven’t found further opportunities, with people I like, since then.

A year. I’m a very cuddly-type person and I miss it. :\

Three years and counting.

So long that I can’t remember how long.

Getting darn close to 24 hours, must be bedtime!!!

Last Sunday

Way too long.

The Christmas holidays :-/

3 hours.

Last night, I was sleeping with my teddy bear if bears count..

Just four hours ago… looking forward to tonight…

Braggers~

Just 2 hours ago and I also look forward to being with her tonight. :)

About 20 minutes.

@Seelix Nice to see such an early riser.:) For me, 3 hours.

About 3 hours, but I won’t get to sleep next to my husband again until Saturday night now because he’s going away for an interview out of state.

@Seaofclouds GA, but it isn’t great. It must be tough to have him gone for so long, back for a little and then gone for a few nights.

Just think of all the men/women in the military that sacrifice their time and relationship when they get deployed. I give thanks to the members of the military and respect their dedication.

Yes @Summum , thanks for the reminder.

@Adirondackwannabe It sucks, but we do what we have to do. This is actually the second time he has gone away for a few days since he got back and he hasn’t even been back for 2 months yet. Every night apart is worth it though for the nights we get to have together. The longest we have ever had to be apart was the first 8.5 months of his deployment. If we can survive that, we can survive a few nights now. :)

It’s been just over a month. My boyfriend and I are long distance :(

About 10 months ago; my granddaughter sleeps with me when they visit.

Last Sunday.

Couple of hours.

Too. Damn. Long.

Do the kitties count? What about friends sleeping over and crashing in my bed? I love sleeping next to someone… but the kitties make good cuddlers sometimes too!

@wundayatta “my friend, a rather cantankerous character?” hmmm….who is your friend?

I will be next to someone in two more sleeps and we don’t on leaving the bed all that much.

Last September I slept beside a mere stranger. I was on a work road trip and slept with some chick I had started to get to know only about an hour beforehand. We slept in the same bed all 5 nights. I think I win in this thread.

hot

@Vunessuh I’ll only concede your victory if you two snuggled, cuddled, and or spooned.

What he said.

It would help if the random chick was as ludicrously attractive as @Vunessuh is as well.

@ladymia69 I could write a book about him, and would, had he not already written it himself. His stories are totally wild, and he’s had to do some things in life that most people would find very unsavory. In fact, most people do, and are afraid of him, especially women.

He’s a journalist, but he writes memoir and fiction, too. His work has taken him all over the world, and thrown him into some pretty amazing experiences. When he talks about people, he always describes them first, and he is the best person at describing people I have ever met. I’ll try to imitate his style in the next paragraph. I have learned a lot from him about description.

He’s medium height, but very gaunt. Almost no meat on his bones. His face is sculpted in sharp angles, with deep set, shadowed eyes, and a proboscis nearly the size of Mt. Ranier. His head is topped by full, richly bountiful hair that is combed over in an almost fifties style wave. He likes clothes and always dresses as stylishly as someone with no money and no home can. When I last saw him, he looked like he was about to head out to the cricket grounds.

I met him in my bipolar group, which means he’s supposed to be crazy. He’s made a lot of decisions, I would never make, but I can’t say he is living completely on the moon. He is the slickest guy I’ve ever seen. He thinks so fast and has such a deep knowledge of literature, plus he writes all these “lines,” and memorizes them. He can pull out the right quip faster than you can think “but…” So he is very entertaining.

But he is also a risk-taker. It’s in his genes. He just doesn’t give a shit, and on some level, doesn’t care if he dies. So he’s been in many situations where he could have lost his life, and he survived them.

Most people see only this wise-cracking, somewhat unsympathetic, arrogant person and can’t imagine that he has any kind feelings for other people. He never lets down his guard. Well, almost never.

He has incredible problems with his wife, who really is crazy but never admits it or does anything about it. She had him arrested for terroristic threats recently, and he was thrown in jail. He was in court a lot, and homeless for weeks after he got out of jail. I have never asked him about what happened in jail, because I know he lost some teeth. I don’t want to know any more.

Anyway, the DA was going to prosecute, but slowly, over the weeks, everyone came to realize that his soon to be ex wife was crazy, and by the time it got to court, the last cop who was going to testify, pulled out. The judge, who he had spoken arrogantly to over and over was quite disappointed. She wanted to bust his ass back to jail, but there was no one to testify against him. So, reluctantly, she mumbled that he was free to go.

You can see that he appears to be a very arrogant and unsavory character. Did I mention that he appears to be a misogynist, too? He always condescends to women more than anyone else, and he speaks of them in the most objectified ways. I’m not going to tell you his favorite joke.

You are probably wondering why I put up with him, or even like him. I’m smart enough that he enjoys my company (plus I buy him drinks). He tells good stories, which means I don’t have to talk much. I may write a lot, but it’s much harder for me to talk. I can do it, and I can perform, but I more of a responsive person than an initiator. That’s why Q&A is so good for me.

The main reason I like him is that I know him without knowing him. He is truly one of the more vulnerable and lost people I have ever met, and I have met so many lost people. You would never know this if you didn’t see him in the few moments when he lets his guard down. Also, he truly cares for me. He may tease me and beat on me all the time, but if he sees that I look or sound like I’m getting hurt, he always changes his tune. He calls me all the time. Even though I don’t call him back very much. And we share this experience with chemical imbalances in our minds.

And he is the man who longs for a night of spooning. He is always talking about sex and all these women he meets and chats up, but it really is talk, or so he says. But it is hardly a surprise that he wants a night to feel comfortable and not alone, given how hard and foreboding his exterior is. Well, it’s not a surprise to me, anyway.

There was no snuggling or spooning, but she’s slightly an Ashley Judd look-a-like with big knockers so I still think I win. :D

@Vunessuh I was trying to come up with a good response but I got nothing for that so I guess you win. :)

I thought I was hard up, but you guys getting excited about two girls sharing a bed platonically and not touching… I feel for you.

@MissAnthrope We used our imaginations.

Ain’t nothing wrong with picturing two attractive women sharing a bed. :)

@MissAnthrope Did you check out @Vunessuh‘s eyes in her avatar? If not do it. You’ll understand then.

Yes, I’ve seen @Vunessuh and she’s attractive. I’m sure her bed partner was, too. I just have a hard time getting excited about two girls platonically sharing a bed, particularly when it’s been made clear that nothing happened. Maybe this is because I’ve platonically shared a bed with girls at various times in my life and it was no big deal at all and not remotely sexual. Imagining it happening, well.. feel free, it just kind of strikes me as fooling oneself, I dunno.

I was just having fun. ;-)

Me too. That’s what the :)‘s meant.
Although I was hoping she coped a quick feel while the other woman was asleep. :)
Kidding.

Sorry. I get irked when people rave about beauty like it’s some sort of personal accomplishment.

@MissAnthrope I would hope you know me well enough to know I wouldn’t do that. And Fiddle and Jude as well

Hey, us ugly people need love, too. ~

and cranky, apparently hormonal people, too.

@MissAnthrope Here’s some love for everyone. And you’re not ugly.

@wundayatta Sorry I got your thread so far off track. Back to sleeping partners.

@MissAnthrope you’re adorable, girl. Don’t be talking crazy. :)

What she said.

Several years for me now.
I’m good, I have opted out of the dating scene the past few years.

I LOVE having the bed to myself, it would be very hard to adjust to sharing a bed with someone again, and this is from someone who was married for 21.5 years. lol

How DID I do it? It’s a blurry memory now. Like cooking all those family dinners…WTF?
I know I was there, but what DID I cook all those years?! haha

Don’t worry @Coloma, when we get married, I’ll do all the cooking ;-)

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard

It’s a deal!

Update. Last night.

@josie, brofist.