Why do you think some people are cliquey and/or judgmental?

I’m not going to sit here and say that I haven’t ever been guilty of this exact thing at times in my life, and my theory is only one explanation, but why do you think people tend towards being cliquey and/or judgmental towards others, especially in circumstances where they haven’t personally gotten to know someone and are relying only on hearsay?

Why in your own life have you been this way?

I think for me, the “rational” explanation when I look back is that I was judging another in order to feel accepted as part of the group. I don’t think this is right, but it happens. This question is stemming from me fighting with myself about how I shouldn’t care what other people think about me if they don’t bother to get to know me, but at the same time feeling down sometimes when I think I’m being treated unfairly or getting the short end of the stick.