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How many people have been or are in this situation, as described in this song?

Asked by john65pennington (29187points) March 3rd, 2011

England Dan and John Ford Coley’s song, “It’s Sad To Belong To Someone Else When The Right One Comes Along”. Have you ever been in this situation? Were you ever stuck in a relationship, when this occured? How did you handle it? Was this the reason for your divorce or breakup? Tell it like it is.

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whattodowhattodo's avatar

Ah – you should see the first question I ever asked here – it totally answers that question! It’s not only “sad” it’s heartbreaking, frustrating and gutwrenching! I am currently in THAT relationship, I am not handling it well because I don’t want to hurt anyone and I am fairly confident that yes, it will be the reason I end up divorced.

Summum's avatar

I went through this a number of years ago and to this day I’m hurt and there is a hole in my heart. I stayed with the woman I was married to and let the one I loved go. It still haunts me and to this day I still look for her car when I am out driving. This was many years ago and the pain is still present. I ended up divorced and found that she had married and had two children so I didn’t try to get in touch with her. I have since remarried.

Judi's avatar

Could have thought so if I didn’t have my head on straight.
My HS sweetheart, the “love of my life” came back 30 years later saying it was all a mistake when he left me.
He devastated me when he left. I was so invested in him. Somewhere in my heart, the candle had burned brighter than i dared to admit.
I was married now and happy.
I cried and cried. I cried tears that I thought had been cried out decades earlier.
Then, I looked at the man he had become. Although he was every bit as successful as I knew he would be, he was still discontent, and still surrounded by drama.
Then I looked at the amazing man I was married to. He was everything I had hoped my HS sweetheart would become and more.
He treats me like a queen, adores me, respects me, and makes my heart go pitter patter.
The whole experience was so healing. I realized that even though life had brought disappointment and didn’t always go according to plan, I was exactly where I was supposed to be, and with the one I was supposed to be with.

Summum's avatar

Great Answer Judi

john65pennington's avatar

Judi, wow, your destiny was right on target.

perspicacious's avatar

No, it didn’t happen to me. The important relationships in my life have all come into being at the perfect time.

Bellatrix's avatar

I have and at the time we both just avoided our feelings, didn’t discuss them but both knew we both knew the connection was there. Years later, we weren’t with the people we had been with then and we are now married and have been together for 10 years.

cak's avatar

@Judi – GA. Very good answer.

Brian1946's avatar

@Judi, Judi, Judi!

Was Cary Grant the one who realized his mistake 30 years too late? ;-)

Judi's avatar

@Brian1946;
Wow. I’ve NEVER heard that one before…~

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